My neice and nephew witnessed a grizzly
homicide of their mother while their
father was killing her. We now have
custody of them and they are going through
therapy, but the nightmares just don't
seem to calm down. I can understand why,
of course. But, I know there are many
mothers out there that have dealt with
gruesome nightmares. Please, my niece and
nephew need to sleep more. Any advise
that any mothers might have... that'll be
great. Thanks.
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PenguinsRus
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Posted: 02-08-08 12:39pm
I don't have any good advice, I am sorry,
but I did want to throw it out there and
let you know that you are an incredibly
great person for taking in those poor
children and I am so sorry that you, them,
and the whole family have to go through
all of this. I wish you the best!
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anniek
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Posted: 02-11-08 09:09am
OMG! I'm so sorry. That is so terriable
for anyone.
Well all I can tell you is my daughter
used to have dreams about birds getting
her. So my husband would check everything,
you know under the beds and stuff. Then if
she still saw birds he would pretend to
shot them *not recomended for you of
course!, (he is a hunter). That made her
feel better. What I'm trying to tell you
is you need to know what the dreams are
about is the actual event or their father
coming to get them? Then you need to find
something that calms them of that fear
even if it's just for a little while. Take
them to build a bear and let them make new
stuffed animals and when they put the
heart in tell them to put all their fears
in as well. Something they can hold on to
and know to bring all their fears to it
and not to keep them in their heads.
I don't know it's just an idea. It may not
be the best. What a hard situation. I hope
you can be the people to help them and
love them. I hope everything goes well for
you and them. Take care.
Another idea is to ask their theropist if
they have any ideas. They would be much
better at giving you advice.
