hey i remember reading your post. it sounded like everything was gonna go ok. but from what your saying it seems like hes the type of guy that yea he'll be there financially and emotionally for you (because you guys are JUST friends) but he feels that he has the right to make his own life with other people.


your getting attached to him because you thought that he would magically fall for you and suddenly turn into mr.mom just because you ended up prego. when its between friends and that happens it rarely turns into anything more.

if i were in your situation, and mind you this is my own opinion i would have the baby, but i would end the friendship with him. cut off all contact, go to court and gain full custody of the child and give it my last name. shoot if i had to move i would. if you stuck around it would only get worst emotionally for you and your kid.

obviously and im not taking the guys side, he has the right to date other people just like you have that right as well. because you were just friends hun. im sorry your goin through this but its better to face the reality straight on than to try to change someone

oh yea, you should deffinately get child support from him. i wouldnt do the whole visitation rights thing cause it would be better off not seeing him or interacting with him.

She can't do that (As far as I know) if the man or boy pays child support he has a right to see the child unless for some reason the judge says he may not. If he doesn't pay, he doesn't see the kid.

That is not right...not right at all...

He should be there for you all the way. This child is just as much his responsibility as it is yours...

Sorry, I know you still care for him but really...it just aint right...what a Jerk.

I may have missed something coz i thought he was happy about the baby and it just seems that he just doesnt think of you in the way that you think of him although it might do some good if you actually talk about your friendship and where he thinks its going.....

Im not sure why the above post thinks hes a jerk and stuff - Im sure if he knew how you felt he wouldnt flaunt his gf and even if he doesnt feel the same way it might be best to lead separate lives (apart from sharing the child of course). Unless you feel you could handle a friendship where he does see people - which im sure you would be fine with if you didnt have a thing for him so in his eyes hes not doing any wrong.

So yeah just try talking to him and it may turn out that he does have feelings for you - goodluck!

Oh and I dont agree with previous posters (unless i have missed something) that you should make your baby have no father and just expect him to pay child support just cause he has a gf - if he wants to be ahealthy influence and father to your baby then let him (and im sure you'd understand as im sure youd give anything to give your first son his father back)

i meant if she can raise the baby on her own(cause the guy is showing hes a jerk and wants nothing to do with both of them) then she should. of cours if he wants to be there for her and the kid he has all the right to do so. just like if he doesnt want to be there he should atleast pay child support, he cant get off scott free. i agree with melissa that if he doesnt pay and wants nothing to do with her and the baby then he cant see them.