Anal stimulation doesn't make you gay. The anus has a lot of sensitive nerve endings, and inside is the male g-spot, which even straight men have the right to enjoy!

It is NOT what I would call a fetish at all. It is NOT messed up and it will not mess YOU up. It is normal. No, this is not going to be a problem for you. Many women would love to give their man anal stimulation but because so many straight men are afraid of being called "gay", they never ask.

You don't need to stop. You enjoy it; it's safe, and it feels good.

Why exactly do you think premarital sex will be a good idea? I'm not understanding how that relates to you fingering yourself. Of course you have fantasies. Every man and woman does, EVEN MONOGAMOUS ONES. I do want to add that just because you have sex with one woman only doesn't mean you won't fantasize about other women. That's just how the brain works.

So what if everyone has had sex? I didn't have sex until I wanted to, not when everyone else was having it.

So you're worried you're not going to get to have lots of sex with random women? That must be a guy fear because I certainly don't have it. Either you're dedicated to being abstinent until marriage or you're not. That's your decision to make but if you've upheld it this long and it means a lot to you, then don't break it just because your hormones are raging. You're still only a kid as far as your body is concerned. Men don't finish puberty until about age 20.

Sex is not "love". Having sex with random girls will not mean you found "love" for one night. It means you had a one-night-stand. That's it. It will mean you sold your body for pleasure for one night and possibly caught and STD and possibly impregnated a girl. Have fun with all that.

My suggestion is to ignore your friends who say they've all had sex. So what? I waited until I was 20 to have sex. That's when I was in LOVE FIRST, then came sex. Sex does not equal love and it cannot replace love. You need to remember WHY you're being abstinent and why it matters so much to you. You also need to learn how to control your body when it says "Look female!! Must have sex!" or you'll never be able to marry a woman and be faithful.

The reason i suggested having sex was because I was thinking that it would be good for my body to know what sex should feel like before i get all of the fetishes i was talking about, and then having to rely on anal stimulation every time or something like that.

Also, i wasn't trying to say that sex=love. It's just that I like to look back at all the girls i've hooked up with, and it makes me sad that they're gone, but happy at the same time. It's just something nice to think about every now and then.

Well, as a woman I think you should wait for love to have sex. Love first, then sex. If you want to hook up with random women that's your deal. I know a lot of guys do it.

Having sex won't prevent fetishes, and you don't have any anyway. You won't "need" anal stimulation. Just masturbate without it a few times; I'm sure you don't do it all the time, so why should you "need" it when you finally have sex?

The problem with anal stimulation is that one may become reliant on it in order to reach orgasm during intercourse. This is potentially awkward or embarassing considering how your partner will view it. I can't imagine a lot of women are comfortable with the notion in all honesty.

I have tried it during masturbation but it's not something I'd like to revisit. Normal stimulation seems just fine. I guess it's kind of taboo for a man to pleasure himself in that fashion. If the hands were on the glove, so to speak, and if it was a woman's habit, it would probably be more acceptable because the act may be seen as similar to regular female masturbation in a sense.

You will only become reliant if you allow it to happen. Really, a varied masturbation-life is the healthiest way to go. Always try new things.

Lots of guys (and women) like anal stimulation. Lots of couples incorporate it into their sex life. It's really not such a big deal. It may be taboo in your circle, but I think it's more common than you think.

thats exactly the answer i was looking for. I dont do it all the time, only like once a week i get an "urge" to do it, but its not really an urge. just sometimes i try it out.

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Lots of guys (and women) like anal stimulation. Lots of couples incorporate it into their sex life. It's really not such a big deal. It may be taboo in your circle, but I think it's more common than you think.

Well, i really dont like the way i fart now if that makes sense. It feels different. It "slides" out more easily lol. It's not a huge difference, but its just not how it used to. With time will my anus tighten up? i mean, i'm not really loose, since its just my finger.

Once a week is not a "need" or an addiction or a fetish. It's just something you like to do.

Now, if you absolutely, positively could not orgasm not matter how much you jerked, UNLESS you had anal stimulation, then it's a fetish and an addiction.

Your farts could be changing because you're getting older too.

Think about how many times you take a dump in a given week. Now think about how big around those poops are. I bet they're BIGGER than your finger!!! So why do you think your dinky little finger being in your anus once a week is going to stretch something a giant poop made every other DAY can't stretch? Common sense here.

im not gonna lie, i laughed hysterically at this lol. just the way it was worded had me going lol.

I aim to entertain and educate

It was blunt and cute.