Hey

Im a 21yr old guy who up until recently has enjoyed a pretty decent sex life. However the last time i had sex with my new gf i couldnt get hard enough to penetrate and lost it within seconds. Obviously she was upset over it and I felt ashamed by it and am worried how it will affect us.

This was the 4th time weve had sex, the first 2 times went smoothly despite been worried about my performence however during the 3rd time her parents woke up during which freaked me out causing me to lose it. This last time i just couldnt even manage anything.

Now im thinking its pshycological but i managed to perform the first time so i dont know why that would be a problem at this point. It may also be due to tiredness as ive recently not been getting much sleep however would it affect things this soon?

Ive been trying to get and maintain an erection since then but i always feel sick with worry about losing it and do indeed lose it. Now im terrified over the next time we try it incase the same thing happens

Any advice on this matter would be appricated