This has been lowering my confidence as
the days go by, I am 19 and turning 20
this year and have never had sex once yet.
I could have had sex because I had the
opportunity at times, but I was never
willing to go for it because of my tight
foreskin.
Its really making me depressed. I knew
that if I were ever going to have sex, I
would hurt myself somehow because my
foreskin is super tight. It doesn't
retract when i'm flaccid or errect at all.
When the doctor told me I had to get
circumcised I had a breakdown right there
in the room. I don't know why but
something about getting cut just scares
me. Surgery is one thing but getting cut
in that part of my body then just walking
out like its a normal thing, I don't
understand how people do it.
Thats not my only concern, but since my
glans have never been exposed, they are
extremely sensitive. I can't touch the tip
of my penis without jumping, its really
sensitive.
I don't know what to do, I have tight
foreskin and sensitive glans on top of
that and still a virgin at 19.
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fiona05
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Posted: 01-30-08 10:18am
if your glans is so sensitive that you
jump when you touch it then circumcision
doesnt sound like the best idea. the
foreskin is there to protect your glans.
most cases of phimosis are treatable, but
i dont know how severe yours is. can you
pull back your foreskin at all when
flaccid or erect? if so how much?
you should try the stretching exercises.
have you tried them before? if you do them
every day then slowly you should start to
see improvement.
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MiseEire
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Joined: 17 Jan 2008 Posts: 170
Posted: 01-30-08 15:12pm
Hold on a minute now.
There's a reason why an uncircumcised
glans is really sensitive. When you get
circumcised the glans needs to grow an
extra layer of very thin skin which allows
for normal sensitivity to resume. This
takes about six weeks.
If your foreskin doesn't retract at all,
none of the stretching techniques will
work. I'm facing the exact same situation
come summer and it doesn't worry me at
all. Rest assured, surgeons tend to do a
very good job with this operation because
it's very common. You will experience a
degree of pain but you will be prescribed
painkillers and you will have to take time
off work/school. Other than that you have
nothing to worry about.
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BullZye
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Joined: 12 Jul 2007 Posts: 112
Posted: 01-30-08 18:15pm
Are you sure I will be prescribed
painkillers? I heard they don't give you
anything for circumcision.
I can't pull my foreskin back at all
whether flaccid or errect. I've tried
stretching techniques and I did them every
night for a while. But when I woke up in
the morning its like I didn't do any
stretching at all, there was no
difference.
I'm sure that stretching techniques would
work but it would take me at least a year
to cure it myself, and even then I would
still have to deal with the sensitivity of
my glans.
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MiseEire
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Jan 2008 Posts: 170
Posted: 01-30-08 19:25pm
You may not be prescribed painkillers but
an over-the-counter
anti-inflammatory/opiate might be
recommended at the very least. They
usually recommend to wear baggy clothes
immediately after the operation in order
to avoid the sensitive glans (which will
probably feel most sensitive only on the
upper side) rubbing off material.
If you're in the same boat as I'm in (and
I'm guessing you are), the stretching
techniques are ineffective because you
probably have a phimotic ring which is
consistent with the type of phimosis which
disallows retraction, flaccid or erect. A
phimotic ring is a ring-shaped build-up of
tight skin above the glans which cannot be
loosened by stretches or ointments. The
only way to get rid of it is
circumcision.
Circumcision has its benefits, it's
certainly better having a circumcised
penis w/o phimosis than an uncircumcised
penis w/ phimosis.
There's absolutely no need to get worried
or stressed about this. It's a
straight-forward, highly beneficial
procedure in your case. Leaving this be
would be far worse in terms of hygiene and
long-term libido problems.
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BullZye
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Joined: 12 Jul 2007 Posts: 112
Posted: 01-30-08 20:37pm
Alright thanks.
Do you know how long it would take for the
sensitivity to go away? I can't picture
myself walking around with the whole head
of my penis exposed for the first time in
my life under my pants/boxers. I think i'd
have to just sit in a chair all day and
sleep on my side or something.
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MiseEire
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Jan 2008 Posts: 170
Posted: 01-31-08 22:14pm
It's recommended that you sleep on your
side for the first couple of days. You
should get used to the initial sensitivity
within the space of a few days and then
things will start feeling perfectly normal
after a few weeks. You will have to
abstain from masturbation and sex for a
month or so as well in order to let it
heal properly.
It isn't the most convenient thing but
it's not exactly the most terrible healing
process in the world either. It's better
to bite the bullet and get it over and
done with when you can.
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donb_fl
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Joined: 13 Sep 2007 Posts: 22 Location: Palm Beach, FL USA
Posted: 02-05-08 13:21pm
BTW, they can remove ONLY the phimotic
ring causing the problem, a small change
that will preserve most of your forskin.
They can even do a Z cut in it which
widens it and makes its removal unneeded.
Circ is a pretty severe solution to a
relitivty small problem..
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MiseEire
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Joined: 17 Jan 2008 Posts: 170
Posted: 02-05-08 15:30pm
It is my understanding that the phimotic
ring can only be removed on its own if it
can be retracted under the glans normally,
this being known as a preputioplasty where
the ring is simply snipped. Forcing the
glans through it if it's very tight
wouldn't be done.
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donb_fl
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Joined: 13 Sep 2007 Posts: 22 Location: Palm Beach, FL USA
Posted: 02-05-08 15:55pm
actually, the band is removed, then after
healing, stretching with steroid cream is
done for the rest fo the foreskin. this is
an alternative for the guy who does not
wish to have a full circ and does not like
the look of the V notch they take out for
the other alternative procedure. It takes
a bit more work, but if a guy wants to
keep his foreskin, then its an
alternative. This is for true clinical
Phimosis where the ring has hardened and
may be even calcified. Skin can be
stretched, but a clinically hardened
phimotic ring can not. 95% of guys
diagnosed with "Phimosis" do not actualy
have clinical Phimosis, but just lack of
plasticity of the foreskin which can be
treated more conservatively.
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conger
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Joined: 24 Jun 2008 Posts: 1
??? Posted: 06-24-08 17:58pm
hi
i am a 13 year old boy and my foreskin is
tight. i mastabate reguarly but my
question is : is it normal to have a
tight foreskin at the age of 13 dose it go
away in later life. all replies welcome
p.s plz dont say the doctor i would rather
stear clear of that if possiple
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xbon
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Joined: 07 Oct 2008 Posts: 1
Posted: 10-07-08 04:43am
Conger
I would suggest you ask a member of your
family, dad, older brother, uncle etc
I personally suffered from a tight
foreskin until i was 26 when i plucked up
enough courage to do something about it.
Also this April i took my nephew to be
circumcised privately since the age of 6
he has had problems adn eventually pain
and this intensified has he entered his
early teens and got the million plus a day
erections, 1 week before his 13th birthday
he was circumcised , after he insisted to
his mum he needed it doing and since no
dad was on the scene i took him with
consent.
He was nervous and worried but knew he
needed it sorting
this is what happened..
we went into the doctors who examined him
then he injected his penis with some
numbing stuff
5minutes later he cut down the foreskin
removed his frenum (because after
explaining what it was he wished this)
with this electrical zapper thing and
inserted a device called a plastibell and
tied it, it took 14minutes , my nephew
then stayed with me, because i was at
home, 10 days later it dropped off
foreskin and all, my nephew is really
pleased with the result and has told me
that the worry was the worst, not the
operation.
the first night he said was the most
painful - paracetamol got rid of the pain
NO Aspirin based pain killers must be
used, after 2-3 days the pain wasnt there
he said he got used to it and the only
discomfort was when he was erect etc.
So mate go and get yourself seen to, we as
men always put things off.