I am a 42 yr old male, single father of 2 young girls, 11 and 13. Since like the 9th grade, I have had an obvious attraction to the female foot. I have pretty much kept my attraction, or fetish, to myself, as many would find this a bit strange.

I was married for over 12 years to the mother of my children. She was very much on the straight and narrow and would of considered a foot fetish something very, very screwed up.

4 years ago, I left my marriage and became a single father for my 2 girls and they are my life. For the past 3 1/2 years, I have had a girl friend who is VERY much open sexually and although she found my fetish very different, she had no issues sharing it. She is a very sexy lady too. We had one of these " love/ hate" relationships and split a few times over many issues. During one of what I called our " mini splits", I went on a foot fetish forum site. A site where guys send stories, pictures and links to anything to do with the female foot ( legal disclaimers of over 18 too) My girlfriend actually new about that site years before, just hated me on it and said there was no need for it, as obviously I get all I need at home, right?

One of the submissions from that site talked about another forum site to look at, called " studentfeet.com". Since I didn't want to type it in my address bar, I googled it. It had pictures, postings and pretty much everything the other site had. My problem here is that one day recently my gf looked at my google searches and seen the website.

The next was a freak show. She stormed to my ex-wife, went to the police and made a report and now after the dust cleared (there was no illegal underage conduct), I lost a relationship out of the ordeal and I'm devastated. She claimed that when she looked on that site, it had girls on it (showing their feet) and they were basically my oldest daughters age. She, by the way, also has 3 teenage girls herself.

My question here is, even though I have NEVER looked at my girls feet,any of their friends or any child in a sexual way, is my fetish dangerous in the future. Is the sexual side of my admiration or fetish that my gf shared with me,a threat in some way? I lost a relationship over this and now my family and my ex-wife also must wonder about what this is all about. Do I need some real therapy here? My gf, or apparently now my ex, considers me a quote " closet child pervert".

Any suggestions would be appreciated here, especially a woman's perspective.