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Q: unprotected sex causing anxiety

asked by: PRIVATE88 on February 4th, 2008

New User

Hello everybody, i have been looking online ALOT these days, because i am scared that i may have been exposed to HIV.

I get overwelmed speaking about it, and i somtimes cannot get out what i would like to very clearly. But ill try to explain.

I made the stupidest mistake of my life about 3 months ago...and as you would guess it, i am now facing the consequences....or at least mental issues.
I am unsure, so i cannot step to any conclusions, BUT....i am very worried of the fact that i may have been exposed to HIV.....I have asked the girl who i had unprotected sex with, weather or not she was HIV positive, and she told me NO, and that she is tested regularly. BUT there are two problems with that, FIRST, she told me she goes for regular 6 month checkups and tests at the doctor, and that she has never had anything yet ( DESPITE HER LIFESTYLE ) but i later read online that not ONE test can test for all STDS OR STIS, and so what she told me doesnt add up. She said one sample of blood.
Also she has had cervical cancer in the past, which is a result of some STDS isnt it? also if she did develop cancer because of a STD, how long would it take to get cancer? IM hoping it may have just been coinsidence.

Also, her respect for me after this happening has REALLY gone down, and im thinking even if she did have HIV, that she is not being truthful.

I also have a question that i dont want anybody to get to mad if i ask, but im REALLY SCARED.......if i went to the doctor, would they be able to tell me if they knew she was HIV positive? i know its confidential, but i mean they dont want it spread, so you think they would.

Please help, im loosing sleep, scared all the time, im in college now, and thinking about leaving because i dont want to do NOTHING if i know im going to die, im living in depression......PLEASE HELP ME, if any of you wouldf happen to have MSN, and perhaps consider adding me so that i can talk to sombody, this would really help....i have called a few places hear where im to, where there is supposed to be a support group, but i have not had much to do with it......and its a small town......i cant so easily go for public help about it.

Thank you very much.

Replies(5)

PRIVATE88

replied on February 5th, 2008

New User

come on guys, is there any other websites that are centered STRICTLY towards topic of aids or HIV? with maybe some people to talk to through chat?

THANK YOU VERY MUCH,

whydidUlie

replied on February 5th, 2008

New User

I understand how scared you are!

Have you been to a doctor yet to get tested? My health dept. did my test for free.

Cervical cancer is indeed caused by an STD. No, one test does not cover everything out there. She's probably lying to you, like mine was. I seriously doubt that they would release her personal medical information to you. That's against HIPPA and they could get in big trouble if they do. I know that's a crock of crap, but it's the law.

She obviously doesn't deserve respect, especially if she gave you hiv and never told you that she had it. I don't know what state you live in, but you can check this link to see what your particular state's law is:

http://www.statehealthfacts.org/comparetab le.jsp?ind=569&cat=11

I had a link that was a little more wordy on the subject, but I'm having a hard time locating this.

Stay strong and if you need to talk, I'm here for you. I added you as a friend on here. It seems like we are in similar situations, so I can relate to everything that you wrote. what is wrong with people these days? She is playing with your life just like my ex was. It's not fair and they need to be stopped!

Please don't drop out of college. I understand that this is very upsetting, but try to maintain some sense of normalcy to your life.

Why do you suspect she is hiv ? Why is she at the doctor's all of the time. Is she very sick? In all of the research that I've been doing, it is harder for a man to become hiv from a female to male. At least you have that on your side.

I have yahoo messenger and will PM you that info in a few minutes.

~~Right there with you in this craptastic situation~~

homerx

replied on February 10th, 2008

Moderator

hivsupport wrote:

Hi PRIVATE88,

I am sorry that you are going through this but my advice can only be: Don't throw away your life, stay in college! First you don't know if you have contracted it for sure, second even if you have, HIV these days doesnt necessary equal death. HIV patients can live long and normal lives.

I am currently working with a group of HIV patients with their alternative therapy using a herbal pill, which seem to be effective in improving their CD4 and viral load stats. There are absolutely no risk of side effects and seem to work by improving the patient's general well being through improved energy level and appetite. They are all very happy with this therapy and saw gradual improvements in their stats. They have agreed to post their results online as long as their IDs are concealed. You can have a look here: http://www.hivsupport.co.uk/patients.php

Don't lose hope!

What you need to know is that there are many things out there which are aimed to help people with this problem and LOTS and LOTS of research and being done to develope a cure. Therefore you can not lose hope!

zorch

replied on March 4th, 2008

New User

SAME THING

WOW YOU TOOK THE WORDS RIGHT OUT OF MY MOUTH PRIVATE88..I AM GOING THROUGH A VERY SIMILAR SITUATION...AND I WILL PRAY FOR YOU!!!!DONT QUIT SCHOOL, I HAD THE SAME FEELINGS BUT REMEMBER TWO THINGS

1) YOU WERE BRAVE ENOUGH TO CONTACT HER AND HAVE ATLEAST SOME CONFRIMATION THAT SHE WAS HIV NEGATIVE, I CANT EVEN BUILD UP THE COURAGE TO DO THAT!!

2)OVER ANALYZING THINGS BY SEARCHING ON THE INTERNET WONT HELP IN THE END, THE BEST THING TO DO IS GO GET TESTED TAKE A CLOSE FRIEND WITH YOU IF THAT HELPS. ONCE AGAIN I HAVE A SIMILAR SITUATION TO YOUR'S AND I TRULY FEEL FOR YOU BUT TRY TO CONCENTRATE ON OTHER THINGS... AND PLEANTY OF PEOPLE RESPOND TO OTHERS WHEN APPROACHED ABOUT THE SEXUAL HEALTH VERY NEGATIVLEY. AND SHAME ON THEM YOU WERE ONLY SEEKING PEACE OF MIND AND IN THE END IM SURE SHE WAS HAPPY YOU ARE HEALTH CONCIOUS. ONCE AGAIN TRY TO SEEK A HIGHER POWER AT THIS TIME TO RELEAVE YOUR STRESS...AND GET TESTED

Finess150

replied on March 10th, 2008

Experienced User

Test

An HIV test after three months will conclusively determine your HIV status. One episode of unprotected sex does carry risk, but do remember that infection per episode is approximately 3% risk according to various studies. That is NOT a reason not to test, but it is a good way to see things in perspective, and be aware that in future, you MUST use a condom.

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