General Debate Forum - Staying in school while pregnant

jessamyn

replied on January 31st, 2008

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Hi Niya, old post... from august 07' If she was pregnant shes already had them.

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ohmyitsdi

replied on January 31st, 2008

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yeah i no where i live we have a highschool that has a daycare in it for teen mothers. you should def look into that. its a great program and im sure it'll be alot of help. good luck =]

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krystineM

replied on January 31st, 2008

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HEATH3R wrote:

schools cannot ban you from going to them if youre pregnant. i was 3 and a half months pregnant when i graduated. most people will be excited for you, and i highly doubt youd be any sort of distraction, and if you are its the fault of the idiots who are "allowed" at the school and not you. but to answer your question i dont believe there are any schools that are JUSt for pregnant teens, but homeschooling is always an option. i know that when my son is born i will want to be with him whenever possible, granted i work all day every day, but maternity leave will enable me to do so for the first 6-12 weeks. you could always do schooling online, or find an area home near you that takes students who wish to be home schooled.

if you go to a catholic school, they WILL kick you out when you react 6 months pregnant.

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lele25

replied on January 31st, 2008

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They'll let you go all the way to 6 months??? That's amazing for a catholic school! I went to a pretty exclusive preparatory school and if you were even rumored to be pregnant, your parents were immediately notified and you had to provide proof from a doctor that you were not pregnant. If you were pregnant, you were immediately kicked out, even if you weren't showing....this happen to our class president.

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Verizon-y

replied on January 31st, 2008

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lele25 wrote:

They'll let you go all the way to 6 months??? That's amazing for a catholic school! I went to a pretty exclusive preparatory school and if you were even rumored to be pregnant, your parents were immediately notified and you had to provide proof from a doctor that you were not pregnant. If you were pregnant, you were immediately kicked out, even if you weren't showing....this happen to our class president.

Wow,. Did she know that was the rule before she got pregnant?

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oh_mommy

replied on February 1st, 2008

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old post ppl

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krystineM

replied on February 1st, 2008

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lele25 wrote:

They'll let you go all the way to 6 months??? That's amazing for a catholic school! I went to a pretty exclusive preparatory school and if you were even rumored to be pregnant, your parents were immediately notified and you had to provide proof from a doctor that you were not pregnant. If you were pregnant, you were immediately kicked out, even if you weren't showing....this happen to our class president.

i guess catholic schools different, they'll let you stay up to that point and then have you transferred to a school for teens who are pregnant cuz they dont want you to not get your diploma

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lele25

replied on February 1st, 2008

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futureshock wrote:

lele25 wrote:

They'll let you go all the way to 6 months??? That's amazing for a catholic school! I went to a pretty exclusive preparatory school and if you were even rumored to be pregnant, your parents were immediately notified and you had to provide proof from a doctor that you were not pregnant. If you were pregnant, you were immediately kicked out, even if you weren't showing....this happen to our class president.

Wow,. Did she know that was the rule before she got pregnant?

Everyone knew it was the rule because it had happen to a few other people prior to her case. I'm not sure if they are still so strict...I graduated 7 years ago. I always felt so bad for her (even though she put herself in that situation) because it was her senoir year, she had awesome grades, and deffinately would have gotten in to a great college. Its wierd, I have no clue what even happen to her. I would not have chosen to continue the pregnancy if were in that situation....but thts just me.

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Verizon-y

replied on February 1st, 2008

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Me neither! I don't get it at all. Why would a girl like that want a baby at that time in her life??? It doesn't make any sense to me. What happened to the guy?

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Mabel

replied on February 1st, 2008

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A lot of girls want someone to love unconditionally - and someone to love them. This is a very common feeling among young women. They aren't aware of the magnitude of the choice they are making.

Having had a child as a teenager, I can completely sympathize. You feel adult enough to make that choice. You feel like you know you can do it and everyone else is just a big downer who is raining on your parade.

I understand these girls don't make a lot of sense to you, we weren't all brought up and able to go to college. Some of us took the only way 'out' we knew how to.

