my partner is always saying he would love
a threesome. im not so sure as im only 18.
i dont like it when other girls look at
him in the street so what would it be like
in bed!! could anyone help me understand
it more and tell me what happenes in a
threesome please.......
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fiona05
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Posted: 02-06-08 15:45pm
how long have you been with this guy for?
unless you are totally comfortable with
the idea of a threesome then don't do it.
if you asked the whole female population
how many of them would be comfortable
about the prospect of a threesome, i'll
bet 99% of them will say no. i would never
want to do it. i value monogamy and
fidelity in a relationship, i would never
do it.
to be honest, if he is even asking you in
the first place then i don't see how he
can care about you at all. you are right
to be concerned and to voice your
concerns. don't let this guy use you to
live out his fantasies of being with
multiple women. he sounds like a sleaze.
plus like you say, you are only 18!
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Thus Spoke Mia
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Joined: 03 Jan 2008 Posts: 30
Posted: 02-12-08 21:28pm
My boyfriend jokes with me constantly that
he'd love a threesome. I think, in most
cases, it's just a guy thing - and it may
not be an entirely serious request on his
part.
If you're certain it is, though, simply
talk to him about it. If it makes you
uncomfortable or upset, you need to tell
him that. He may not realize that what
he's saying is as offensive as it is. Some
men just don't get it.
To reply to your other question, though -
a threesome really is just a form of
sexual experimentation. The focus is not
on intimacy so much as on pleasure, as far
as I've heard. I've known a few couples
who have participated in threesomes
(though I haven't myself), and the most
common combination seems to be two women
and one man. I think it's just a different
type of sexual endeavor, that is better
for some couples than others.
Personally, I think monogamy is essential
in any relationship - even more so when
you're both young. If you want a future
with this guy, one that includes the
ability to trust him, I would think it
would be a terrible idea to do something
like this (even if you wanted to),
especially since you already have the
tendency to be jealous.
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antigone
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Posted: 02-12-08 22:00pm
If you are asking then you are not sure.
Don't go there. Many guys would like a
threesome. It is a male fantasy. This
should be about your comfort zone. If you
get jealous with other girls looking at
him, I wonder how you would feel watching
him have sex with another woman.
My husband and I discussed this. I don't
him it would be too threatening for me to
watch him with another woman. I asked him
if another man with me would be something
he would want to watch. His answer was no.
This is not a place we will be going. We
will leave it in fantasies.
My best friend was in a threesome. She
wound up hurt (emotionally) in the end.
Many people try threesomes. Some
relationships survive. Many don't. If you
feel you must go there, prepare yourself
for the worst case scenario and hope for
the best.
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crazyp
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Joined: 21 Feb 2008 Posts: 2 Location: ,
Posted: 02-21-08 02:03am
1. Unless your not comfortable with you
shouldn't let him but if he does against
your will its cheating
