Joined: 22 Jun 2007 Posts: 960 Location: , England
Money Issues as a young Parent Posted: 02-09-08 09:30am
If you're pregnant or planning on becoming
pregnant, how do you plan on supporting a
baby financially as a teenager/young mum?
If you already had a baby as a teenager,
how do you/did you support him/her
financially being so young?
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kaiteo
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Posted: 02-09-08 09:34am
This could get ugly.
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Mommy35
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Joined: 23 Sep 2006 Posts: 3165 Location: Vacationland, USA,
Posted: 02-09-08 09:50am
kaiteo
wrote:
This could get
ugly.
I agree!!
I had my daughter when I was 18. I worked
full-time and many times went without
things that I wanted so my daughter had
everything she needed. Her father was not
around and didn't pay a dime of support
and taking the welfare route wasn't what I
wanted, so I did it on my own.
I had my parents to fall back on, but my
having a child when I wasn't financially
stable wasn't my parents problem, so I
didn't depend on them. Anytime I did
borrow money I paid it back as soon as I
could.
We struggled and there were times that I
honestly didn't think we would make it,
but we did and I feel that I am a much
stronger person for it. My daughter who
is now almost 18 has a great respect for
money and doesn't spend frivilously. She
knows how hard it was and she has friends
who have babies. I don't think she would
make that choice for herself.
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kaiteo
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Joined: 03 Oct 2007 Posts: 1578 Location: Cold, Maine
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Posted: 02-09-08 09:59am
Mommy35
wrote:
kaiteo
wrote:
This could get
ugly.
I agree!!
I had my daughter when I was 18. I worked
full-time and many times went without
things that I wanted so my daughter had
everything she needed. Her father was not
around and didn't pay a dime of support
and taking the welfare route wasn't what I
wanted, so I did it on my own.
I had my parents to fall back on, but my
having a child when I wasn't financially
stable wasn't my parents problem, so I
didn't depend on them. Anytime I did
borrow money I paid it back as soon as I
could.
We struggled and there were times that I
honestly didn't think we would make it,
but we did and I feel that I am a much
stronger person for it. My daughter who
is now almost 18 has a great respect for
money and doesn't spend frivilously. She
knows how hard it was and she has friends
who have babies. I don't think she would
make that choice for
herself.
Wow. What an amazing woman you are.
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rosejackson
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Joined: 23 Dec 2005 Posts: 4351 Location: hertfordshire, england
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Posted: 02-09-08 13:59pm
i didn't plan on getting pregnant at
sixteen, but i was fortunate enough to
have family around to help. as soon as i
was pregnant, bobby went out and got a
full time job. i was already working, so i
had money coming in.
we've had problems in the past with money
and at the moment we are struggling, but i
know we can get through this like we've
done before. william's never gone without.
he doesnt have the best toys and clothes,
but hes had everything he needs.
at the moment, i pay rent, i pay poll tax,
electricty and water supplies, so i'm not
using the government to get by. it is
hard, but we're managing
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arcadia
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Posted: 02-09-08 14:05pm
I worked throughout my pregnancy, &
Chris has always had a full-time job. I
had my own place (when I was still with
Gabe's dad), but when he moved out, I
tried to do it on my own, but I just
couldn't afford it, & I got evicted. I
live at my parents' house, now. I have a
job, & I'm looking for a 2nd job. I'm
not getting any child support, yet. Still
waiting on that one. I don't have money
for gas, food for myself, clothes for
myself, nothing. I am lucky that my
parents are letting me stay here until I
have a more steady income & get on my
own feet again. It's really not easy. Even
though I don't pay rent- I still
struggle with money, it's really rough.
Especially when you're doing it on your
own. I have my family- but Gabe is not
their son, & I rarely ask them for
anything.
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jenniek
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Joined: 21 Sep 2005 Posts: 692 Location: Salina
Posted: 02-09-08 14:48pm
Well I have worked since I was about 14
and always saved my money pretty good so I
had quite a bit in savings. I also got a
new job shortly after brayden was born and
its quite good for only being part time.
Bac also works part time while going to
school full time. With both of our jobs we
have never had a problem getting by. We
do have WIC which has helped but then
again if it wasn't there it wouldn't have
hurt us to bad either. Right after
brayden was born I didn't want to us all
of my savings at once to pay the medical
bills so I set up payments plans with the
dr/hospital so that as my paycheck came in
I could pay a portion of my bills, put
some in savings, and pay for all the other
little things we really needed. My mom
watches brayden about 50% of the time
(because she wants to!) and he goes to a
great day care the other 50% so that cuts
cost on baby sitting but we plan on
putting him in daycare full time within
the next year.
Edited to add.. Also when I needed to get
things like a babyswing, bouncer, crib
etc...I asked for them for my birthday and
christmas presents instead of other
things. I've always prefered getting
practical gifts anyways-better then an
ugly sweater I'd never wear!
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young Girl
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Joined: 21 Jun 2007 Posts: 13932 Location: everythings better in, texas USA
Posted: 02-09-08 15:04pm
this was also posted in teen pregnancy and
i already posted there so....
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Ayrshire-lass
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Joined: 29 Dec 2007 Posts: 656 Location: Ayrshire, Scotland
Posted: 02-10-08 18:52pm
hmmm well... i had a job that i loved but
i worked around 36 hours with them plus i
had a job at the weekends which was more
like a hobbie to me but i got payd for it
and it was over two nights soo technicly i
did 48 hours with them lol but its
something i always did and it didnt feel
like i was doing around 84 hours a week
lol.
i didnt get much money for it but i was
young and i didnt need much. scott had
joind the army and when i found out that i
was preg we realized that with my income
and his income we were doing great. we
bought lots of stuff for the baby and was
soo excited. when he went out to Iraq i
was like spend spend spend. and i was
still working.
when i got told the bad news at 7 months
it wasnt hitting me untill one day i
was around 8 months preg. i realized he
wasnt coming home from iraq. and i just
broke down.
i had to do it all by myself and to be
honest everyone was there for me and to
this very day i dnt think anyone would of
let me go anywhere by mysel.
i still stay at home and pay diggs to my
mum but i will need to find a place soon.
my sister moved out not long ago and baby
scott moved into his own room but now as i
have anuther cuming i need more space lol
xxxxx
untill one day i
was around 8 months preg. i realized he
wasnt coming home from iraq. and i just
broke down.
