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Q: Avoiding sex
asked by: punkrockmom on January 27th, 2008
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My boyfriend and I have been together for about 8 months, and up until a few months ago, our sex life was going strong, and everything was great, and the last few months, the last thing I want to do is have sex. I think it started when sex started to become painful, but I quickly attributed this to the ribbed condoms he had been using. But then about a month or so ago, we were having sex, and after about 10 minutes or so, I started screaming and sobbing and had to push him off of me because I was in such intense pain. It felt like there was extreme pressure on my pelvic area and the best was to describe it would be that it felt like my uterus was "full". It hurt to even breathe deeply. I thought I was going to have to go to the hospital. The pain lasted for over an hour until I fell asleep. Pretty much ever since then I have been avoiding sex. We have sex probably once a week now, and I pretty much only do it as a favor to him. I don't even want him touching me sexually Confused , and I don't want to touch him that way either. I know that this must be making him feel awful. I just can't seem to get aroused anymore and don't look forward to sex at all. It hasn't been painful at all lately, so why do I still not want to do it? Little help please?
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love_pinkish
replied on January 27th, 2008
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have your feelings towards him changed? Are y'all having serious problems? I mean i'm not trying to get in your business but sometimes that could happen or be the reason. Maybe you should take time along and just figure out what you want and where y'all too stand. maybe talking to him about it could help also. I know it could be difficult and hard to understand but we can't give you that answer, you pretty much have to figure that out on your own.
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punkrockmom
replied on January 27th, 2008
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We haven't been having any problems lately, everything has been going really well actually. We were having some issues a few months ago, but that's all been resolved. The only thing I can think of is that I'm maybe not as physically attracted to him as I used to be with his growing belly and man boobs. I know he's self conscious of his body, but so am I about mine. And I'm pretty much always stressed out about something or another.
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love_pinkish
replied on January 27th, 2008
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Well sometimes IMO physical attraction plays a big part in it. It's one of the biggest roles. no physical attraction = no sexual desire to be with that person. I bet are still in love with him huh? maybe y'all should start working out together so he can become more attacted to him. I know you don't want to just up and tel him, " look you're getting fat and i'm not attracted to you anymore." you wouldn't want to hurt his feelings.
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punkrockmom
replied on January 27th, 2008
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I've thought about that. I am still very much in love with him, and it's not that I don't want to have sex with him, I don't want to have sex with anyone. The thought of sex in general, even with someone outrageousely hot, is unappealing.
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love_pinkish
replied on January 27th, 2008
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okay i see. you should try something like role playing that could possibly get you in the mood. sometimes i dont feel like having sex when i have a lot on my mind or a lot going on. try something that will spice up y'all sex life. try thinking about it all day and when y'all at home together try something new.
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Strumphette
replied on January 27th, 2008
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Did you start taking any new prescriptions? Birth control, hormone pills, or anything like that? Sometimes those can affect your sex drive tremendously. I know from experience.
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Jude-Love
replied on January 27th, 2008
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That sounds like a burst ovarian cyst. You should have seen a doctor after that incident.
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