Hey, Im in need of some advice. i think of strange things about tying people up and beating and cutting them. Is this behaviour normal??
I like to think about tying girls up upside-down and covering them with water and then eletrocuting them. i also enjoy the thought of cutting their lower areas and their breasts.
Please give me some advice!
It doesn't actually sound normal. It's common for people to have a minor element of sadism in some of their fantasies but what you describe sounds borderline psychotic, no offense. Perhaps you should see a shrink.
Tying girls down, ok, covering them wtih water, ok, electrocuting them, no, cutting their lower areas and breast, no.
Fetishes for light bdsm such as tying and the like isn't uncommon, but cutting and electrocuting are rather out there. Don't act upon your fetishes unless you find a quirky girl/guy who actually likes the two.
basically sounds like very extreme sadomasochistic fantasies. it is your mind, you may explore it as you wish. i get some pretty violent sexual fantasies sometimes, too. but i would never EVER act them out. I wouldn't even want to. It stays strictly within my imagination. as long as you do not harm another person or feel strongly compelled to harm another person then you have nothing to worry about.
it should be noted that if you feel these fantasies stop you from being able to get on with your life, or if they stop you from being able to have healthy relationships etc then you can see a therapist, but unless or until it comes to that, it is not neccessary.
If you are able to have these fantasies and express them in a healthy way- meaning, role playing (without any actual injuries) porn, or just imagination/dirty talk during sex, it's fine and really not something you need to worry about.
If you are not able to have a normal sex life- meaning, you actually want to and have considered acting on these impulses (actually hurting someone) and/or you aren't able to have a normal relationship or sex life, then it's more of a problem and you might want to seek the help of someone like a sex therapist.
A few people here already asked the right question, How consuming is this thought. Does it interfere with your intimacy? Does it effect your every day life?
If one cannot achieve satisfaction without thier particular Fetish, then it would indicate a Paraphillia. It is a very real mental disorder and should be handled by professionals.
Now, if this is only something that you do pursue, I would recommend finding a group that is into this sort of extreme play. DO NOT try to do this on your own. At best, you will just have a really bad scene. At worst, you are another article about edge play gone horribly wrong.
There are extreme safety measures that must be taken in extreme edge play. You should be fully trained by a competent and experienced Dom. You should also be fully trained in first aid and CPR.
Electricity play is very dangerous, but not nearly as dangerous as cutting play. I've never been big into either. So I cannot offer much advise to you personally.
The most important thing is to determine, What about the fantasy becomes sexual to you? Is it even a Sexual fantasy? I can scene with anyone, and it is rarely sexual. What about the scene makes it seem enjoyable to you... how far would you want the scene to go? When you think about it, do you think about the outcomes? Have you ever engaged in BDSM where you would have been exposed to this?
Use common sense, if you find the fantasy all consuming, get help. If it is not, then you want to think about it. Be honest with yourself and figure out the best and safest steps for you.