I'm having the exact same problem... (i'm 22)
I can get off on my own no problem, and when i'm with a girl she can get me going but as soon as i take off my pants i lose it and it won't come back... or it comes back for a minute but by the time i try to put it in her it goes limp again....

It's really bugging me too and starting to stress me out, which i'm sure isn't going to help me at all.
HELP! It's driving me crazy

this is happening to my bf, it started when his dad died. if ANYTHING distracts him thats it... game over and he gets REALLY really pissed off at himself.

whats best to do ? s

I'm 20 years old, and have been going out with y girl for about 10 months now. I always have a little anxiety regarding ED since I was 14, but it seems to have caught up with me 2 weeks ago. I couldn't get it up, and I left her unsatisfied. This has led to my utter sexual downfall, and I am desperate for a solution. I'm starting to get depressed now, and my gf is reacting to the change in our physical relationship. I know if this keeps up it will only get worst, but I have no idea what to do.

I have a similar problem. When me and my gf are together its great. The first sex session always goes fine. but after that it is hard to get and maintain and erection. any distraction or her squirming around causes it to go limp. Please someone help us

Same problem....Let me know if you guys find something that helps you out

I am in the same situation as you all. I am 24 and am having trouble maintaining an erection during sex. It just doesn't get hard enough to penetrate, and after trying for a few minutes, It goes fully limp.

I know its probably mental, but i've been trying to work it out and relax for over a month, but it's not working still.

I don't have the money for therapy or viagra, so I don't know what to do

Its amazing that there seems to be no material online for the sole individual trying to cope with psychological ED. I've read a bit about the methods therapists use: sensate focus therapy.

The point is to STOP THINKING. START FEELING.

My recommendation: While being stimulated (or stimulating yourself), repeatedly ask yourself "How does it feel?" OR just say repeatedly (to yourself or aloud) "That feels good." instead of letting your mind wander to thoughts of inability, etc.

I've been doing this for the last week or so, to good results: I usually can't masturbate without visual stimulation, but by paying attention to the feeling of what's happening I'm able to maintain an erection & climax.

I'm hoping I can have this same focus when it comes to actual intercourse, where I have stupidly been so focussed on the outcome (pleasing her & ejaculating) that I forget to enjoy the whole experience, resulting in my ED.

For the young lady, while stimulating your BF tell him he's not allowed to ejaculate, & be sure to ask a lot "how does it feel?" Causing him to focus on the sensations instead of his own thoughts. The rule that he's not allowed to ejaculate will cause him to relax a bit. But really, he shouldn't...at least until you've made serious progress, where he starts focussing on the sensations & less on having an erection, climaxing, etc.

I'm not a Doctor. But based on what I've read, this is method close to the latter stages of psychological ED treatment. I don't know much about the early stages.

To FeelsG8, You've got the right idea. It seems like a lot of the posts on this site are about men who have no trouble having an erection by themselves, but as soon as a girl is thrown in the mix.

I've been in this boat too, and to a degree I still am.

At the end of the day, everyone needs to stop focusing on the end-game, and focus on enjoying the moment. The sounds, sights, smells, and tastes of sex are so rich, and wonderful - it's a shame each one of us have been focusing so much on Achieving an erection, or making her cum, or ejaculating.

We need more resources online for men trying to cope with Psychological ED. So many men are pulling their hair out.

Well it can be a Psychological problem, but let me tell you that many men suffer from same problem.May be because you guys feel nervous when with your girl.This is still in the early stages , i think its ED,Better is that you should consult a doctor.But if it's still in the early stage you can also go for Sexual enhancers which help you in sustaining erection for longer period of time.It will boost your confidence to do well and you will be more confident.