School and being pregnant Posted: 01-31-08 10:28am
To Alena 92. It is okay you can do it! I
was pregnant in the 10th grade and I
passed the exit exam on the 1st try and I
am getting ready to graduate in the spring
of May. Class of 2008 baby! But anyways
don't drop out of school hang on to your
dream and stay in school. I was thinking
about dropping out but I wanted my baby to
have a better life then I had, so I stayed
in school now I am going to graduate on
time with my friends and go to college to
become an OB/GYN. I know if I can do it
you can too girl. That is what people what
you to do and they think just because you
have a baby you are going to be a high
school dropuot and a deadbeat mom. Prove
them wrong and come out on top. When you
get your degree wave it in everybody face
that said you were not going to do it.
Belive in yourself girl.
Peace,
Tniya Crenshaw
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Hi Niya, old post... from august 07' If
she was pregnant shes already had them.
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Posted: 01-31-08 18:18pm
yeah i no where i live we have a
highschool that has a daycare in it for
teen mothers. you should def look into
that. its a great program and im sure
it'll be alot of help. good luck =]
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Posted: 01-31-08 18:19pm
HEATH3R
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schools cannot ban you from
going to them if youre pregnant. i was 3
and a half months pregnant when i
graduated. most people will be excited for
you, and i highly doubt youd be any sort
of distraction, and if you are its the
fault of the idiots who are "allowed" at
the school and not you. but to answer your
question i dont believe there are any
schools that are JUSt for pregnant teens,
but homeschooling is always an option. i
know that when my son is born i will want
to be with him whenever possible, granted
i work all day every day, but maternity
leave will enable me to do so for the
first 6-12 weeks. you could always do
schooling online, or find an area home
near you that takes students who wish to
be home
schooled.
if you go to a catholic school, they WILL
kick you out when you react 6 months
pregnant.
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Posted: 01-31-08 19:41pm
They'll let you go all the way to 6
months??? That's amazing for a catholic
school! I went to a pretty exclusive
preparatory school and if you were even
rumored to be pregnant, your parents were
immediately notified and you had to
provide proof from a doctor that you were
not pregnant. If you were pregnant, you
were immediately kicked out, even if you
weren't showing....this happen to our
class president.
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Posted: 01-31-08 22:02pm
lele25
wrote:
They'll let you go all the
way to 6 months??? That's amazing for a
catholic school! I went to a pretty
exclusive preparatory school and if you
were even rumored to be pregnant, your
parents were immediately notified and you
had to provide proof from a doctor that
you were not pregnant. If you were
pregnant, you were immediately kicked out,
even if you weren't showing....this happen
to our class
president.
Wow,. Did she know that was the rule
before she got pregnant?
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Posted: 02-01-08 13:05pm
old post ppl
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Posted: 02-01-08 15:15pm
lele25
wrote:
They'll let you go all the
way to 6 months??? That's amazing for a
catholic school! I went to a pretty
exclusive preparatory school and if you
were even rumored to be pregnant, your
parents were immediately notified and you
had to provide proof from a doctor that
you were not pregnant. If you were
pregnant, you were immediately kicked out,
even if you weren't showing....this happen
to our class
president.
i guess catholic schools different,
they'll let you stay up to that point and
then have you transferred to a school for
teens who are pregnant cuz they dont want
you to not get your diploma
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Posted: 02-01-08 20:47pm
futureshock
wrote:
lele25
wrote:
They'll let you go all the
way to 6 months??? That's amazing for a
catholic school! I went to a pretty
exclusive preparatory school and if you
were even rumored to be pregnant, your
parents were immediately notified and you
had to provide proof from a doctor that
you were not pregnant. If you were
pregnant, you were immediately kicked out,
even if you weren't showing....this happen
to our class
president.
Wow,. Did she know that was the rule
before she got
pregnant?
Everyone knew it was the rule because it
had happen to a few other people prior to
her case. I'm not sure if they are still
so strict...I graduated 7 years ago. I
always felt so bad for her (even though
she put herself in that situation) because
it was her senoir year, she had awesome
grades, and deffinately would have gotten
in to a great college. Its wierd, I have
no clue what even happen to her. I would
not have chosen to continue the pregnancy
if were in that situation....but thts just
me.
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Posted: 02-01-08 21:19pm
Me neither! I don't get it at all. Why
would a girl like that want a baby at that
time in her life??? It doesn't make any
sense to me. What happened to the guy?
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Posted: 02-01-08 21:23pm
A lot of girls want someone to love
unconditionally - and someone to love
them. This is a very common feeling among
young women. They aren't aware of the
magnitude of the choice they are making.
