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Q: confused
asked by: latingurl on January 27th, 2008
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plzz .. help me i met this guay that i really like wen i first met him i jus felt lik e wow but then we became freinds and i told him wat i felt for him and he sais that he just want us to become freinds .. and stay like dat and see if we can become more than frendz.. days passed and he called me every nit and send me messages that how he miss me alot and thinking of me always .. after a while before xmas my freind told me that she saw him with a girl kissing and hugging then i asked him if it was true and he said that yes but he doesnt knw how that happend b/c she was the one that approach him and that she asked him to b her bf.. last week he told me that he doesnt feel the chemestry that he used to have with her like before and that he had told her that and he asked her to give him time to think about the relation ship b/c it happend all of a sudden .. and now they are jus like freinds but they are stil in the relationship .. i knw feel like i like him more than before now he still calls me invites me to go out with him to places and so on .. but i dont knw wat to do .. to leave him alone caus he says that he is confused plzzz help me ... i do really lve him
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Maddie34
replied on January 27th, 2008
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If being with him is hard for you then I would stick to other friends for awhile, as long as its making you feel bad anyways, exspecially if he just wants to be friends then there's really nothing that can be done.

Has he given you any indication that the two of you could be more than just friends?
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latingurl
replied on January 27th, 2008
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yes he had .. friday i invited him to go with me for a walk in the city and then we end up kissing and hugging ... we always kiss wen we are together
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Maddie34
replied on January 27th, 2008
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Oh wow, you didn't mention THAT.

Stay away from this guy if he's kissing you AND with some other girl. That's ridiculous. If he had any kind of respect for you or this other girl he would not be with BOTH of you.

Even if he breaks up with this other girl and wants to be with you, are you sure you can trust him? He doesn't seem to have any off limits where relationships are concerned. Be careful around this guy!
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Lico
replied on January 28th, 2008
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Majority of guys like to be players, and judging by your post, it seems you and the guy are alittle young, so I am sorry if I am wrong. But you got to just talk to him and tell him everything about how you feel. Let him know that you want to be with him and find out if he wants to be with you. And if he chooses to be with you, you need to make sure that he wont be kissing or hugging up on other girls cuz that would be a problem --- trust me, cuz i did the same thing as that guy and it took my gf a long time to forgive, really it is a problem. But give him some space to decide. Try hanging out with some other friends for awhile and see what he says.
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latingurl
replied on January 28th, 2008
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ok u see we both 19 yrs old. we go to the same college and hav classes together .. everytime he stares at me .. i had told him clearly wat i feel for him an he says he appreciates the love that i feel for him but he says that he is so sorry for having a gf and that he knws that i feel bad sake of that everytime we talk he tel me he is so sorry ..he says that if only he could turn back the time like it was before .. i told him to leave her if he dont feel that chemestry like before .. he says that he feels bad and dont have that courage to tel her ..but still he says that he wil always have me in his heart and thoughts .. dont knw wat to do ........... Sad
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Maddie34
replied on January 28th, 2008
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I'm sorry, but that’s ridiculous.

He's leading you on. Any decent man who has any sort of respect for any women he's involved with would stick to just that woman. He's not sticking to either of you and can you guarantee he would stick to just you even if you were his gf? Probably not.

What you should do is get away from this guy. You're in college. Perfect place to meet decent guys, and this guy is certainly NOT one of them.

I'm not trying to be harsh, I had a friend in the same situation and it tore her up. She got some sense and finally left the guy and is much better off. The best advice you can get is to just move on from this guy, he's not worth your time.
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Lico
replied on January 29th, 2008
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I am sorry, I agree 100% with Maddie34. This guy is only leading you on. Seriously, he wishes he could go back in time. He is only 19 years old, he still gots plenty of time to make things right, and have different relationships. Also, with him saying he is sorry and is too scared to leave his gf, then he is not worth fighting for. He is obvious not fighting to be with you, so you should not try to fight to be him since he is doing nothing but flirting. As for going to school with him, college has tons of guys there that are actually descent. I am sorry to sound so negative in this post but if you and him keep it up, you'll end up with a broken heart.
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latingurl
replied on January 31st, 2008
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u guys were right .. last night i was with him we went for a walk and then we went back to college and his girlfriend saw us together.. he told me that he will stay with her so i continued to walk my way .. after that my friend wanted to go to the mall and we went we passed through a park and he was there with his gf kissing and hugging each other i really felt bad .. but i just wanted to see something like that in order to see realities and i saw it last night ..and i was online on my msn and he buzzed me and told me he is sorry for wat i had seen and i told him that things can't go like that and he said that he talked to her before and they were jus freinds and now last night that they were together she asked him to start thing over again and he agreed ... so i decided to leave him and make i continue my way .. he asked me to b his friend but i dont knw wat to do i feel really bad for wat i had seen and not seeing the ture reality ..
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Galaxy
replied on January 31st, 2008
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Leave well alone and stay away from him. It sounds like he wants to keep you up his sleeve in case things go wrong with the g/f but who really wants to be second best?

Anyway, he sounds like a bit of a dork if you ask me. Go get a guy who will move heaven and earth for you!
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Lico
replied on February 2nd, 2008
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wow, I am sorry that happened. But the best thing to do is to stay away from him. If you stay friends with him, he will always flirt with you, try to kiss and stuff like that and it will only confuse you more. Your in college, there is plenty of more friends that you will meet.
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