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Q: Mother Effer.
asked by: arcadia on January 28th, 2008
Extremely eHealthy
So the drama begins.

Again.

Chris knows about me & Kory.
Which is fine. We aren't keeping it a secret.

But he is pissed.

He's yelling at me telling me that he
knew I would go back to Kory, & that's
why he made the decision to not take me back.
what? That doesn't even make sense.
I did not talk to Kory until after Chris made
his decision. He keeps apologizing that he
was never good enough & he's trying to
guilt-trip me big time. He sarcastically told me
I'm an amazing person with great morals..
Rolling Eyes

This is so ridiculous!
He's pissed at me for moving on after
he told me straight up that he made his decision
& he NEVER EVER wanted to be with me ever again!

I am so frustrated & I just want to be happy.

I'm starting to think that as long as Chris
is in the picture, he will never let me be happy.

I understand that it hurts him to know I'm with Kory.

But it was his decision.
He could've had me back.

I've gotta move on.
I can't dwell on him forever.
I don't want to.
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Mabel
replied on January 28th, 2008
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Sometimes guys are dumb! Smile Sometimes they only want us when they cannot have us. Sounds a little like he doesn't want you to be happy with someone else.

Just let him go and let whatever he says roll off your back. He'll say a lot of things if he knows it hurts you.
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arcadia
replied on January 28th, 2008
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I just keep telling him not to be like this & that I'm sorry but I've got to do what's right for me. Ugh. It's so frustrating.
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arcadia
replied on January 28th, 2008
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It's also frustrating because he wouldn't give two flying f%$*s if it were ANYBODY else on this planet other than Kory.
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Mabel
replied on January 28th, 2008
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Part of the suckage of having an ex who is also baby's dad is that you have to be involved with them in some capacity for the rest of... forever. OK, that isn't really true. You can stop at some point when the kids are teens and they make their own plans, etc with their absent parent.

Until then, though, it does suck! Keep talking to a minimum and only say what needs to be said.
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acruz
replied on January 28th, 2008
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Men...HA.. Im sorry that he is doing this, right when when everything was going awesome!!! Grr...I would be irritated too...that is not his decision who you are with, he let you go...he needs to realize that you aren't his property and he cannot control you and should not try and dictate who or what you do. Sorry hon! Sad Just let what he says in one ear and out the other!
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SamanthaM
replied on January 28th, 2008
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I'm sorry that Chris is being a jerk. He made his decision so he needs to get over it. You need to do what is right for you and Gabe, not him.
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arcadia
replied on January 28th, 2008
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He keeps saying he never wants to see me with anyone else & that he loves me so much & he never wanted me to leave & blah blah blah.

WTF. I tried so EFFING hard to prove myself to him & to try to redeem myself. I would have commited myself 100% to redeeming myself for the rest of my freaking life. He would've gotten over it & he knows it, too.

HE'S the one who didn't want me back.

& He's trying to make ME feel like I'M wrong.
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Mabel
replied on January 28th, 2008
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But you aren't wrong.
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SamanthaM
replied on January 28th, 2008
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You need to tell him to stop messing with your emotions. You tried hard to prove yourself and he still said he didn't want to be with you. If he loves you so much he wouldn't be doing this to you. You deserve to be happy, and he needs to realize that.
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arcadia
replied on January 28th, 2008
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That's what I said.

I told him it's not fair that he's being like this, because he's the one who didn't want me back. I told him he's acting like I was supposed to wait around for him to change his mind after he made his final decision.

Uh, no.
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SamanthaM
replied on January 28th, 2008
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I wish he wasn't doing this. You deserve all the happiness in the world.
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Willa Weintraub
replied on January 28th, 2008
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Screw him Krissy! You deserve to be happy and he made his choice. now he has to live with it.
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young Girl
replied on January 28th, 2008
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ugh
krissy
it seems like maybe chris learned a tough lesson of: you never know what you got til its gone Wink

i know its frusterating. but babe you do what makes you happy. chris made the choice to block yuo out in the first place so he cant expect you to say "oh your hurt? im sorry.let me just put my life on pause for you again and i'll be sad just to make you happy"
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kaiteo
replied on January 28th, 2008
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I would be frustrated too, Krissy.

He's jealous. He has realized what he lost, and now he has to live with that.
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Becky
replied on January 28th, 2008
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When you said you got back together i though you meant with Chris- that's why I didn't reply!


Hun it's just the simple case of him not wanting to see you happy.

He'll get over it... eventually
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ebarnhard33
replied on January 28th, 2008
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Sorry, I'm sort of new here so obviously I don't know your situation. But I agree with what others have said - he's jealous and he didn't know what he had until he lost it. And he doesn't want to see you happy with anyone else.

Again, I probably don't know because I'm new-ish... but how does he know Kory? And why wouldn't he care if it was anyone else?
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Mommy35
replied on January 28th, 2008
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I'm sorry you have to go through this. You do deserve to be happy. You made a lot of changes to better your relationship with him and in the end it really didn't matter anyway. It just wasn't good enough, ya know...with some guys it never is.

Good luck!
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Eyes Wide Shut
replied on January 28th, 2008
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Jealousy is a crazy thing. He's prob just jealous that you've MOVED ON!! He prob thought you'd NEVERRR get over him and wait on his beck & call...HA!! Not this MILF!!! WOOOOTTT!!

I love you!! Just ignore Chris and keep doing what you're doing!! Ignorance is BLISS! Hahahaa!!

Sarah
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yellow ribbon
replied on January 28th, 2008
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thats so rediculous, I hope you can do your best to ignore him Rolling Eyes Y do ppl have to rain in Krissys happiness?!
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