I guess I would seek some kind of therapy, cbt is always a good bet. Some kind of anger management or learn new ways of dealing.

When you're failing at something, it makes you feel better to make other people feel lower than you. A quick but unsuccessful boost to your self-esteem. Sound right? You need to talk to someone about it.

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My husband is a bit like you and is trying to get as much help as possible and is improving. I think the thing is don't give up. You know you have a problem and its not going to go away unless you bravely face it, head on. Try to get to the bottom of what hurts you inside and why you feel this terrible feelings. Try your doctor and say you need some anger course or other, say its making you depressed and maybe he can refer you to someone. You want a happy life with people around you that love you. Don't give up, try and find a solution. You are a good guy, just writing for help proves that. Treat it like an illness that you have to find the cure for and look everywhere, try going to church, surround yourself with good people. Keep away from any bad influences. Do not drink (my husband gave up 8 years ago and his anger has subsided considerably). He had a really bad childhood and lost his mum at 10. But these are no excuses for how he acts today and he knows that and that is why he is changing all the time. Good luck and please don't give up and the next time you feel angry just walk away, turn away and go somewhere nice and relaxing and then pat yourself on the back because you managed to do that. It will take time but if you want it to change it will. Take care.