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girlfriend wants break Posted: 01-29-08 01:24am
I've been seeing a girl for about a year
and half now, the past three months have
been a little harder because I moved to
college and she still has to finish this
semester of high school, also we both have
jobs. She's the one, I wnt to marry her,
and she's said the same. lately the
distance has gotten hard, we fight more,
and when I come home its awkward and we
get in arguments. I know that doesn't
sound great, but the good time in between
outway the bad by worlds. She told me
tonight she wants to take a break and take
the semester off since we're apart and not
working right, she says she still loves me
and doesn't want to end it, but my
impression of "breaks" isn't a good one. I
feel like my world is over without her in
it, she's the reason I get up, not in an
obsessive way, I just know she's the one.
I never understood that "When you're in
love you just know" until I met her. Can
anyone tell me how to handle this, I'm so
afraid she won't want to come back to me
and I'll be left loving her by myself, I
just want to feel better.
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Whaturmuva
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Posted: 01-29-08 07:06am
I'm not sure if there is anything you can
personally do here. She seems to have made
up her mind about needing time and that is
what you need to give her. If she hasn't
cut off all communication then keep in
contact with her and be a good friend. Let
your best qualities shine and that might
make her come back sooner.
She said it wasn't over so you just need
to trust her and give her time to take a
breather and come back and make a stronger
relationship.
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samba88
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Posted: 01-29-08 17:28pm
Yea, I've calmed down a it since this
break started, I still get really down at
points but im trying to sta positive, i
really hope that she still loves me when
shes had the time she needs, my friends
say it will be good for us, Im still
really scared though, im also glad though
bc its proven to me that shes the one.
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Maddie34
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Posted: 01-29-08 18:14pm
Did she say why she needed this break?
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bobbette
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Posted: 01-29-08 18:25pm
If she wants a break--give her a
break--don't fight it--spend time with
your friends and activities--stay busy--u
really can't know exactly"why" she wants a
break --give her some space and by the
same token-- enjoy and cultivate new
friends and interests. Don't obsess.
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samba88
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Posted: 01-29-08 18:37pm
I'm by no means obsessing, it just hurts
not having her be a part of my life right
now. She said she wanted a break bc I'm
away at school, we both have jobs, so
getting to see each other is hard and she
said she didnt want to try and keep a
serious relationship alive with those
factors, i understand where shes comign
from, and it makes sense, just miss her
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bobbette
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Posted: 01-29-08 19:25pm
Okay--sorry-- it is hard not to become
overhelmed by this-- just let it be for a
while and i know it may sound hokey but if
ya'll are meant to be then it will be.
There are lots and lots of possibilites
out there. If ya'lls possibility is
strong enough mutually then everything
will work out. i am really sorry that
ya'll are so far apart -- it is difficult
making long distance relationships work.
If the bond between u two is strong enough
--your relationship will survive. Hang in
there! Peace--Love--Prayers--Bobbette
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