i have a problem... i am 18 and am still a
virgin. i can get an erection at awkward
and random times in the day for no
particular reason and when masturbating.
lately though, when confronted with sex
with various partners i cant seem to get
it up and end up havin to call it off...
which is pretty embarrassing. i am really
keen to do it and and am turned on by the
woman i am with, but my body keeps lettin
me down! the last time i had an erection,
until putting a condom on and then
everything fell apart.i really wanted to
have sex with her instead i lie there
lookin at her body and cant get a response
from my penis. the first time it happened
i assumed it was nerves but it seems to be
becoming a habit as its happened twice in
a row! its really embarrasing and its
gettin me down.
what should i do? whats the reason for
this? am i impotent? do i need
medication...
any help will be appreciated as i am
getting desperate
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fiona05
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Joined: 21 Dec 2005 Posts: 663 Location: , Norn Iron
Posted: 02-04-08 19:11pm
nope you are not impotent. you get
spontaneous erections - this is good! you
also get erections when you masturbate, so
there is nothing physically wrong with
you. all this is caused by your own
anxiety. trust me, it is really really
common and much more guys go through it
than you probably think! having sex for
the first time is often a strange and
nerve racking thing.
ever had to do a talk or presentation in
school in front of the class? it always
runs so smoothly when you practice it on
your own but as soon as the time comes to
do it for real you're shaking and you
forget your words and your voice
quivers... lol. it's basically the same
thing.
what you have is not an medical problem,
it is just performance anxiety. all you
have to do is learn to relax and take
things slowly. if the girls you have
been with have been 'one night stands'
then it probably doesnt help matters. you
need to be comfortable with the girl
you're with and trust her. take the
focus off sex for a while and instead take
the time to chat and mess about, be a bit
playful and lighthearted, and don't rush
into it. maybe you can just lie about
naked with her for a little while, just
touching and exploring. but the best
advice really is TAKE IT SLOWLY and RELAX
AND STOP WORRYING!
