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Q: Ex girlfriend problem
asked by: Ryan N on January 30th, 2008
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Hey there,

I recently broke up with my girlfriend, as she was way too clingy and suffocated me as if we were married (yet we're only in high school). I told her we'd just be friends so as not to hurt her feelings. Holidays are now soon to be over, and going back to school is getting worrying for me. When we were going out, we'd hang around exclusively with each other (Occasionally I'd try to hang around with my friends so they didn't get offended).

Now that we are going back to school, she's going to want to hang around with me. That's annoying but acceptable if I can still hang around my friends and she just comes along. But I'm pretty certain she's gonna want it to be just us.

Admittedly, I'm starting to feel disdain for her as time progresses. She's one of those people that complains non-stop about something, but never does anything to fix it. She keeps saying she has no friends, but then when a girl from school is really nice and talks to her, she just complains after that she hates them.

I thought if I broke up with her, I'd be free of her clingyness. She'd say things like "We're gonna get married!" and I'd agree with her because I felt pressured into saying it. At first I kinda believed it, but then she just got more and more clingy, and I finally realized that her personality just annoyed me. I can't say to her "I don't really wanna be friends" because I know that would just hurt her.

I feel like I'm trapped, which makes me angry. That anger is slowly turning into a hatred for her, which I feel guilty about. I've tried to express all this through drawings and poetry, but they don't make me feel much better.
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panicballoon
replied on January 31st, 2008
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would you still want to be with her if she gave you breathing room?

I think it would be unfair to break up with her for the reasons you have described above without her knowing what she was doing wrong.

Explain to her your concerns, give her a chance to shape up, but if she protests or just doesn't get the hint that you need some time to yourself (it is what really helps keep a relationship healthy...time apart) then send her off.

also, us girls at that high school age think we are going to marry every boyfriend we have, but we eventually learn that saying things like that generally scare the crap out of a guy. We can be more emotional than practical at times, esp. when we are teenagers. You made the mistake of just going along with it instead of speaking your true feelings.

You can't hold stuff in. It will bite you later.

hope that helps.
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Larlen
replied on April 3rd, 2008
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I totally agree with what you just said!
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