low libido after vaginal tear Posted: 02-02-08 09:58am
okay so, during sex about 7-8 months ago i
experienced what i believe to be some sort
of rip or tear about an inch into the
vagina. since then, sexual intercourse has
been very painful. before the incident i
had an over-active sex drive but, since..
my sex drive has been dropping and it is
now at an all time low.
my question is, my boyfriend has a very
high sex drive. when i don't give him sex
for an extended period of time, i feel
bad. i feel like i need to take a very
long break from sex but, when i tell him
that.. it seems to go in one ear and out
of the other. is it wrong to withhold sex
from my boyfriend for over a month.. when
he's used to getting it every day?
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antigone
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Posted: 02-02-08 23:30pm
It is never "wrong" to abstain from sexual
activity if that is your choice. You have
a vaginal tear that causes you pain during
intercourse. Your bf should care enough
about you to ensure that your health and
well being come first. You need to love
yourself enough to take care of YOU first
and foremost. If this guy can't allow you
the time to heal then he is not worth
another thought. Asking you or pressuring
you to have intercourse is disrespectful
at the very least and is without regard to
you and your needs and desires. He will
not die if he doesn't have sex for awhile.
I hope you tell him NO and let yourself
heal. You deserve better!
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orthogirl
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Sep 2006 Posts: 69 Location: NC
Posted: 02-03-08 01:49am
thank you so much. that is exactly what i
needed to hear.
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MyLove4U
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Feb 2008 Posts: 47 Location: Rimini, Italy
Posted: 02-16-08 20:10pm
haha i have the same problem with my
husband sometimes. i believe i'm allergic
to latex so i get cuts and scratches from
sex and takes 4 days or more to heal. he's
better at not asking all the time now, but
sometimes i have to remind him how much it
hurts. sometimes i just go with it and
stop half way through cause it will get
too painful. well good luck. hope you can
heal. you'll feel much better.
i don't know what it is about men but you
kinda have to boss them around a little or
else you wont get anything done.
