Someone who is there for me, understand me & support me, to have the same goals in life, striving to reach our highest potential. Someone, who we can look at & with out saying a word, have a communication going. A ceratin smile, look or body movement from across the room. Someone who equaly loves me as I love him.

Oh wait, I already have him. Never mind

Honesty, Integrity, Compassion, and being able to laugh. I think this will get you through most bumps in the road.

honesty, compassion,a desire to listen and understand, flexibility, humor, a lot of the same things sllyakchick said....and also a love of animals

Everything Sillyakchick said, plus good self esteem.

yeah, and good hygiene..

Intelligent, Not afraid to debate with me about anything, Funny, Has passions (I find men with a real passion for something to be very sexy), Has aspirations, loves to travel, is clean and has a real sense of style (no matter what it is).

I just want to add, a good communicator. It's so important. Someone who won't talk about their feelings can be a nightmare to deal with. That whole passive-aggressive thing just doesn't work - ie, making someone guess what you want. Just spit it out!!!

And, someone who doesn't always have to be right all the time. Someone who can say "I'm sorry" and is mature enough to own their part in conflicts. Someone who has the ability to look at you and see you are hurting and put aside their pride for a minute and say something kind or caring.

These are the kinds of things that make relationships last.

confirms in my heart that you truly have found love. Love has found you.

Bobbie

Sense of humor is a biggie for me - the guy has to be able to have a good laugh. I also wouldn't want someone who is always serious; my philosophy is to be serious when the occasion calls for it, and to try and have fun with everything else. I need someone whose not afraid to be silly or have fun.

Communication and honesty are also important. My ideal guy needs to be able to tell me what's bothering him, and I need him to be able to listen when I have somethig on my mind or listen to any other concerns (finances, marriage, etc.). And...he can't smoke, drink excessively or do drugs. All three are major turn-offs to me. Definitely has to like animals - my furbabies and I come as a package. And at least one shared interest is good. The last one, and it's quite big...it's a no-go if the guy wants kids. If he's the kind of guy who would be okay with kids and okay without, then I could probably work with that...but one who has his heart definitely set on spawning? No win.

Another thing...he can't be one of those ignorant guys who thinks that all women want to be treated to exensive fancy dinners and gaudy diamond jewelry - basically, he can't be of the mindset that women can be bought. No - my ideal date is staying home, playing video games over pizza and watching movies over hot chocolate. I don't like receiving gifts, and certainly not ones that cost hundreds of dollars. I'm more into old-fashioned romantics - guys who will stand outside your window playing 80s love songs out of a boom box and who will write you love poems, and give little gifts as signs of their love.

Picky? Yeah, I am. But my DBF meets most of my tastes (he couldn't do the boom box thing because my mom probably would have gone outside with the shotgun and told him off)...and, at the risk of sounding like a sappy teenager, I still feel as giddy around him now as I did when we first began dating - and it's been about three years. I love that man.

Right now I want a guy who is self sufficient and stable, successful in a career where there's room for advancement. Confident, kind, sense of humor, and into the same things I am, such as sci-fi, anime, gaming, etc. He needs to be able to take charge and take the initiative; to be spontaneous and say "We are going to this park! I don't know where it is but we'll find it! It's an adventure!" and drag me off my butt and go do things!!

Someone you can absolutely trust with everything.

Now that I have that, I leaned alot about myself. It's been a profound journey.

Not a 'cookie cutter' kind of person. Unique. Someone always trying to learn. A creative and talented person.

Someone who could've done anything they wanted with their life, and is doing what they love.

Someone with great depths of feeling.

(It's a good thing I found him!)

I need someone who is open and honest; bathes regularly (big plus here) good hygene included, knows how to talk and discuss difference without getting angry, wants to walk beside me as equals.
A good and caring heart is necessary; far outdoes physical appearence in my book.
An abosolute requirement is that he MUST have a decent job!! Been down the other road and don't like it.

for me he must be matured, smart, have respect for me and my folks, he must be presentable, he must love me to bits and worship the groung I walk on....he must be ambitious and ooops !!! almost forgot!!! he must be hiv positive

and talked to my friends who said I need to just throw that list out. No. God brought me each and every thing I had on that list except for one. I just didn't think hard enough. Next time I will. If I ever decide to make that decision again.

Most of all, I look for a woman with intelligence and a mind of her own. I believe smart women are very sexy.

I also look for someone with a sense of humor, someone who can laugh at things, even when they are not positive. I want honesty, because trust is very important in a relationship.

Communication will always be the cornerstone of any relationship and I look for someone I can tell my deepest secrets to. I look for a true partner in life.

Lucky for me, I married the woman for me 32 years ago.

Good communicator. Financially responsible. Compassionate. Religious.

Responsibile for holding up his side of the bargain. No matter what it is. It would be so great to have someone in my life of my own faith. My brother tells me to keep praying that God will send someone to share my life with. I am doing that.

As I travel along the way, I am always meeting people who make my life richer in just knowing them. Like all of you.

The amazing thing about this Forum is the genuine goodness of people and the ability to communicate.