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blackcat34
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I warn you now this is a rant...sorry ladies... but I rather get this off my chest here than my other forum....
Ok..so I have been hanging out with this girl for a year now... we are really good friends and all (yes I am friend zoned bad)... and we have gone out a lot, both in between classes and on the week ends... we talk alot and well I listen (yea, a guy who listens...lol) and a while back it came up that she doesnt date classmates...which I respected... well now lately (past 3 days mostly, but some in the past 2 months) she has been getting alot of "unwanted" attention from other guys (that is what she has told me that it is unwanted). She has a physics tutor that doesnt want to get paid for helping her, but wants her to teach him to drive (he is from China and I guess hasnt learned over there). He invited her to a get together at his apartment and she asked me if this and the not wanting to get paid is weird. I said yea, there might be other intentions involved here and to be careful cuz it sounded kinda like a set up to me (yes I didnt want her go to). Well she called me last night at 2:30 AM and she was hysterical... the tutor walked her to her car and tried to make a move... he french kissed her and she pushed him away...( she said she was one of 2 girls there...and about 10 guys from the physics dept and that another guy was gonna go with them to her car but the tutor dude waved hime off) I calmed her down and she wants to hang out with me more now cuz I dont try to get in her (well you know) and she said why cant more guys be like me and be curtious... Well now she calls me cuz she is on her way to watch a movie with a friend. And she tells me that after we hung up last night another friend of ours calls her. He was high on ecstasy and what not... (he loves his drugs)... well they were talking and he tells her that he loves her... which I thought oh great.. (he said it was cuz of being high) they talked and when they were hanging up he said it again..and was like oops sorry I am sooooo high... I dont think I have to worry about him, due to that she has said to me several times that she will not go out with drug users...cuz she has been clean for many years now herself and doesnt want that kind of anguish again.... btw... i dont use any myself..... I want to make how I feel known but I am scared it will mess up the friendship..which I am totally happy with... I'd rather have her as a friend not then not have her in my life at all... and she tells me that she is happiest when she is around me....ahhhhhh... what do I do... my life sucks...
Sorry for the long rant... I had to get this out somewhere...
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CaNdItAs CrAzY LaNd
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my3kids
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blackcat34
Experienced User
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young Girl
Especially eHealthy
erick this is a tuffie
see the thing is, she trusts you. alot obviously. seems like alot of the wrong boys are knocking on her door right now. and she obviously trusts and likes you alot (even if it is just a friend *right now*
) i wouldnt say anything yet
just continue being there for her
continue being someone she can trust and hang out with and truly be HAPPY with you. and then eventually she will see "oh man. erick makes me estatic"
and everthing will fall into place :d
soon enough she will realoze (she probably already has) that you are into her.
you do have lots of patience LOL. just keep it cool for now.
see the thing is, she trusts you. alot obviously. seems like alot of the wrong boys are knocking on her door right now. and she obviously trusts and likes you alot (even if it is just a friend *right now*
) i wouldnt say anything yet
just continue being there for her
continue being someone she can trust and hang out with and truly be HAPPY with you. and then eventually she will see "oh man. erick makes me estatic"
and everthing will fall into place :d
soon enough she will realoze (she probably already has) that you are into her.
you do have lots of patience LOL. just keep it cool for now.
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blackcat34
Experienced User
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sick_mama17
Active User, very eHealthy
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blackcat34
Experienced User
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blackcat34
Experienced User
Another update..... I really dont know.. I really suck at this girl stuff...
Earlier today she said she saw a movie with another friend, who also wants to hook up with her... she told him nothing is going to happen..that she doesnt want a relationship with anyone at this time... ..and he still tried... so now there are 3 guys in the picture.... and....
I just talked to her and she met the tutor today... they worked on the homework and then went outside to smoke... he asked her what she was doing the rest of the day but she was gonna be busy... but she will buy him lunch on Wed. because he will not accept money for the tutoring. they did the standard kiss on the cheek thing and he tried to french her again... she blocked him and said no... not at school... and he told her that she owed him 2 kisses during lunch.... and she was pissed at herself for not resolving the issue.... she said she is going to tell him that she does not want a relationship and not to kiss her ....especially in public... This guy is even freaking me out.. this was the 3rd time they even met... twice for tutoring and once at that get together at his place... I just hope he doesnt try anything that will end up hurting her...
I really dont know what to do... I know that playing it off that it does not bother me is not working... I'm sure I'm pretty transparent there..... she said she will get those issues resolved... I tried to help as far as the tutor situation, cuz she said she was nervous about meeting him today (had a weird feeling in her stomach).... we talked about it and she said would establish a line and tell him not to cross it...
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Earlier today she said she saw a movie with another friend, who also wants to hook up with her... she told him nothing is going to happen..that she doesnt want a relationship with anyone at this time... ..and he still tried... so now there are 3 guys in the picture.... and....
I just talked to her and she met the tutor today... they worked on the homework and then went outside to smoke... he asked her what she was doing the rest of the day but she was gonna be busy... but she will buy him lunch on Wed. because he will not accept money for the tutoring. they did the standard kiss on the cheek thing and he tried to french her again... she blocked him and said no... not at school... and he told her that she owed him 2 kisses during lunch.... and she was pissed at herself for not resolving the issue.... she said she is going to tell him that she does not want a relationship and not to kiss her ....especially in public... This guy is even freaking me out.. this was the 3rd time they even met... twice for tutoring and once at that get together at his place... I just hope he doesnt try anything that will end up hurting her...
I really dont know what to do... I know that playing it off that it does not bother me is not working... I'm sure I'm pretty transparent there..... she said she will get those issues resolved... I tried to help as far as the tutor situation, cuz she said she was nervous about meeting him today (had a weird feeling in her stomach).... we talked about it and she said would establish a line and tell him not to cross it...
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kaiteo
Extremely eHealthy
GRRR I would be SO mad. That guy seems like a creep to me. Especially since he has made advances towards her multiple times without getting the hint (hint?) that she doesn't want him to.
Erick, girls will play games with your head. It's inevitable. But you are proving to her that you are better than some of the scumbags trying to get into her pants.
Keep it up. Good things will happen
Erick, girls will play games with your head. It's inevitable. But you are proving to her that you are better than some of the scumbags trying to get into her pants.
Keep it up. Good things will happen
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young Girl
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