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Q: Virgin with errection problems

asked by: Brego on February 5th, 2008

New User

Hi. I'm a 25 year old virgin. I'm having a few troubles with my current girlfriend. She is trying to move us on in the bedroom, but i keep loosing my erection. Im ok when we kissing and cuddeling, but second we get to the bedroom things can be a bit hit and miss. I can loose it stright away, or stay semi for a long time.... I only managed to get to the end of a hand job once from her, every other time the big fella cut out half way through. We tryed going for sex a few times and its just not happend. Its effecting my relationship ALOT. This isnt the first time its happend either, i have been with 2 other girls this happend. Once was a "one night stand" i can blame on alchol, the other was a women i was in a 2 month relationship with, and she kidna dumped me after i failed to preform saying i didnt find her atractive.
My current GF wont let me see a doctor, saying im too young for Viagra or anything like that, but at same time i feel this pressure i have to do this or she will end it, and thats the last thing i want. Is seeing a dcotor a good idea? the thought is soooo embarrasing.

Replies(7)

marvel

replied on February 5th, 2008

Supporter

I think you've already mentioned your problem. The pressure you feel to perform can be hindering your performance. You have to have good communication and complete trust a lot of the time when it's your first time. Erections can be just as much mental as they are physical!

unnamedny

replied on February 5th, 2008

Experienced User

It's all mental. Your second girlfriend left a mark on you. try 69 with your current girlfriend. Also don't drink before sex, if you think alcohol is the problem it might as well be. Don't fill up your stomach with the food before sex.

Heylookitsphill

replied on February 6th, 2008

New User

and besides if your girl doesnt love you for you, and will want to leave you because of a possible physical condition, then.. she doesnt really love you man.

But i agree, your so nervous about performing right that anxiety is makin ya flaccid.
Its kinda like peeing at a public urinal, for some reason another you get "stage fright" and ya cant go. Im sure your physically ok, your just under stress from all thats being done and your worrying about performing.

If she leaves you for that, well thats her fault, not yours. She doesnt love you as much as she says she does.

fiona05

replied on February 6th, 2008

Supporter

communication is very important in these situations. you need to have a really good open talk about this with her. tell her what is happening, how it makes you feel, what you are worried about. be completely honest and open. you will be amazed how much better it feels just getting your concerns out in the open and once you do things will be much easier.

also, please see response to this thread Smile

http://ehealthforum.com/health/topic125839 .html

Brego

replied on February 6th, 2008

New User

Well i spoke to my misses about this (shes ill at moment Sad

) and she said "no, women has needs, i cant wait" ..... i think she was jokeing, least i hope so!
Shes been pritty pasiont with me so far i guess, but i dont think shes gonna wait much longer.
Thanks for the advice all, i guess i just have to see what happens, but god is it playing on my mind.

fiona05

replied on February 6th, 2008

Supporter

reading your post again it is almost frightening how much your situation is like my boyfriends was lol. he was the same age, with the same number of failed sexual encounters, the first one because of drink etc... the same anxieties.

well anyway i waited for him and now everything is fine. it just takes to get comfortable and establish trust with the person you are with. it'll get better, trust me. if she cares about you she will be understanding and she will wait until you are comfortable enough and ready.

unnamedny

replied on February 6th, 2008

Experienced User

just beware of girls who always say "guy MUST do this, guy MUST do that etc...." those kind of girls always think that someone own them something and they don't own anything to anyone. If she is like that she is not going to help you.

Sometimes when I'm tired. and oh well, everyone lose erections once in a while. If that happens my girlfriend helps me to relax and maintain it back. If your girls does not do it it's not a good sign.

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