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attraction to porn Posted: 02-09-08 20:38pm
My ex-husband & I were into porn. I can
take it or leave it now.
A while back I found my husband's been
porning it online. It's the type that
upsets me.
I feel like I'm being hypocritical.
What do you all have to say? What makes
people attracted to one kind of porn or
another? Anyone know??
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Chantal L
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Posted: 02-14-08 18:51pm
Its purely visual I think. Some people
find that the worst things will turn them
on. I dont mind porn, but there are
certain types that would upset me too. but
I guess a guy would be better to respond
to a question like this, since they are so
different from us
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Pickles05
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Posted: 02-15-08 11:29am
I agree with Chantal. I also don't mind
porn, but can do without it. What do you
mean, it's the kind that upsets you. What
is upseting about it?
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Pickles05
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Posted: 02-15-08 11:44am
I agree with Chantal. I also don't mind
porn, but can do without it. What do you
mean, it's the kind that upsets you. What
is upseting about it?
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bakin_april
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Posted: 02-15-08 12:16pm
I just don't know how to say it. But in
case you were thinking of the
particiipants, they were adults. It
wasn't child porn, I'd have kicked him
out.
I'm so embarrassed now . . .
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bbfeet9
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Posted: 02-15-08 16:00pm
Oh brother, my husband too!!! He likes
asian chicks. 18 or better. I get
mad...alot. But, it happens so often that
i just blow it off. We used to fight,
fight, fight about it, all the time. I
guess i don't care any more. I can
honestly say that it has disrupted our sex
life. I am not a prude. I am very sexual.
I just have a hard time with him looking
at this. I know it's just a fantasy, i
know it means nothing....but, it still
bothers me. He is also WAY big into
bondage, S&M, i really don't care for
that to much. I will because he likes it.
It isn't really hard core, it's relatively
soft bondage, but notheless. Any way, me
thinks me spoke to much. Oh well.
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Tylanas
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Re: attraction to porn Posted: 02-15-08 21:34pm
bakin_april
wrote:
My ex-husband & I were
into porn. I can take it or leave it now.
A while back I found my husband's been
porning it online. It's the type that
upsets me.
I feel like I'm being hypocritical.
What do you all have to say? What makes
people attracted to one kind of porn or
another? Anyone know??
Different people are turned on by
different things. I'm into gay asian porn
and yaoi (drawn cartoon gay porn lol). I
can read / look at that stuff and get
turned on, but put on some real USA brand
porn and I start laughing hysterically!!
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n2r7moopad
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Posted: 02-18-08 10:17am
is his watching porn effecting you and him
having sex?
My DH wo9uld watch porn so much that when
it came to us doing it, he would not be
interested. He will look at porn or mags
instead of looking at a real live naked
and willing woman who is lying right next
to him....this i see as a problem.
It does hurt however you have to realize
it is not the woman he is looking at more
like the acts....all visual like the other
posters pointed out.
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fiona05
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Posted: 02-18-08 11:05am
bakin_april
wrote:
I just don't know how to say
it. But in case you were thinking of the
particiipants, they were adults. It
wasn't child porn, I'd have kicked him
out.
I'm so embarrassed now . . .
you can say it here, noone is going to
think less of you! it's hard to offer
advice when i don't know what sort of porn
you are talking about. don't feel afraid
to say it.
but me personally, when i look at porn
(which isn't very often, i just take a
notion sometimes!) i only get turned on by
watching the people in the video having
sex - i would never watch porn to get off
on the fantasy of being with a different
guy, cos i simply have no desire to be
with anyone else except my boyfriend.
i don't like horrible polished sex videos
either. the sort where all the girls look
like pamela anderson, fake tits, too much
makeup and they all fake their orgasms
etc. i like amateur sex videos and home
videos that actually look realistic!
i don't mind my boyfriend watching porn
but what would hurt me was if he
continually watched videos where the girl
looked nothing like me! ie, i am a short,
voluptuous brunette. if he was always
watching videos with tall, skinny blondes
i would get upset.
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bakin_april
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Posted: 02-18-08 11:49am
n2r7moopad
wrote:
is his watching porn
effecting you and him having sex?
My DH wo9uld watch porn so much that when
it came to us doing it, he would not be
interested. He will look at porn or mags
instead of looking at a real live naked
and willing woman who is lying right next
to him....this i see as a problem.
It does hurt however you have to realize
it is not the woman he is looking at more
like the acts....all visual like the other
posters pointed
out.
No it doesn't affect our sex life.
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Galaxy
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Posted: 02-18-08 11:54am
Well, I thought I was broad-minded until I
noticed on my boyfriend's pc that he had
bookmarked - and visited every night -
porn sites with bestiality and women being
'raped' by machines! Now THAT is
unacceptable to me, as it diminishes the
woman's essential being, and the animal's
too, for that matter. We split up
immediately as I could not bear to have
him near me and he objected to my having
looked at his stuff, which he had made no
effort to conceal because he didn't find
anything wrong with it (contradiction
there!) But this is surely porn of
another calibre, or am I old-fashioned?
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Tylanas
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Posted: 02-18-08 12:16pm
Bestiality is a no. Definitely bad and
illegal!
Sex machines, maybe. lol. It is legal at
least.
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Galaxy
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Posted: 02-18-08 12:33pm
Erm .. you didn't see the machine to which
I refer!
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Tylanas
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Posted: 02-19-08 00:54am
I've seen some rather large ones. And it's
still legal.
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ladyT02
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Posted: 02-19-08 03:02am
I.ve wanted to watch open with my
boyfriend but he says he doesn't like it
lol is that weird on not? I like anime
porn actually. Maybe I can get him to
watch that.
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MRChuck
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Pantyhose Posted: 02-19-08 17:05pm
Love women in pantyhose. Used to ask my
wife to wear them for me during sex. i
would tie her up and then tear a whole in
the crotch and make love to her that way.
Would love to find another woman that
would allow me to do that. We never had
to watvh porn we did our own
