Hello, all!
I found all of these posts very interesting and helpful in their complexity... no two alcoholics are alike!
I have always been a high-strung person; perhaps a perfectionist, perhaps suffering from anxiety issues, I'm not quite sure. I learned in high school after a few bad experiences that I should stay far away from spirits. In any case, I began to drink beer and wine regularly after 21. When I reached about 24, I was drinking an average of 4-8 drinks a night (again, beer and wine) and I noticed that it was part of my nightly routine, like brushing my teeth. I justified this intake as a sleeping aid. I now realize at 31 that using alcohol, be it beer, wine, vodka, etc as medication IS alcoholism. A problem far worse than my "insomnia" ever was. However, I still do it. I'm trying to stop.
When I stop drinking, I feel really weird for about a week and I have nightmares. I've found that this normalizes after a few days. After that, I can't sleep enough! I'm used to about 6-8 hours a night, and after 3-4 days of abstinance I'm ready and able to sleep 10-12 hours... with naps! I think this may stem from the fact that an alcohol induced sleep is not very restful and I am physically exhuasted from drinking. When this happens, I figure it's better to sleep than drink, my body is telling me something. Eight O'clock bedtime it is! I also experienced this when I quit smoking. I had a lot of conflicting chemicals in my system.
This all being said, I'm still fighting alcohol and it's a stalemate. Beer is a better friend than cigarettes, but it isn't a friend.
These are my tips:
Don't buy booze -
-You can't but it if you don't have money! Don't carry money unless you have a purpose. Leave the house with necessary ID, keys, and phone. I know this seems like overkill, but I live across the street from a liquor store - beer is super easy to pick up on the way home from work. It's best to limit the temptation. You only have to do it for a week to develop new habits!
Drink tea-
A salad is NOT a pizza. Tea is NOT alcohol and it does NOT have the desired effect on your body. However, it can become a ritual much like alcohol. I know this because I've seen my husband do it- he is stronger than me! When I crack open a beer, he makes a cup of tea. I am learning a lot from him (he's been sober for a year without any external help).
Drink ANYTHING other than alcohol* -
perrier and citrus
iced tea - home made!
coffee
infused sparkling water
juice
juice with sparkling water (it's like a bellini!)
virgin bloody mary **
club soda with lime
coke
tab
* the more of these you drink, the more alcohol will taste like poison. It is poison, not medicine.
** avoid the temptation to try one with alcohol as a hangover cure. Again, alcohol is not medicine.
Do more sober activities with friends -
If you find yourself thinking, "all my friends want to do is drink" and you're nearing your 30s, chances are they're thinking the same thing. Suggest a daytime activity that doesn't reach its apex at a bar... think like a kid! Really, what did you think was fun in high school? Chances are you haven't changed much.
park
beach
bikes
batting cages
amusement park
arcade
museum
scholarly talk
concert (even punk is better sober)
cooking class
swimming pool
Well, I could go on and on, but mostly these tips were just a way for me to help myself. I hope they can help others too!