everyone's first time is different. whether it hurts or not will depend a lot on two things: 1. if you still have a hymen (some women do, but some break theirs doing other activities long before their first time), and 2. if you're with someone who cares about you and doesn't want to hurt you. there are a lot of things you and your partner can do to minimize or eliminate pain for you. the most important thing you can do is to relax. you should be very turned on/lubricated/prepared before starting. you will want to keep a bottle of lubricant on hand. even if you make your own lubrication, store bought lubricant can definitely help things go along

okay thank you

Run4life pretty much covered everything. For MOST women, the first night or any night should NOT hurt because there is no hymen to break.

As Run said, you need lube. Whether your body's own or store-bought: Get Wet!! Don't just lube up your vagina and vulva: ALSO lube up the penis!! Dry penis wet vagina still = ouch!

Be relaxed and turned on and "in the mood". Start with nights of foreplay, if you haven't made it to all of the other bases first!!

mm k

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asked by: Rosa316 (online) yesterday 18:43
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ok me and my boyfriend have been dating for 7 months and we are ready to have sex.
I am still a virgin,but he is not and has sex several times.Well we have talked about having sex for about a month now and the other night when i asked him what position he was interested in he said with me on top.....he said because he didnt wanna hurt me with it bein my 1st time and all and also because i am quite a bit smaller than he is...Well here is my problem i really dont know what to do(on top or really at all) and dont wanna look or feel like an fool....i wanna do it right and be able to satisfy him.....I know he wont say anything or care if i am bad but i dont wanna be bad