Having had a child as a teenager, I can
completely sympathize. You feel adult
enough to make that choice. You feel like
you know you can do it and everyone else
is just a big downer who is raining on
your parade.
I understand these girls don't make a lot
of sense to you, we weren't all brought up
and able to go to college. Some of us took
the only way 'out' we knew how to.
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Posted: 02-01-08 23:35pm
futureshock
wrote:
Me neither! I don't get it
at all. Why would a girl like that want a
baby at that time in her life??? It
doesn't make any sense to me. What
happened to the
guy?
No one knew him...he was a junior in
college so I have no idea what if anything
ever happen to him. I reminded my husband
about it tonight after I wrote that post
about her and he said that he saw her
working as a bank teller not too long ago.
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Posted: 02-02-08 09:56am
Ingi
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A lot of girls want someone
to love unconditionally - and someone to
love them. This is a very common feeling
among young women. They aren't aware of
the magnitude of the choice they are
making.
Having had a child as a teenager, I can
completely sympathize. You feel adult
enough to make that choice. You feel like
you know you can do it and everyone else
is just a big downer who is raining on
your parade.
I understand these girls don't make a lot
of sense to you, we weren't all brought up
and able to go to college. Some of us took
the only way 'out' we knew how
to.
Hi Ingi,
I have come to understand girls in the
situation you've described here, but this
girl doesn't seem to fit that mold at all.
Here is what lele said:
lele25
wrote:
. I always felt so bad for
her (even though she put herself in that
situation) because it was her senoir year,
she had awesome grades, and deffinately
would have gotten in to a great college.
Its wierd, I have no clue what even happen
to her. I would not have chosen to
continue the pregnancy if were in that
situation....but thts just
me.
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Posted: 02-04-08 13:45pm
Ingi
wrote:
A lot of girls want someone
to love unconditionally - and someone to
love them. This is a very common feeling
among young women. They aren't aware of
the magnitude of the choice they are
making.
Having had a child as a teenager, I can
completely sympathize. You feel adult
enough to make that choice. You feel like
you know you can do it and everyone else
is just a big downer who is raining on
your parade.
I understand these girls don't make a lot
of sense to you, we weren't all brought up
and able to go to college. Some of us took
the only way 'out' we knew how
to.
what only way out was that ingi..are you
implying getting pregnant to taking the
easy way out of going on to college? just
wondering not sure if thats what you
meant...
but if it is..there are other options than
getting pregnant to not go on to
college/university, yeah to most it is the
next step, but theres the work field,
apprenticeship, alot of other things to do
rather than go to college or get your self
pregnant to take the easy way out
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Posted: 02-04-08 13:49pm
krystineM
wrote:
Ingi
wrote:
A lot of girls want someone
to love unconditionally - and someone to
love them. This is a very common feeling
among young women. They aren't aware of
the magnitude of the choice they are
making.
Having had a child as a teenager, I can
completely sympathize. You feel adult
enough to make that choice. You feel like
you know you can do it and everyone else
is just a big downer who is raining on
your parade.
I understand these girls don't make a lot
of sense to you, we weren't all brought up
and able to go to college. Some of us took
the only way 'out' we knew how
to.
what only way out was that ingi..are you
implying getting pregnant to taking the
easy way out of going on to college? just
wondering not sure if thats what you
meant...
but if it is..there are other options than
getting pregnant to not go on to
college/university, yeah to most it is the
next step, but theres the work field,
apprenticeship, alot of other things to do
rather than go to college or get your self
pregnant to take the easy way
out
No. Actually it wasn't what I was implying
at all. Boys were a way out of my mom's
house. A way for me to find 'love'. I in
no way meant to imply a way out of school.
Boys led to pregnancy. Then marriage. Then
motherhood.
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Posted: 02-04-08 13:54pm
Ingi
wrote:
krystineM
wrote:
Ingi
wrote:
A lot of girls want someone
to love unconditionally - and someone to
love them. This is a very common feeling
among young women. They aren't aware of
the magnitude of the choice they are
making.
Having had a child as a teenager, I can
completely sympathize. You feel adult
enough to make that choice. You feel like
you know you can do it and everyone else
is just a big downer who is raining on
your parade.
