3 failed relationship and anxious Posted: 02-11-08 12:40pm
Im 22 years old... when i was 13, my mom
left our home, leavin my father, my sister
and me all alone, and went to live to
another state because she was tired of all
the things happenin at our home at the
moment. She always kept in contact with me
and my syster, but i was not the same
anymore.. i never looked for professional
help, all these years.. since then i ve
had many meaningless relationships till i
met someone that i fell in love.. we had a
4 year relationship... till she cheated on
me and left me... i had a break down.. but
still was convinced that i could take all
of that and continue livin peacefully once
again i did not look for help... then
like 8 months after we broke, i met
started a relationship with a friend of
mine, but it also failed.. so i come to
you.. finally asking for help.. its there
somethin wrong with me.. the 3 most
important women that ive ever loved.. left
me without even thinkin how i was going to
feel.. what can i do? know am afraid to
even meet new girls... i decided to give
me a long time alone. but sometimes i get
really depressed and anxious...
please help me
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mominashoe
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Posted: 02-11-08 20:08pm
Don't blame yourself for the actions of
others. You are not responsible for your
mother leaving you at a young age. That
was irresponsible on her part...but
understandable at the same time because
being a mother, no matter how good the
kids are, is the hardest job in the world.
I don't give an excuse for her, just want
to show you that people can be weak and
give in to what they themselves want more
than what is their duty.
People do not value things the way they
used to. People are no longer in for the
long run and are afraid to commit. Look
at the divorce rate in this country!
People are always looking for something
new and better and are never satisfied
with what they have. I speak in a general
manner and don't wish to stereotype or
accuse any particular person.
There is nothing wrong with you or what
you are doing as far as I can tell
(because I don't know you personally I
can't do more than give you some advice
which tends to be more objective than
personal). You are only 22, and this is
still a young age. You have only been
with 2 different girls, and this is a very
small number! Some people must date many
different girls before they find the right
one. I have a cousin who is in the same
situation as you: he went out with one
girl for a while and it failed, another he
was engaged to and it failed. He now
thinks he should just remain a bachelor
for the rest of his life. He is the same
age as you.
Both of you should be glad that the one
who wasn't the right one for you is now
out of your life and you can move on,
closer to the one who is!
It might be that you expect too much of
the people whom you are dating, I don't
know. But be sure that there are plenty
of others out there to date, and the right
one is going to be there when the time is
right. Don't be too depressed about it:
it's a normal part of dating. It's hard
saying goodbye to one and not knowing
whether the one you choose next is going
to be around for a while or you are going
to have to say goodbye to that person too.
That's the dating life.... you will get
lucky sometime, so chin up.
