What to expect the first time Posted: 01-29-08 11:21am
Sex was never something that we discussed
in our family. I did not get a sexual
education at school (catholic school), and
my mom would rather die than talk about
it, and if she ever found out that I had
sex before my wedding night she would kill
me. I know about birth control and all
that I just want to know things like will
it hurt? Are there positions that could
make it more comfortable for me? Should I
take a tylenol? Anything would be helpful!
I am excited but still a little nervous.
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run4life10
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Posted: 01-29-08 18:56pm
everyone's first time is different.
whether it hurts or not will depend a lot
on two things: 1. if you still have a
hymen (some women do, but some break
theirs doing other activities long before
their first time), and 2. if you're with
someone who cares about you and doesn't
want to hurt you. there are a lot of
things you and your partner can do to
minimize or eliminate pain for you. the
most important thing you can do is to
relax. you should be very turned
on/lubricated/prepared before starting.
you will want to keep a bottle of
lubricant on hand. even if you make your
own lubrication, store bought lubricant
can definitely help things go along
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sara19
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Posted: 01-29-08 19:06pm
okay thank you
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Tylanas
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Posted: 01-29-08 19:53pm
Run4life pretty much covered everything.
For MOST women, the first night or any
night should NOT hurt because there is no
hymen to break.
As Run said, you need lube. Whether your
body's own or store-bought: Get Wet!!
Don't just lube up your vagina and vulva:
ALSO lube up the penis!! Dry penis + wet
vagina still = ouch!
Be relaxed and turned on and "in the
mood". Start with nights of foreplay, if
you haven't made it to all of the other
bases first!!
