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Q: White Wedding Dress = Virgins Only??

asked by: love_pinkish on January 30th, 2008

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I was talking with a co-worker today at work about wedding plans. And I told her I wanted to wear sleath (a form fitting gown that contours to your natural silhouette) style white wedding dress not the basque or ball grown style. Just something nice and simple. She says something like dude you're not a virgin why are you gonna wear a white dress. I was like well I'm not Catholic.

Now I'm not sure if it's only Catholic or if it's even Catholic that goes by that only virgins wear white when the get married. I just feel I shouldn't have to be pressured or looked down upon for wearing a white dress.

Can I have some of y'all opinions about this whole white dress thing. I'm so confused right now!

Replies(29)

Lilly Ivy

replied on January 30th, 2008

Extremely eHealthy

It's a personal option. It's YOUR wedding, do what YOU want to do. My mom was Catholic when she was married, and her mother DID NOT let her wear a white wedding dress (It was purple, and I think it looked much better than a white one Wink

). If and when I have a wedding, I'm definitely wearing a white dress, when I'm CLEARLY NOT a virgin (I'm pregnant Laughing

)

It's not her choice on what color your dress is. I've known women with a couple kids wear a white dress (my mom included). So again, it's personal choice and is YOUR wedding.

Darkmoon

replied on January 30th, 2008

Active User, very eHealthy

Lilly Ivy nailed it as far as I'm concerned. I wore purple at my wedding because it's a flattering color on me and I fell in love with the medieval dress when I saw it. Bridezilla's are born of old traditions and pressure, imho.

Jincks013

replied on January 30th, 2008

Extremely eHealthy

I wore emerald green satin on my wedding day; I wouldn't have worn white if someone had paid me. To me, in my beliefs, white is the color or mourning I can't see why anyone would wear it? And with a then 5 year old daughter NOTHING white stayed white long.

Verizon-y

replied on January 30th, 2008

Extremely eHealthy

I would just laugh at your co-worker. Most people wear white, and most people are not virgins. Do virgin men have to wear white tuxes? Can non-virgin men wear white tuxes if they want?

Tell her to take her double standard and shove it. Tell her you are not property that is being sold to your husband on your wedding day.

Birch

replied on January 30th, 2008

Extremely eHealthy

Screw tradition. Wear gold lame' if you want. The important thing is the strengths of your vows, not what you look like when you make them.

Becky

replied on January 30th, 2008

Especially eHealthy

I wore a red dress- but I would of wore a white one if I had wanted. I'm not one to care for tradition

meblonde01

replied on January 30th, 2008

Extremely eHealthy

Ware what ever you feel beauitful in it's your day!

sillyakchick

replied on January 30th, 2008

Extremely eHealthy

futureshock wrote:

Nobody should be made to wear a white tux-virgin or not-except Ricardo Montalban! Very Happy

I agree! Wear what you want and make your friend come in a black veil.

Birch

replied on January 30th, 2008

Extremely eHealthy

My friend's husband wanted to wear sleeveless tuxedos. Hmm.

sillyakchick

replied on January 30th, 2008

Extremely eHealthy

How about those tuxedo t shirts? They are great if you are under five years of age.

Lilly Ivy

replied on January 30th, 2008

Extremely eHealthy

my friend wore one of those to prom... thank goodness his wedding was medieval themed because I was afraid he was gonna wear it there too! She wore white and according to what he told us -in detail- she wasn't a virgin, lol. *sigh* I want a nice medieval dress!!

yellow ribbon

replied on January 30th, 2008

Especially eHealthy

im on my third kid and i intend wear white when we have a wedding. (we are married but didnt have a big fancy wedding) i think wedding dresses should be whatever you want them to be. if you wanna wear a tux do it

Tylanas

replied on January 31st, 2008

Especially eHealthy

White doesn't really have anything to do with virginity... in fact a lot of other countries consider white the color of death! Even Amercians did. White wedding dresses are really a new phenomenon.

love_pinkish

replied on January 31st, 2008

Supporter

Thanks girls for all your input and advice! I really appreciate it!!!!! If I decide not to wear white it'll be ivory or champagne in color. And you know what I'll mention that white meant color of death in other countries and she what she says! LoL Very Happy

Thanks again!!

Roberta777

replied on February 3rd, 2008

Active User, very eHealthy

Ivory or Pink

can be just as beautiful. Look at all the people having children and having their big weddings in NYC wearing white with the baby in waiting.

Wear what makes you happy. When I married my husband, I had already been married very young and it was kinda out of the question to consider a veil or even ivory. So I chose pink with beautiful re-embroidered lace. Made the gown myself and my bridesmaid's dresses too.

This day belongs to you and your husband. It will be wonderful and special, I know.

homerx

replied on February 6th, 2008

Moderator

Birch wrote:

Screw tradition. Wear gold lame' if you want. The important thing is the strengths of your vows, not what you look like when you make them.

RIGHT ON!

number game

replied on February 8th, 2008

Extremely eHealthy

I don't think people really hang on to this idea much anymore! Most people I've not in my lifetime were not virgins at the time they got married and they ALL got married in white gowns. This is YOUR wedding I say wear what YOU want!!!

CaNdItAs CrAzY LaNd

replied on February 8th, 2008

Supporter

if i were you id have fun with her saying you decided to wear a scarlet red wedding dress lol i know someone who actually wore one for her first wedding lol

marvel

replied on February 9th, 2008

Supporter

It's merely symbolism. Make your own symbolisms. Whether you're a virgin or not is only your business.

I'm tempted to wear a neon green tux at my wedding just to be a Ask A Doctor

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