Joined: 13 Jan 2004 Posts: 1436 Location: Grand Blanc, Michigan
Update On Me, Pls Read* Need Advice Again Posted: 04-30-04 09:42am
Lol not a big deal to you all probably but
I just wanted to tell you I reached the 7
month mark today!! (28 weeks!!) I had
my doctors appt today. He said he seems
fine, probably 2 lbs about, his heart beat
was between 130-and 135.. That seemed
low to me?!? But he said it was fine so
I guess I shouldnt worry then right? He
also told me the reason why I am not
feeling him as much as others do at this
point is because normally the baby is
upfront where you feel your belly and the
placenta behind it, well in my case, the
placenta is up front and the baby behind
it...He said its fine and all but thats
why I dont feel him as frequently so that
made me feel better! Lets see.. What
else.. He said I should be able to
breastfeed even if ive had my nipples
peirced (dont think im trash please for
having it done b4,. I was in a stage
lol) he said it could mess up my milk flow
but we will just have to wait and see.
K and now the bad news...
You know my name issue? Well I thought
I would probably name him garrett matthew
now....Well my mom is on the phone with my
gramma right now.. And all she said was
that im considering other names too
(gramma and grampa wanted me to name him
grant, thats my grampas name) anyhow..
My gramma told my mom I better not because
grampa would cry and that hes
'overlysentimental' right now because of
all the cancer stuff hes going through!!!!
I dont want to name him grant! They
assumed a long time ago that I was without
talking to me about it!!!! I feel like a bad
granddaughter.. But I mean I dont want
to settle for a name I dont want.. Even
tho it would be 'nice' of me to name him
after my grandfather.
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babyrae
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jan 2004 Posts: 2957 Location: Manitoba, Canada
Posted: 04-30-04 10:46am
First off, congrats on the 7th month! I
hit mine just 3 days ago
and second, I think ur grandparents need a
reality check. How rude of them to make u
feel bad when its (caps)your baby! Like u
had the idea for the baby, they should
appreciate that, but they were the ones
who jumped to conclusions. They shouldnt
make such a big deal over a name! They
should be happy theire having a healthy
great grandson with a good mother taking
care of him! I say u should talk to ur
mom becuz that is very uncalled for and
their puttin u in a position which could
make u unhappy for the rest of ur life.
My friends sister had a baby and wanted to
name her jay-leigh but I guess her friend
had had a baby earlier and named it
jay-lynn and freaked out about the names
bein too close so my friends siter changed
the name from jay-leigh to jaden and ever
since she regrets it and wishes she didnt
let her friend walk over her (sortof a
different situation but u know what im
getting at)
ur grandparents really need to get it thru
them that what they're doing to u is
wrong! Very wrong! Your baby, ur life,
ur decisions. I think since u'll be
carrying this baby for 9 months and ur the
one doing everything for the baby, the
least they can even let u do is name it.
I hope everythings okay but really its ur
decision and garrett is a great name!
Shauna
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KariM18
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Jan 2004 Posts: 1436 Location: Grand Blanc, Michigan
Posted: 04-30-04 11:03am
Thank you so much shauna!! Isnt hitting
that mark exciting? Well, hittin any
month is! But yea I am happy** and about
my grandparents.. I know, I agree with
you, but I cant help but to feel bad.. I
mean their my grandparents ya know? Im
not naming him grant because I just dont
'feel' it.. He doesnt feel like a grant
to me... I just gotta break it to
them..Somehow. And I dont want their
guilt trip! My whole fams like that tho,
theres not a way around it. We'll see. .
I have to tell em b4 sunday.. Sunday is
my baby shower.. I dont want my gramma
telling people his name is grant still..
My mom only told her I was 'considering'
other names..... But we'll see what
happens! Thank you so much for your help!
I am happy for you! 7 months is a great
stretch to the end! As for the name
thing. Oh hun I dunno what to say.....I'd
never name my child a name I don't like or
want....But I see why it's hard for you.
You are in a unique position.
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babyrae
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jan 2004 Posts: 2957 Location: Manitoba, Canada
Posted: 04-30-04 11:11am
Hmmm well im trying to figure this out. I
asked my boyfriend what he thought and he
thinks that if it means that much to your
grandparents (to have the baby named that)
there must be a certain reasn behind it as
to why? And maybe u can make up a
different way to show ur grandparents u
still care but u just dont want it that
name.
Try and talk with em about it, and if they
start to cry, tell em to be mature about
the subject and deal with it like adults.
Tell em exactly how u feel and let them
have their say and what not, but really,
for grandparents, they should not have put
u in this position. I hope everything
works out and if u have trouble bringing
it up, start talking about the baby shower
and gifts ur hoping to get, then slowly
bring up the name.. Hopefully that'll
help. I hope everything goes okay and u
get this off ur shoulders!
Shauna
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xxRachxx
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Apr 2004 Posts: 52 Location: kent
Posted: 04-30-04 20:19pm
Couldn't you alwasy use grant as an extra
middle name.. Then your granddad will
still be over joyed that his name is still
part of your babys name? X
I feel like a bad
granddaughter.. But I mean I dont want
to settle for a name I dont want.. Even
tho it would be 'nice' of me to name him
after my grandfather.
