Ilovejulietannafaye
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don't know..
Posted: 01-31-08 14:27pm
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I don't know right now.. what the best
decision is.. I have no house.. no rreal
job.. no money.. and can not find a job..
I want to keep my baby.. but if things
don't start looking up how do i do it.. I
wish.. I wish.. i had been smart.. I don't
want to give my baby up.. but I don't want
to not be able to provide for it either..
ugh.. I mean i work for some people making
15 dollars an hour.. but..how long does a
not official job last?
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Posted: 01-31-08 15:01pm
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I understand that things can be really
tough when you are pregnant. I think you
need to sit down and figure everything
out. Do you have a place to live? Money?
Food? Are you going to be able to care for
you child like she should be cared for?
Also, I don't understand why you made a
post talking about getting pregnant as
soon as possible, if you don't think you
will be able to take care of this one?!
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Ilovejulietannafaye
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Posted: 01-31-08 15:32pm
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no.. i said my bf wanted me to.. and i did
not want to. cause of money and things
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SamanthaM
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Posted: 01-31-08 15:34pm
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You said in your other post that it might
be a good thing. It definitely wouldn't.
There are a lot of options though, if I
were you I'd do some research. Tell your
boyfriend to get those silly thoughts out
of his head.
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Ilovejulietannafaye
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Posted: 01-31-08 16:53pm
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I also meant if we got in a place we could
do it.
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Posted: 01-31-08 16:56pm
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I thought you said you lived together...
And I really hate to say this but it is
very obvious everyone is thinking this:
your story is not making much sense.
Look, you are 1/2 the way through this
pregnancy, you need to get things figured
out and fast. You SHOULD not be thinking
about a second baby when you don't even
have the stability right now for a first
baby. Take this day by day.
Are you keeping this baby?
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Ilovejulietannafaye
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Posted: 01-31-08 16:59pm
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yea.. i think..i know.. I wrote all this
in a frenzy when i was upset and crying we
live together at someones house.. where we
make 15 dollars an hour.. i don't get to
do much cause they are all like you will
hurt the baby..we are not together right
now.. cause i am at my mom's and he is at
his grandmas. I do not want a second child
right now.. I want to be able to take care
of this one.
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Posted: 01-31-08 17:01pm
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You need to check into getting some
parenting classes before this baby is
born.
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Ilovejulietannafaye
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Posted: 01-31-08 17:04pm
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yeah.. i have alot to do. Why did nobody
tell me this wasn't all candy and
flowers... no seriously.. we have been
trying our hineys off to get jobs and
stable.. he is at his grandmother house to
fix our vehicle which will make it a
little easier.. just where we were
living.. we had no transportation.. not
even a bus.. so it made it hard. now we
are on a little bit better path slowly but
surely things are gtting better
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Posted: 01-31-08 17:05pm
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Together you make $15 dollars an hour or
just you or just him? $15 an hour is
enough to support yourself and a child on
- a lot of women do it on less than that!
Why is anyone telling you what you can and
cannot do? If you are an adult and are not
doing anything that harms the baby or is
illegal, you can do whatever you please.
And, FYI, pregnancy is not a disease and
you do not need to be cautious and
bedridden. You can still do nearly
everything you could do before - exercise,
swim, bike, etc.
How are you planning on caring for this
child? You never answere if you were
keeping it.
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Posted: 01-31-08 17:06pm
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Right now you need to do what is best for
your baby. You need to sit down and ask
yourself if you will be able to provide
him/her with what they need. Food,
diapers, shelter, security, etc. Having a
child isn't easy by any means. There are
some programs out there that can probably
help you if you decide to keep the baby -
WIC and Medicaid, for example. If you
don't think it's best to keep the baby,
start looking into adoption agencies ASAP.
There are TONS of couples out there who
are more than able to provide a baby with
a wonderful life. Again, think of what's
best for the baby.
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Ilovejulietannafaye
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Posted: 01-31-08 17:08pm
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mhmm I said yea.. i think.. we work doing
odd jobs for somebody so it is not a
stable income.. yes we could do it on 15
dollars and hour each... but.. there is no
telling when the work will just STOP
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Posted: 01-31-08 17:10pm
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If you both make $15/hr each, that is more
than enough money. You need to go out and
find a different job if you think this one
will not last.
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Posted: 01-31-08 17:10pm
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| Ilovejulietannafaye
wrote: | | mhmm I said yea.. i think..
we work doing odd jobs for somebody so it
is not a stable income.. yes we could do
it on 15 dollars and hour each... but..
there is no telling when the work will
just STOP |
So get another job - or two. Hopefully you
are saving up money... because babies get
expensive! Diapers and formula are an
every day expense! Stock up on diapers
now. They don't go bad, so you can get
tons to have for later to spread out the
expense.
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Posted: 01-31-08 17:18pm
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i plan on it.. we just started working and
then had to leave and put money into his
vehicle.. so right now no we have no money
saved. I have alot of clothes. and a
stroller and things like that.. but no
diapers yet. all the money we had saved
went to fixing his truck so that we can
get better jobs... cause lord knows... i
just about can not take anymore stress or
ima get locked in a dang insane asylum
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Posted: 01-31-08 17:19pm
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Well, it only gets worse from here. So set
a plan in motion now.
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Ilovejulietannafaye
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Posted: 01-31-08 17:23pm
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listen we were fine living with his aunt
paying rent and things.. and buying food
and trying to save what little money she
did not steal.. the she got drunk and hit
him alot and pushed me..so we were out on
our butts... immediatly so, we kinda are
down on our luck
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Posted: 01-31-08 17:26pm
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| Ilovejulietannafaye
wrote: | | listen we were fine living
with his aunt paying rent and things.. and
buying food and trying to save what little
money she did not steal.. the she got
drunk and hit him alot and pushed me..so
we were out on our butts... immediatly so,
we kinda are down on our
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Well good luck with that.
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