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Q: What a night..

asked by: jenniek on January 27th, 2008

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So last night my little sisters missed curfew and instead stumbled in the house an hour late with the help of her friend and her friends mother. My sister was drunk off her butt. So the kids went downstairs while my dad talked to this other girls mom about everything that had happened. My sisters is underage and my dad is a cop..definately two thingst that didn't go well together. No one in my family drinks we definately do NOT support underage drinking and so this was just a shock. And apparently its not the first time shes drank, I had suspisions but gave her the benefit of the doubt since I thought my parents raised her to be smarter then that. Anyways after the parents were done talking my sister comes stumbling upstairs again and starts yelling at my dad about how shes so depressed and shes be drinking and cutting herself ever since she found out I was pregnant about 2 years ago (how that triggered this I don't know) I think its just her excuse for her ways I think it helps her justify her actions. Instead of getting into it with her my dad told her to go to bed because yelling when she was drunk wasn't going to solve anything.. so she went downstairs and wanted Bac (my boyfriend) to go down and talk to her so he did. And she went on and on about a lot fo stuff but the thing that really made me mad is how she feels about brayden. She blames all of this on him she thinks its his fault. And she feels so attention deprived because apparently our parents would rather spend time with Brayden then her. Which is not the case at all. He is just a baby he did nothing wrong. It kind of scares me that she has so much anger towards him. If she resorts to cutting and such I'm afraid of what she could do to him if she got mad enough. My mom is calling the doctor on monday to get a referral to a therapist or something to help get this cutting thing under control. I don't know what to do. I'm mad at the choices shes made and made that she blames my son. I hope she gets help, but I don't know how bad she really wants help. We shall see..

Nothing really to respond to here. I just had to tell someone about this because I'm stressed over it, its just my ramblings.

Replies(14)

moldedbymercy88

replied on January 27th, 2008

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I'm so sorry you have to go through that! Of course it isn't you, or your sons fault! I'll be praying for you and your situation. I really hope things, and your sister, get better really soon.

OctoberBaby06

replied on January 27th, 2008

Extremely eHealthy

I hope things get better! I would be stressed over that too!

Shanyan

replied on January 27th, 2008

Extremely eHealthy

It's always good to get things off your chest......I hope that she gets the help that she needs. We're here for you whenever you need to vent.

Mommy35

replied on January 27th, 2008

Extremely eHealthy

I hope there is help for her too. I think I would watch the interactions she has with Brayden. I'm not saying she would do something, but jealousy does cause otherwise kind people to do some really foolish things.

Good luck

musikmaker

replied on January 27th, 2008

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I am so sorry. I think that a therapist would do wonders. It did for my brother when he was out partying every weekend.

I will keep you guys in my thoughts and I hope that she doesn't do anything with Brayden.

Of course, she was drunk so things seem worse whenever that happens.

young Girl

replied on January 27th, 2008

Especially eHealthy

how old is your sister? im realy sorry you had to go through that Sad

and its def none of you guys fault for the way SHE is acting.

michelle1981

replied on January 27th, 2008

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I'm sorry Jennie! I'm glad your parents are taking control, and hopefully the therapist can find the root of the problem.

jenniek

replied on January 27th, 2008

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thanks guys! She just turned 18 a few months ago. She has said she wants help so hopefully she'll go peacefully but we are all aware that she could refuse since shes 18 now.. we shall see what happens. Bac and I went out looking for a new place today we just don't want to take any chances. We found an awesome duplex we are in love with its $125000 but its SO nice its almost brand new and i knew the people that lived there before Smile

I'm going to talk to the mortgage loan officer at th e bank I work at tomorrow maybe she can give me an estimate of what my monthly payments wlll be and if we can afford it we are gonna try to get it! I really like it and I think we should be able to afford it so we shall see!

Shanyan

replied on January 27th, 2008

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Good luck I hope it works out for you Smile

Verizon-y

replied on January 27th, 2008

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jenniek wrote:

She's almost 18? Wow, I thought you were going to say 11 or younger. I am astonished that she feels jealous of a tiny baby at her age. That's just wrong (and I don't really know if I'd buy it, but I don't know her.)

Good luck with the house! I think buying a duplex is a BRILLIANT idea! I always tell people to buy a property with income from an additional apartment. It can pay half or more of the mortgage in some cases! Plus, you can use the income from the other half to help you two qualify for the loan. I did that when I bought my first place. I sent in a copy of the signed lease (signed by tenants (who would be moving in as soon as I bought the house) with my mortgagee application. Be sure to ask you bank about this. Feel free to ask me any questions you'd like about home buying, renting, etc. I was a part time Realtor in Florida and Massachusetts for a while. Smile

jenniek

replied on January 27th, 2008

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Thanks! We are actually just looking to buy the half for usto live in..someone actually lives in the other half! But its just soo nice. And I don't think I'm ready for a 'real' house yet I want something like this since it will only be temporary (5-10 years)

Yes she is 18. I know crazy. I really think she has some sort of mental issues behind every thing. Its sad to say but we just can't figure it out. I'm really hoping therapy can help her because she doesn't listen to us and nothin seems to get through to her. Shes SO different from me and my other two sisters and shes the youngest so I don't know I think its something deeper then just Brayden coming into this world. But I DO resent her for blaming him. If she wanted to blame anyone because of this situation she could blame me rather then hm. He is so little and innocent!!

Verizon-y

replied on January 27th, 2008

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jenniek, well, good luck with the 1/2 of a house, anyway. Smile

I hope your little sis gets help, too. I wouldn't let what she said bother me, though. She was drunk and might not have meant it exactly as she said it. Hopefully a therapist will show her that she is responsible for her own actions, especially at 18! It's definitely time to stop looking for scape goats, especially tiny, innocent, adorable ones like your baby.

jenniek

replied on January 27th, 2008

Active User, very eHealthy

Thank you! I'lll keep everyone updated on how things progress over here!

Eyes Wide Shut

replied on January 27th, 2008

Especially eHealthy

Oh man! I'm sorry you had to find out her feelings in such a bad way!!

I don't have a sister, or a brother, but I can only imagine how hard it was to see her acting like that!

I hope all works out for yall!!

Sarah

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