I miss my fiance something TERRIBLE! We have only slept in the same bed 3 times since we brought sophia home. I know that's why i'm not sleeping well at all when i do. We are doing shift work so we both get a decent amount of sleep. Cause i'm a crazy health forum when i don't LOL. I would give anything for little miss sophia to start sleeping a bit more at a time so i can share my bed with my hunny. Does that make me a bad mom? lol

I think both of these situations are totally normal. When we first brought Cheyenne home from the hospital, I wanted to spend every single moment with her. Now that she's a little older, things have started to balance out. I still very much enjoy being with her, but I also enjoy the quiet time that my husband and I have together. Neither one of you are bad mothers, you are just trying to adjust to having a new baby around and balance your time. It will get easier.

aw katrina itll get better. I sat around watching Macy all the time but then steven was in school at the time. give it sometime its your first baby. try to cudle and show jacob you love him at night when yall get in bed.

I thought that's the normal way to feel.. you always hear about moms who want some alone time away from their kids. And I feel like a freak because I just don't. I don't want to be away from her at all.


Thanks mamaTT (I can't remember your name ) It makes me feel better.

Dani, I try that but we both end up pissy because cuddlin' usually leads to lovin' but we can't do anything But I am going to make myself leave Jay in our room and watch a movie with him tonight :]

Quality time with your partner is very important to stop them feeling cast out.

Hope you enjoy the movie

Katrina I was just like that, I wanted to be with jay 24/7..which I was lol but I didnt want to be away from him for a second, or let anyone else do the things he needed me to do for him etc. I wouldnt go out or take a break away from him at all unless I was sleeping. I cant imagine if I would have had to share my time between my baby and a partner! Guess its a good thing I was single lol. I agree with what Dani said, try to have a little time just you and jacob in the evening to talk and cuddle or watch a movie or whatever. Isn't he at school or work in the daytime anyway?

Katrina, I feel the exact same way with Dante. I think it's normal, esp with your first kid and they're so young. Set aside some time at least every week or so to go do something alone with your fiance and have someone watch her even if it's just for an hr.

That's ok. It's not a very easy to remember name. It's Tiesha...pronounced Tsha; just in case you were wondering. My parents just had to get creative.

Remember when you told people you were pregnant and they all said, "Oh...!" Well, this his part of that "Oh...!" Every couple - EVERY SINGLE COUPLE WHO HAS HAD CHILDREN! (if you say, "Not me & my husband!" YOU ARE LYING!) has had to make huge adjustments in their relationship when they add an entirely new human being! This is a fact of life. You cannot have your heart learn unconditional love and not have some issues with the love of your life.

Not only are you busier than you ever thought you'd be - everything in your life has changed, right down to what you think of when you go to sleep at night. Most new moms want to hold and cuddle their new babies all day! Why do you think nothing else ever gets done? Because babies sleep 90% of the time at first and still those new moms (me included!) never get anything done. We can't put those babies down.

Some men feel jealous of this new creature taking all their attention away. Some don't. But it is an adjustment for EVERYONE. You aren't any worse than anyone else.

If it bothers you, you could set aside some 'couple' time every few days. Where you put the baby to bed and hang out together - just the two of you.

Hmm you all make me feel like a bad mom lol. I spend 90% of the day with BOTH kids, and all i want is some time with the hunny, but there isn't any. Maybe i'm messed up.

lol katrina, i love just climbing in to bed and falling asleep in stevens arms, its the best.

Nope that's completely normal too.

I think we've got a really good balance here. Kyle is gone all day at work, and from the time he's home till Kylie goes to bed, he's all about her, which I totally love, sometimes since i've been pregnant again I feel a little ignored lol. Once she's in bed though, it's our time ^^. Stuff will work out hun, it's a huge adjustment.