im 18 and i hate my life . i hate my job
too but i dont have many qualifications so
i dont have many choices. i dont have real
friends just people i chat to now and
again . i am single aswell and i hate that
too. i have thought about if i would be
better off dead but i love my mum and i
know that would hurt her so badly. i need
some help please!!!!
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Seraph
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Welcome to the club ;) Posted: 02-04-08 06:20am
Don't know if it will make you feel any
differently, but I felt...and still
do...the same.
What would you say would help you to get
out of the situation you are in?
Talking about what you are feeling helps
loads...but usually only a short while.
Trying to ignore your feelings/stay
positive...tried that, got the shirt and
burnt it...
Medication...also helped, but only so
much.
Ultimately it might be best to see a
psychiatrist and maybe get some meds...
He/She might be able to help identify what
is causing you to feel this way. It might
just be something silly as your diet or
something more problematic...
Let me know what I can do
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iwishtostayanon
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Feb 2008 Posts: 2
i understand what ur saying but ....... Posted: 02-04-08 06:30am
i understand but i dont want to see any1
about it that is why i came on here no one
knows who i am . i dont know what it could
be . the only thing that has really change
in my life is that i think i am in love
but the girls i am in love with has
problem she has a man but they split up
and he wont leave her plus she also has a
kid .
do you think that could be putting these
things in my head????
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homerx
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Posted: 02-04-08 11:51am
you are still really young...just wait a
while, I think it will pass and you will
start feeling better. Your body is
changing still and that can throw you off,
mentally..so just hold on and it will get
better....
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ash989
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Feb 2008 Posts: 3
help? Posted: 02-05-08 18:10pm
I'm 16 years old and know that I am
suffering from depression. I'm in grade 11
now which has been terrible. Back in grade
9 and when I first started highschool I
had tons of friends, a girlfriend, and I
wasn't really ugly like I am now. I still
have friends and hangout with them enough
but I don't really have a bestfriend and
can't really explain or tell anyone how I
feel. Everyday I feel uncomfortable at
school because I feel very insecure and
feel as if nobody really likes me. I go
home and pretty much do nothing and I
always feel really sad. My life has gone
way down hill the past year because I have
lied so much and done stupid things and
now barely anyone really likes me. I
always feel depressed and don't want to be
seen by anybody and I wish I was someone
else or people would accept me and I would
fit in. Can someone please give me sum
advice on how they got through their teen
years and some of their experiences and
what they did to help??
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homerx
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Posted: 02-05-08 22:27pm
I went threw a really f**ked up period
from about 6th grade all the way threw
high school. It kind of came and went, I
would be semi-popular and then an out
cast, then a few friends, then a lot, then
nun. I had acne and was tall and really
skinny puppy. I had real long out of
control wavy crazy hair, didn't dress or
fit in like everyone else. I don't think I
was hated or anything...I don't know,
maybe I was, but I somehow got threw it.
As soon as high school was over I got the
hell out of that town and never looked
back...for about 4 years. My parents still
lived there so I kind of had to go visit
them. But I was now 21 or 20 or something,
looking better, feeling better, being who
I had become, which was self confident and
an attitude of " I don't give a s*it what
you small town yokels think, I am rocking
the big city I was living in and had a
butt load of friends so heres the finger!
They were all working at Wall Mart (not
that there is anything wrong with that)
and I was a bartender at a very popular
bar in Dallas. They were like "Wow. How
is...is that?...no way! Anyway, it made up
for the years of suicidal tendencies and
depression and just feeling like a Nimrod,
ya know?
You will grow into your body and hair and
face and nose and its gonna be ALL GOOD.
Trust me.Give it time,bro...give it time.
Oh, and another thing. About the lying a
lot. I know what you mean...it cant really
be explained very easily but I think I
know what you mean. That is something you
can start working on changing NOW! 4
realz. Just tell yourself that you don't
have to make crap up, you don't have to
pretend, you don't have to steal or cheat
or any of that negative s*it. Its a brand
new day. Start over in that respect. Its
still early in your life. Stop lying. For
one thing it will help clear up that acne
and wont eat you from the inside out,know
what I'm sayin'? So do your thing and be
COOL on the inside, it will start to bleed
threw, trust me.Peace and Love and be real
2 C how it feel
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jhade23
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Feb 2008 Posts: 4
yeah i know Posted: 02-08-08 08:28am
hi, i want you to know that i understand,
and have been there, lots of times. Like
few have said you are young, but that
doesn't dismiss the fact that you feel the
way that you do. Life throws lots of curve
balls you can't learn in school except in
living life. Live day by day, eventually a
month then a year goes by. In the meantime
do what you can everyday to live like it
is truly your last. But sometimes you
might not want to do anything at all, and
that's okay too. Know there are people out
there that can and will help you, only you
can ask for it. I have been depressed
since my youth too, am 30 now, counseling
helps as an outlet, med helps to allow you
to rehabilitate or allow you to
restructure your thoughts. Find simple
joys, do those when you can, go to school,
even if you don't know what you want to do
yet, having schedules helps, and gets you
out to also meet people, about the job,
yeah it sucks there sometimes, so go out
there and get you another, it will all
connect in the future, give it a chance.
For me I was in lots of really bad
relationships, didn't help, but I finally
met my husband now at work, we now
encourage each other to finish school, and
have a beautiful baby boy now 1 yr old. He
is what I live for to be better, as a
mother, please never take your life, we
love you too much it would be much more
unbearable for us to ever try to live
without you because you make us worth
living too.
