OK to get started i am 22 years old married to my 23 year old wife we have been together for about 3 years now she had a 5 year old and weve since had a baby shes 1 1/2 now.

Ok i was always sceptical about why she got with me (me being 6'7 440 lbs at the time) her being skinny great figured beautiful woman(she did have a calcium deffieciency wich made her teeth decay quikly during pregnacy) ok well i came to feel she did really love me and after about 3 months she proposed to me. One of her friends spread a rumor that the only reason she was with me was to get her teeth fixed. well i didnt believe her. My wife after about a year begged me to get her pregnant even bribing non safe sex with other acts in the bedroom. Well she got pregnant and had the baby.. (oh and my wife has Fibromyalgia (spelling) basically a diesease that make you hurt all over all the time wich there was no treatment for up until a few months ago) OK well when our daughter was about 1 year we got married. Before we were married we always entertained the idea of an open relationship(sleeping with other people) but we never acted on it when we got married my wife said she didnt want to have that option anymore and i agreed to stop(granted we never actually slept with ne one else). Ok well ive only been with 1 other girl besides my wife and that was my only other g/f we were together a month. My wife on the other hand has had many partners before me and had been in her longest relationship about 4 months. My wife has always told me how she never really got off during sex because she was raped when she was little. so she said it was more of an emotional thing ya know. well weve had rough spots in our relationship but good ones too. We have only been having sex about every month if even that much. I noted it to the cold mostly because we dont have a heater in our bedroom so my wife sleeps in the living room. well ne ways my wife wanted to say she wants to have an open relationship again i agreed thinking this a good idea. well everyweekend she would go out with her friend to clubs( i dont like clubs but i have made the effort to go with her) She said she just wanted to get out some. well i confronted her that i loved her to much and didnt want to have the relationship be open anymore and that i didnt mind her going out and danging but i didnt want her being with other men. She said that she had recently been diagnosed with Bi-polar disorder and that she said it caused sexual urges etc... and that the reason that she is doing this is so that she wont leave me because she cant take being in one place so long cause she was so used to change from her horrible childhood that her mother cycled through men and locations so much. Well i cried and pleaded and thought it was over. The same night i took my kids to see their grandma when i got home there was a note from my wife saying i went out to the club dont be mad i love you. well she slept with a guy she met online that night. I was so hurt and cried to her about what she did she denied it all at first and even made up elaborate lies about coming home at 4:30 when the club closes at 2:00 she said she was a little drunk and was resting in car and fell asleep and the bartender woke her up when he went into the parking lot. (yeah we did agree we didnt want to know but i was telling her i did want to know ) she liead about other times she went out to. but some how it got turned back around on me and made me feel like i was wrong. I try my best to make things work with my wife but its so hard dealing with the stress she puts on me from her bi-polar and fibro disorders. And the research i did on Hypersexuality caused by bi-polar just sais it increses sex drive but she hasnt been sleeping with me at all. She sais that she likes change and that she likes new things and thats why she likes sex with new guys. OH YEAH and this all started right after she got her teeth fixed. I have no idea what to do i love her so much but she still want to sleep with other guys and i still havent gotten any sexual attention in over 2 months. Should i also go sleep with other girls or not she tells me i should but i just want her to stop. please tell me what i should do or just ne advice on my situation