No, it is not a crazy idea. You have to think about the quality of life of the child you already have.

no. its not crazy at all

No it isn't crazy. You have choices at this point. It would be a good idea to make an appointment to discuss what those options are with someone.

Good luck!!

It's not crazy. If you think that is the best option for you then do it. But consider all the options before doing anything you might regret.

It's not crazy if you can make that choice. I was in the same situation you are (5 months old and preggers again), and abortion was not a choice I was willing to make. If you feel you can accept that decision, then you should seriously consider it.

Just a question, but how old are you? And what's your current financial system like? If you think you would really regret aborting, then you need to decide if you can support another child and if your anxiousness is just because you're overwhelmed right now. Abortion is your own choice, and it's certainly not crazy and may be the best option for you. Don't jump into things either way.

It is your personal choice, what route you take. What would be best for you, for your SO, for your child, for your life. Can you financially/emotionally/physcially/mentall y handle another child?

I am really sorry you are in such a predicament. One infant is tough to take care of, two is nearly impossible for a lot of people, much less someone who is young.

You aren't crazy for considering it at all. Had I been in your situation, I would have chosen the same thing.

I'm 19 and my bf and I have our own place and he has a good job. He really wants to keep the baby and won't really have it any other way. I guess my main reason for not wanting another baby right now is partly selfish because I was just about to go back to school and having another baby would be 10 times as hard plus taking care of two babies is really hard in itself. But I dont think Im gonna end up having an abortion because after having a baby already its hard to not picture them here. so I guess I have to put my life on hold again.

Sorry, but what do you mean he won't have it "any other way"? Not that I don't think you should take his opinion into consideration, but it's still your choice. Are you working? If not, is his salary good enough to support 4 people? I'm sure by now you know how much one child costs, and adding another one isn't going to lessen the load. How do you plan on paying for your schooling? Do you have any support from either of your parents? Are you the one staying home to look after your baby? Is it in your best interest to add another child to your family? Will they both suffer because of financial problems?

If I were in your position, I would find the idea of having another baby completely overwhelming. You don't have to put your life on hold, and I think you would be better off getting your education and then having another child. If you're completely set against abortion, how about adoption?

In response to Reptar I know that I should take my bfs opinion into consideration but that its ultimately my decision if I want to have an abortion or not but I just feel really bad since he is completely against it. I am not working right now because I stay home and take care of the baby while my bf goes to work. He makes enough to support all of us. we dont really have our parents to support us but thats okay I guess.

Financially were doing fine its just that like you said Im overwhelmed and I feel like having 2 babies at 20, I cant really do all the things my friends are doing at my age. But I should have been more responsible I know that.

What would happen to you and two children if your bf decides to leave one day, and you don't have an education? How will you be able to get a job that pays enough for two daycare bills, without finishing your education?

I would ask your bf if he's thought about these things. Even though many marriages end in divorce, twice as many couples like you and your bf break up than married couples. If you are going to take a such a big risk as to delay your education yet again, your bf better do something to give you and your child(children) more security, i.e. like marriage, if he is going to pressure you into having another child.

This is exactly what I wanted to get at. I just didn't want you to feel like I was jumping down your throat Soon2B2. How long have you and your bf been together? If you guys are ready to settle down (and seems like you are considering you've started a family together ) maybe marriage is a good step for both of you. Because as of right now, if he leaves, you're out of luck. Also, what kind of job does he has? I'm really just curious about this because even some adults can't afford a family of 4. Is he 19 as well? Since he has a job I'm guessing you're the one who's taking care of your baby all day right? If the idea of having another little one is really stressing you out, try explaining this to him. It's hard work being a mom, especially so young. Plus, you do need to get an education, so you can be able to raise your children without him, even if he doesn't leave, something could happen to him and then you can't even get child support.

Like I said, there is always adoption. That's a route you can choose to take. And just so you know, abortion may be the responsible thing for you both, for the sake of your baby and your family. May I ask why you weren't on birth control? Condoms can be free, and most websites will tell you that you can get pregnant from pre-cum.

What about adoption? many couples out there long to have a baby but cant. What are you going to study at school?

Echoing Reptar, you are in a precarious situation. If you and your bf were both done with your educations, both had your careers going, and were married, then you would be in a better position to handle two infants. However, since this is not even close to being the case, you are risking the financial and emotional futures of ALL OF YOU, especially your 5 month old, and I know you realize this.

If you feel the risk is too great, communicate this to your bf.

do you have the support of anyone other than you boyfriend?>

I don't know if anyone still reads this post or not cuz its been almost a year since I first posted it, but just letting u all know that I ended up having he baby and he's a beautiful little 4 month old boy now. We are all doing just fine now. Thanks for all your support!

Oh and no my bf is not 19 he's actually 29. Yeah I know 9 year age difference. But ya were financially pretty good but I still havent gone back to school yet but Im planning on going to a 9 month school for pharmacy tech pretty soon and my bf still wont marry me cuz well he's just being a poop, but were still together and were ok. And my bf works construction and he earns more than my mom does and shes an RN so thats the reason I havent really been that worried about the cost of two infants.

Well thanks again for your support if you still read this just wanted to keep u posted!

Im glad all is going well for you. I hope it continues to go well. Best of luck!