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lele25

replied on February 1st, 2008

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futureshock wrote:

Me neither! I don't get it at all. Why would a girl like that want a baby at that time in her life??? It doesn't make any sense to me. What happened to the guy?

No one knew him...he was a junior in college so I have no idea what if anything ever happen to him. I reminded my husband about it tonight after I wrote that post about her and he said that he saw her working as a bank teller not too long ago.

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Verizon-y

replied on February 2nd, 2008

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Ingi wrote:

A lot of girls want someone to love unconditionally - and someone to love them. This is a very common feeling among young women. They aren't aware of the magnitude of the choice they are making.

Having had a child as a teenager, I can completely sympathize. You feel adult enough to make that choice. You feel like you know you can do it and everyone else is just a big downer who is raining on your parade.

I understand these girls don't make a lot of sense to you, we weren't all brought up and able to go to college. Some of us took the only way 'out' we knew how to.

Hi Ingi,

I have come to understand girls in the situation you've described here, but this girl doesn't seem to fit that mold at all. Here is what lele said:

lele25 wrote:

. I always felt so bad for her (even though she put herself in that situation) because it was her senoir year, she had awesome grades, and deffinately would have gotten in to a great college. Its wierd, I have no clue what even happen to her. I would not have chosen to continue the pregnancy if were in that situation....but thts just me.

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krystineM

replied on February 4th, 2008

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Ingi wrote:

A lot of girls want someone to love unconditionally - and someone to love them. This is a very common feeling among young women. They aren't aware of the magnitude of the choice they are making.

Having had a child as a teenager, I can completely sympathize. You feel adult enough to make that choice. You feel like you know you can do it and everyone else is just a big downer who is raining on your parade.

I understand these girls don't make a lot of sense to you, we weren't all brought up and able to go to college. Some of us took the only way 'out' we knew how to.

what only way out was that ingi..are you implying getting pregnant to taking the easy way out of going on to college? just wondering not sure if thats what you meant...
but if it is..there are other options than getting pregnant to not go on to college/university, yeah to most it is the next step, but theres the work field, apprenticeship, alot of other things to do rather than go to college or get your self pregnant to take the easy way out

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Mabel

replied on February 4th, 2008

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krystineM wrote:

Ingi wrote:

A lot of girls want someone to love unconditionally - and someone to love them. This is a very common feeling among young women. They aren't aware of the magnitude of the choice they are making.

Having had a child as a teenager, I can completely sympathize. You feel adult enough to make that choice. You feel like you know you can do it and everyone else is just a big downer who is raining on your parade.

I understand these girls don't make a lot of sense to you, we weren't all brought up and able to go to college. Some of us took the only way 'out' we knew how to.

what only way out was that ingi..are you implying getting pregnant to taking the easy way out of going on to college? just wondering not sure if thats what you meant...
but if it is..there are other options than getting pregnant to not go on to college/university, yeah to most it is the next step, but theres the work field, apprenticeship, alot of other things to do rather than go to college or get your self pregnant to take the easy way out

No. Actually it wasn't what I was implying at all. Boys were a way out of my mom's house. A way for me to find 'love'. I in no way meant to imply a way out of school.

Boys led to pregnancy. Then marriage. Then motherhood.

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krystineM

replied on February 4th, 2008

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Ingi wrote:

krystineM wrote:

Ingi wrote:

A lot of girls want someone to love unconditionally - and someone to love them. This is a very common feeling among young women. They aren't aware of the magnitude of the choice they are making.

Having had a child as a teenager, I can completely sympathize. You feel adult enough to make that choice. You feel like you know you can do it and everyone else is just a big downer who is raining on your parade.

I understand these girls don't make a lot of sense to you, we weren't all brought up and able to go to college. Some of us took the only way 'out' we knew how to.

what only way out was that ingi..are you implying getting pregnant to taking the easy way out of going on to college? just wondering not sure if thats what you meant...
but if it is..there are other options than getting pregnant to not go on to college/university, yeah to most it is the next step, but theres the work field, apprenticeship, alot of other things to do rather than go to college or get your self pregnant to take the easy way out

No. Actually it wasn't what I was implying at all. Boys were a way out of my mom's house. A way for me to find 'love'. I in no way meant to imply a way out of school.

