Laura I responded to this in the mens section under your reply to my post there... Hugs

Not that it's important or anything, but I don't know how either! Not that I need to know or anything, but I don't really understand about how to go about it. Any suggestions?

Well, I think the best of it comes from using something to put inside you where you can move it in and out and give yourself some clitoral stimulation as well. You need absolutely to use something soft. Don't use anything with a jagged edge, but think penis. It has to be long enough and use one hand to manuever that while the other works at your clitoral area. That's me...Wow, I am a little embarassed

You should know where your husband feels best inside of you. Use either your finger or buy a toy to hit that same spot. To get the hang of it, lay on your back and have your husband in front of you on his knees. Hold his penis in your hand and move it around; in circles and in and out, to find out where you like it. Keep moving him until you have an "o". Then it will not be so difficult for you to know just what spot to touch. Has he tried anything to help him like vigra? Would he? I know that some men are embarrassed and others cannot because of health issues. Another suggestion so that he doesn't feel left out is to let him use the toy on you. That will end up stimulating him too, and you both will enjoy this weird bonding feeling. Its reallly great!!

The best way, that I have found works for me is actually in the shower or bath tub! It sounds strange at first, but i've found that a lot of women have tried this and do it regularly. It is a cheap way, rather than buying expensive toys (which can also be fun) this way, you can learn in a private place, how to stimulate yourself! Just lay back and let the water run, whether it be the shower head or the bath tub head!
Good luck!!
Sara

Sarah-dont worry your not the only one. I also think the shower head is very stimulating. You can also use your own fingers if you need too, or you may want to buy a dildo or vibrator. They work wonders.

Hey hun my name is jamie and I am man. Never new how to do anything down there till I met one of my former lovers my teacher as I refer to her. Well she tought me how to please a women down there with my tounge and fingers. The only thing I can recomnd is have you husband sit up with pillows behind him and you sit infront of him with you back to his chest. Have him play with you down there and place your hand on top of his and close you eyes and try to feel what his hand are doing with your hands and how it feels to you else where. I did this with one of my x girlfreinds because she did not know how after wich she loved playing with her self and could orgasm every time I hope this helps. Jamie

I've noticed that some shower heads have the fast masaging choice. Use that one and lay in the bath and use in instead of the penis. I have tryed it myself and it is very pleasureable.