|My daughter is in the same boat. She took off last summer for over a week leaving her 4 kids (including a newborn). The fact that she left the new baby made us all think she was dead. It was horrendous. I feel for you so much. Having a child in this position is a nightmare.
I live in a different state than my daughter so it's not possible for me to enable her with material items or free babysitting or bail her out of trouble. I never send her money. I do buy her phone minutes, but I think that way she'd have the means to call 911 if she needed to. Also, living apart saves me the heartache of being pulled into her games. I'd probably enable her in any way she asked in order to feel that she needed me. That would be disaster for all concerned.
My daughter works & her boyfriend stays home with the kids. He's clean & the grandkids are very happy, so I know they're well taken care of. I'm concerned about your grandson. He's old enough to know something's going on even if he doesn't know what it is. Having an addicted parent is tough on a kid. There's a lot of baggage that goes with it. I don't know if you can be involved in his life, but you'd be a fantastic role model for him just by keeping in contact & showing an interest in what he does & loving him unconditionally.
Keep trying to communicate with your daughter. Mine won't discuss her issues at all. I wish she felt like she could. However, I keep calling & letting her know I care & I love her regardless of what she does. What she does isn't who she is. She's my daughter, no matter what. I love her, no matter what.
AlAnon helps loved ones of alcoholics. I don't know if there's such a program with Narcotics Anonymous. Does anyone know? If there isn't, I'd still check out AlAnon meetings because the principles are basically the same. It could give you some good insight into what's going on & empower you with the tools you need to deal with issues you may face.
Don't give up! There's always hope! There are alot of mothers like us out there. Women are naturally strong & we can help each other out if we try. Who would know what another mom in our position would need better than one who is already there??
| Now today she is a full blown addict. She has a little boy, my grandson. He is as smart as a whip, just like his mom was at that age. He is safe and healthy, and his other grandparents make sure he knows nothing. My daughter and grandson live with them, as we live to far out in the country for her. The family does not want to hear about it anymore. Every time i try to talk to one of them they just roll their eyes and move on to the next topic, which has nothing to do with her. I checked out some support groups for me, i feel like i'm loosing touch. I wish God would shine down on her and give her the strength to look to get better. I can't anymore. Everything under the sun was put out on the table, she bucked everyone of them. We tried intervention, she figured out what was going on and took off. That was a waste of time for sure.
|Please keep me in your prayers along with my daughter.|
|I have a beautiful 26 year old daughter, she is 1 of 5. She has a son, Cody, who is 7. Since she was 14 years old, she has a had a drug problem. Started out with pot, then on to everything else you could possibly imagine. She has been arrested for robbery, driving with no licence, possession, kicking the window out of a police car, hit and run...the list goes on. She steals things out of the house to sell for drug money. She took her sons Christmas gifts, her son's grammas wedding rings, DVD's...etc. Of course denying all of this. I would be here all day if i explined evrything that has happened. Long story short. I managed to get her into a de-tox program (3days, whoopie) She wasn't out 3 hours and she was running for the drug house. She shoots heroin, smokes cocaine, no longer doing pot (big deal) She was addicted to painkillers, as one of her boyfriends was a pharmacist who could get his nasty little mits on anything he wanted. Now that he has lost his licence to practice anywhere in the Western Hemisphere, she has turned to street drugs. I (we) have tried and tried and tried to help her. I got her into a re-hab in our city, she went twice. I am afraid to go to bed at night not knowing if the phone will ring with bad news. I am petrified that my daughter will die. I have told her that but it goes right over her head. She cares about nothing other that where and when she will get her next fix. My niece died 1 year ago from an overdose of heroin. She went to a drug house and someone shot her up. She passed out and everyone else went to sleep. During the night everyone left exept her and the man who put the needle into her arm. In the morning he woke up to find her dead. He scooped her dead body up, put her into the backseat of her car and drove her to an apartment complex on the other side of town. He the put a loaded needle into her hand to make it look like she did this to herself. He took off. 3 days of searching for her, fliers were post everywhere. They finally found her as someone questioned why this car had been sitting there for 3 days without moving. Her dead 23 year beautiful body laid in the backseat of her car in 90 degree weather for 3 days. They got him on camera. He gets a whopping 2 years.
I am at the end of my rope. I am emotional wreck. She is mad at me and won't speak to me because she claims that i to much into her business. I will be in her business as much as possible. Now she claims that she takes methadone because she doesn't want to do the other stuff. That is a lie as she got mad at a friend of ours because she couldn't get her any coke, this was just last weekend. When she does take the meth, she buys them off the street, this is just so she won't get sick when she doesn't have enough money to buy the stuff she really wants. OMG, i don't know. I can't cry any more, i can't beg her to get help anymore, i can't spend hours on the phone trying to set her up with someone when she won't go anyway. What do i do, wait for her to die???? I try all the time. She goes into the worst of neighborhoods. She is all of 5 ft. 100 pounds, long blond hair and a beautiful smile. She is a sitting duck. I have heard that she does some nasty things to get money. I have heard that she will give oral sex to complet strangers to get some money. There are so many bad things that she could catch. I am desperate. I was even going to go as far as Oprah Winfrey or Dog the Bounty Hunter, see how i talk off my ass, that is desperate.