I understand these girls don't make a lot
of sense to you, we weren't all brought up
and able to go to college. Some of us took
the only way 'out' we knew how
to.
what only way out was that ingi..are you
implying getting pregnant to taking the
easy way out of going on to college? just
wondering not sure if thats what you
meant...
but if it is..there are other options than
getting pregnant to not go on to
college/university, yeah to most it is the
next step, but theres the work field,
apprenticeship, alot of other things to do
rather than go to college or get your self
pregnant to take the easy way
out
No. Actually it wasn't what I was implying
at all. Boys were a way out of my mom's
house. A way for me to find 'love'. I in
no way meant to imply a way out of school.
Boys led to pregnancy. Then marriage. Then
motherhood.
...how? two ppl play a role on
pregnancy..and to get pregnant that person
either isnt taking or using any form on BC
or condom broke or BC didnt work..you cant
just pin point it on one individual. Women
have a say on marriage, motherhood and
whether they want to engage in
intercourse.
By what you just said it sounds as if your
saying women do not have a mind to do as
they please, and in some cases its the
girls fault for pregnancy thinking that by
becoming pregnant the guy will stay with
her forever.
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Posted: 02-04-08 14:06pm
krystineM
wrote:
...how? two ppl play a role on
pregnancy..and to get pregnant that person
either isnt taking or using any form on BC
or condom broke or BC didnt work..you cant
just pin point it on one individual. Women
have a say on marriage, motherhood and
whether they want to engage in
intercourse.
By what you just said it sounds as if your
saying women do not have a mind to do as
they please, and in some cases its the
girls fault for pregnancy thinking that by
becoming pregnant the guy will stay with
her forever.
Actually, that is true in a lot of cases.
(My teen pregnancy was the pull out
method, by the way)
I wasn't speaking of all women. I was
speaking of SOME GIRLS. There is a
difference. Some girls are manipulative.
Some girls do think the guy will stay with
them. Some girls even pretend to be
pregnant so he will.
Not everyone is the same.
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Posted: 02-04-08 14:09pm
Ingi
wrote:
krystineM
wrote:
...how? two ppl play a role on
pregnancy..and to get pregnant that person
either isnt taking or using any form on BC
or condom broke or BC didnt work..you cant
just pin point it on one individual. Women
have a say on marriage, motherhood and
whether they want to engage in
intercourse.
By what you just said it sounds as if your
saying women do not have a mind to do as
they please, and in some cases its the
girls fault for pregnancy thinking that by
becoming pregnant the guy will stay with
her forever.
Actually, that is true in a lot of cases.
(My teen pregnancy was the pull out
method, by the way)
I wasn't speaking of all women. I was
speaking of SOME GIRLS. There is a
difference. Some girls are manipulative.
Some girls do think the guy will stay with
them. Some girls even pretend to be
pregnant so he will.
Not everyone is the
same.
With how i got pregnant my birth control
didnt work..i think i missed a day
actually [not intentionally]
i kno not everyone is the same it just
sounded like you were pin pointing getting
pregnant on the guy
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Posted: 02-04-08 14:15pm
Kristine, please read my original post in
this thread:
Ingi
wrote:
A lot of girls want someone
to love unconditionally - and someone to
love them. This is a very common feeling
among young women. They aren't aware of
the magnitude of the choice they are
making.
Having had a child as a teenager, I can
completely sympathize. You feel adult
enough to make that choice. You feel like
you know you can do it and everyone else
is just a big downer who is raining on
your parade.
I understand these girls don't make a lot
of sense to you, we weren't all brought up
and able to go to college. Some of us took
the only way 'out' we knew how
to.
It was a reply to FUTURESHOCK's question:
futureshock
wrote:
Me neither! I don't get it
at all. Why would a girl like that want a
baby at that time in her life??? It
doesn't make any sense to me. What
happened to the
guy?
And it was meant that, a lot of young
girls have no 'future' plans and what they
do want is LOVE. In no way is that
implying, or even suggesting that a
pregnancy is a man's fault. It is hinting
at the fact that maybe we need to be more
attentive to our teenage girls, give them
hope for a future and a lot of attention
so they don't seek the attention of boys
and think that when they do get pregnant
someone is going to love them
unconditionally. Which doesn't happen, by
the way.
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Boys led to pregnancy. Then marriage. Then
motherhood.[/quote]
Did you not say that?
That is why i said it SOUNDED like you
were putting the pregnancy fault all on
the guy.
And second, calm down! i can voice my own
opinion here too, i understand it was a
reply to Future and frankly i do not
really care who it was to, all i was first
off ASKING was if you were saying that
pregnancy was an easy way out of going on
to college, which you cleared up for me
and SECOND to say that not all pregnancy
is the fault of a guy by what YOUR COMMENT
said above. THAT IS ALL! Breathe woman!
god!