Boys led to pregnancy. Then marriage. Then motherhood.

...how? two ppl play a role on pregnancy..and to get pregnant that person either isnt taking or using any form on BC or condom broke or BC didnt work..you cant just pin point it on one individual. Women have a say on marriage, motherhood and whether they want to engage in intercourse.
By what you just said it sounds as if your saying women do not have a mind to do as they please, and in some cases its the girls fault for pregnancy thinking that by becoming pregnant the guy will stay with her forever.

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Mabel

replied on February 4th, 2008

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krystineM wrote:

...how? two ppl play a role on pregnancy..and to get pregnant that person either isnt taking or using any form on BC or condom broke or BC didnt work..you cant just pin point it on one individual. Women have a say on marriage, motherhood and whether they want to engage in intercourse.
By what you just said it sounds as if your saying women do not have a mind to do as they please, and in some cases its the girls fault for pregnancy thinking that by becoming pregnant the guy will stay with her forever.

Actually, that is true in a lot of cases. (My teen pregnancy was the pull out method, by the way)

I wasn't speaking of all women. I was speaking of SOME GIRLS. There is a difference. Some girls are manipulative. Some girls do think the guy will stay with them. Some girls even pretend to be pregnant so he will.

Not everyone is the same.

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krystineM

replied on February 4th, 2008

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Ingi wrote:

krystineM wrote:

...how? two ppl play a role on pregnancy..and to get pregnant that person either isnt taking or using any form on BC or condom broke or BC didnt work..you cant just pin point it on one individual. Women have a say on marriage, motherhood and whether they want to engage in intercourse.
By what you just said it sounds as if your saying women do not have a mind to do as they please, and in some cases its the girls fault for pregnancy thinking that by becoming pregnant the guy will stay with her forever.

Actually, that is true in a lot of cases. (My teen pregnancy was the pull out method, by the way)

I wasn't speaking of all women. I was speaking of SOME GIRLS. There is a difference. Some girls are manipulative. Some girls do think the guy will stay with them. Some girls even pretend to be pregnant so he will.

Not everyone is the same.

With how i got pregnant my birth control didnt work..i think i missed a day actually [not intentionally]

i kno not everyone is the same it just sounded like you were pin pointing getting pregnant on the guy

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Mabel

replied on February 4th, 2008

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Kristine, please read my original post in this thread:

Ingi wrote:

A lot of girls want someone to love unconditionally - and someone to love them. This is a very common feeling among young women. They aren't aware of the magnitude of the choice they are making.

Having had a child as a teenager, I can completely sympathize. You feel adult enough to make that choice. You feel like you know you can do it and everyone else is just a big downer who is raining on your parade.

I understand these girls don't make a lot of sense to you, we weren't all brought up and able to go to college. Some of us took the only way 'out' we knew how to.

It was a reply to FUTURESHOCK's question:

futureshock wrote:

Me neither! I don't get it at all. Why would a girl like that want a baby at that time in her life??? It doesn't make any sense to me. What happened to the guy?

And it was meant that, a lot of young girls have no 'future' plans and what they do want is LOVE. In no way is that implying, or even suggesting that a pregnancy is a man's fault. It is hinting at the fact that maybe we need to be more attentive to our teenage girls, give them hope for a future and a lot of attention so they don't seek the attention of boys and think that when they do get pregnant someone is going to love them unconditionally. Which doesn't happen, by the way.

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krystineM

replied on February 4th, 2008

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Boys led to pregnancy. Then marriage. Then motherhood.[/quote]

Did you not say that?
That is why i said it SOUNDED like you were putting the pregnancy fault all on the guy.
And second, calm down! i can voice my own opinion here too, i understand it was a reply to Future and frankly i do not really care who it was to, all i was first off ASKING was if you were saying that pregnancy was an easy way out of going on to college, which you cleared up for me and SECOND to say that not all pregnancy is the fault of a guy by what YOUR COMMENT said above. THAT IS ALL! Breathe woman! god!

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