Joined: 27 Jan 2008 Posts: 3 Location: Saint Paul, MN
Avoiding sex Posted: 01-27-08 00:35am
My boyfriend and I have been together for
about 8 months, and up until a few months
ago, our sex life was going strong, and
everything was great, and the last few
months, the last thing I want to do is
have sex. I think it started when sex
started to become painful, but I quickly
attributed this to the ribbed condoms he
had been using. But then about a month or
so ago, we were having sex, and after
about 10 minutes or so, I started
screaming and sobbing and had to push him
off of me because I was in such intense
pain. It felt like there was extreme
pressure on my pelvic area and the best
was to describe it would be that it felt
like my uterus was "full". It hurt to
even breathe deeply. I thought I was
going to have to go to the hospital. The
pain lasted for over an hour until I fell
asleep. Pretty much ever since then I
have been avoiding sex. We have sex
probably once a week now, and I pretty
much only do it as a favor to him. I
don't even want him touching me sexually
,
and I don't want to touch him that way
either. I know that this must be making
him feel awful. I just can't seem to get
aroused anymore and don't look forward to
sex at all. It hasn't been painful at all
lately, so why do I still not want to do
it? Little help please?
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love_pinkish
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Posted: 01-27-08 00:44am
have your feelings towards him changed?
Are y'all having serious problems? I mean
i'm not trying to get in your business but
sometimes that could happen or be the
reason. Maybe you should take time along
and just figure out what you want and
where y'all too stand. maybe talking to
him about it could help also. I know it
could be difficult and hard to understand
but we can't give you that answer, you
pretty much have to figure that out on
your own.
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punkrockmom
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Jan 2008 Posts: 3 Location: Saint Paul, MN
Posted: 01-27-08 00:58am
We haven't been having any problems
lately, everything has been going really
well actually. We were having some issues
a few months ago, but that's all been
resolved. The only thing I can think of
is that I'm maybe not as physically
attracted to him as I used to be with his
growing belly and man boobs. I know he's
self conscious of his body, but so am I
about mine. And I'm pretty much always
stressed out about something or another.
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love_pinkish
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Posted: 01-27-08 01:03am
Well sometimes IMO physical attraction
plays a big part in it. It's one of the
biggest roles. no physical attraction =
no sexual desire to be with that person.
I bet are still in love with him huh?
maybe y'all should start working out
together so he can become more attacted to
him. I know you don't want to just up and
tel him, " look you're getting fat and i'm
not attracted to you anymore." you
wouldn't want to hurt his feelings.
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punkrockmom
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Jan 2008 Posts: 3 Location: Saint Paul, MN
Posted: 01-27-08 01:06am
I've thought about that. I am still very
much in love with him, and it's not that I
don't want to have sex with him, I don't
want to have sex with anyone. The thought
of sex in general, even with someone
outrageousely hot, is unappealing.
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love_pinkish
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Posted: 01-27-08 01:14am
okay i see. you should try something like
role playing that could possibly get you
in the mood. sometimes i dont feel like
having sex when i have a lot on my mind or
a lot going on. try something that will
spice up y'all sex life. try thinking
about it all day and when y'all at home
together try something new.
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Strumphette
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Dec 2007 Posts: 88
Posted: 01-27-08 02:58am
Did you start taking any new
prescriptions? Birth control, hormone
pills, or anything like that? Sometimes
those can affect your sex drive
tremendously. I know from experience.
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Jude-Love
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Jun 2007 Posts: 727 Location: Williamstown, Kentucky USA
Posted: 01-27-08 03:10am
That sounds like a burst ovarian cyst.
You should have seen a doctor after that
incident.
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and I don't want to touch him that way
either. I know that this must be making
him feel awful. I just can't seem to get
aroused anymore and don't look forward to
sex at all. It hasn't been painful at all
lately, so why do I still not want to do
it? Little help please?
