Virgin with errection problems Posted: 02-05-08 13:50pm
Hi. I'm a 25 year old virgin. I'm having a
few troubles with my current girlfriend.
She is trying to move us on in the
bedroom, but i keep loosing my erection.
Im ok when we kissing and cuddeling, but
second we get to the bedroom things can be
a bit hit and miss. I can loose it stright
away, or stay semi for a long time.... I
only managed to get to the end of a hand
job once from her, every other time the
big fella cut out half way through. We
tryed going for sex a few times and its
just not happend. Its effecting my
relationship ALOT. This isnt the first
time its happend either, i have been with
2 other girls this happend. Once was a
"one night stand" i can blame on alchol,
the other was a women i was in a 2 month
relationship with, and she kidna dumped me
after i failed to preform saying i didnt
find her atractive.
My current GF wont let me see a doctor,
saying im too young for Viagra or anything
like that, but at same time i feel this
pressure i have to do this or she will end
it, and thats the last thing i want. Is
seeing a dcotor a good idea? the thought
is soooo embarrasing.
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marvel
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Posted: 02-05-08 14:31pm
I think you've already mentioned your
problem. The pressure you feel to perform
can be hindering your performance. You
have to have good communication and
complete trust a lot of the time when it's
your first time. Erections can be just as
much mental as they are physical!
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unnamedny
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Posted: 02-05-08 21:20pm
It's all mental. Your second girlfriend
left a mark on you. try 69 with your
current girlfriend. Also don't drink
before sex, if you think alcohol is the
problem it might as well be. Don't fill up
your stomach with the food before sex.
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Heylookitsphill
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Posted: 02-06-08 01:29am
and besides if your girl doesnt love you
for you, and will want to leave you
because of a possible physical condition,
then.. she doesnt really love you man.
But i agree, your so nervous about
performing right that anxiety is makin ya
flaccid.
Its kinda like peeing at a public urinal,
for some reason another you get "stage
fright" and ya cant go. Im sure your
physically ok, your just under stress from
all thats being done and your worrying
about performing.
If she leaves you for that, well thats her
fault, not yours. She doesnt love you as
much as she says she does.
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Posted: 02-06-08 06:00am
communication is very important in these
situations. you need to have a really good
open talk about this with her. tell her
what is happening, how it makes you feel,
what you are worried about. be completely
honest and open. you will be amazed how
much better it feels just getting your
concerns out in the open and once you do
things will be much easier.
Well i spoke to my misses about this (shes
ill at moment ) and she said "no,
women has needs, i cant wait" ..... i
think she was jokeing, least i hope so!
Shes been pritty pasiont with me so far i
guess, but i dont think shes gonna wait
much longer.
Thanks for the advice all, i guess i just
have to see what happens, but god is it
playing on my mind.
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Posted: 02-06-08 16:13pm
reading your post again it is almost
frightening how much your situation is
like my boyfriends was lol. he was the
same age, with the same number of failed
sexual encounters, the first one because
of drink etc... the same anxieties.
well anyway i waited for him and now
everything is fine. it just takes to get
comfortable and establish trust with the
person you are with. it'll get better,
trust me. if she cares about you she will
be understanding and she will wait until
you are comfortable enough and ready.
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unnamedny
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Posted: 02-06-08 22:12pm
just beware of girls who always say "guy
MUST do this, guy MUST do that etc...."
those kind of girls always think that
someone own them something and they don't
own anything to anyone. If she is like
that she is not going to help you.
Sometimes when I'm tired. and oh well,
everyone lose erections once in a while.
If that happens my girlfriend helps me to
relax and maintain it back. If your girls
does not do it it's not a good sign.
) and she said "no,
women has needs, i cant wait" ..... i
think she was jokeing, least i hope so!