Hi, I'm a young woman who has never had
sexual intercourse. Now at my young age I
know that this is not something I should
be worried about. In fact I'm quite proud
of myself that I have not rushed into sex,
like alot of girls my age. My question
though involves sexual turn ons. Now even
though I have never had sex, I can still
be turned on and masturbate or do whatever
I want. At the current moment I do not
have a bf. So occasionally I might be in
the mood to watch some porn, or maybe a
movie involving some kind of sex. Now I
have no problems turning myself on. I will
finger, or think of something that really
turns me on. 1 thing though I find will
turn me right off, is giving oral sex to a
man. Now I have never given or received
oral. If I'm watching oral (in a movie, or
porn) though It really turns me off
altogether. I'm not sure if maybe It is
because I was brought up, and told over
and over that it is a disgusting thing. I
have tried so hard to get that to leave my
mind, but I don't think it really has.
Everytime I see it, it just really turns
me off. Now, I know that pretty much every
man loves it, and I want to be able to
give pleasure to my future bf. I was
wondering if there is a way to stop this
way of thinking? Or will it just go away,
once I become sexually involved with a
partner? Obviously once I did have a bf,
if we did engage in sex. It would not be
fair for me to expect oral, and not return
it. That's soo mean. Thanks so much
Everyone!!!
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young Girl
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Posted: 01-26-08 02:34am
lol well i give oral to travis
and he gives it back
its not discusting
its normal.
just please please whoever you do first
engage with in ANY sexual intamacy get
them TESTED for STDS!!! you CAN get herpes
from giving oral sex.
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Pickles05
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Oct 2007 Posts: 10
Sexual Turn On's Posted: 02-15-08 11:16am
Oh I would never forget to get STD testing
done, that will never be a question. I
don't know if I really think it is
disgusting, I suppose I do. What I mean
though, is in my house when I was growing
up, sex was not something my mother talked
about with me. She seemed quite adament
about telling us how horrible it is. Or
make it seem negative maybe in hopes that
I would never do it. Which I never have. I
seem to have taken this que from her, now
If I see something like that in porn or
something it just turns my stomach. She
would always say it's not natural for a
penis to be in a women's mouth. Can anyone
shed some light on giving oral to a man?
What is it like? Does it taste funny? A a
woman now, I have interest in sex. I know
it's normal and look forward to being able
to do it with the right person.
Any opinons would be greatly
appreciated!!!! I really would like to
stop this negative thinking about giving
oral to a man.
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Maddie34
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Posted: 02-15-08 13:36pm
I didn't like the idea of giving oral for
a long time, but now its something I truly
enjoy doing.
I think once you finally are with someone
you have deep feelings for your opinions
on a lot of things will change and you'll
realize that a lot of things aren't as
distasteful as you had once thought.
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Willa Weintraub
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Posted: 02-15-08 15:42pm
Maddie is right. I use to think it was
grose but when I started to care about my
ex, it didn't seem so grose and I was
happy to do somehting for him that made
him feel good.
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Reptar
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Posted: 02-15-08 19:20pm
I only didn't like the idea of it until I
tried it. When you're intimate with
someone, things may become a lot easier
than you ever thought they could be.
Really loving someone can help because
you'll want to please him, and oral is a
surefire way to do this, and to show him
you accept him and desire him. Otherwise,
I do have a preference for circumcised
because it seems cleaner, but neither
bother me a whole heck of a lot. It's just
getting used to the idea, and believe me,
it's natural thing and many many people
enjoy it
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Tylanas
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Posted: 02-15-08 21:39pm
WATCHING a woman (or a guy) give a man
oral is often a major turn off. But guess
what?
I
LOVE
giving oral! (and getting it!)
I just find the concept of watching it to
be completely gross and abhorrent.
Thinking about giving it or fantasizing
about being a guy and getting it turns me
on, but actually seeing it? EW. A
partially serious suggestion is to check
out some Yaoi if you'd like. It's
manga-style (japanese comic) gay male
porn. It tends to gloss over and
romantasize the act of giving oral and
makes it easier to swallow (lol pun).
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Jude-Love
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Jun 2007 Posts: 727 Location: Williamstown, Kentucky USA
Posted: 02-16-08 01:58am
I always thought oral sex was disgusting
too. When you start to have a mature
sexual relationship, you won't think that
anymore.
Although, tbh, watching it does nothing
for me. It's boring.
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Pickles05
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Oct 2007 Posts: 10
Posted: 03-02-08 11:53am
Thanks everyone for your posts. W'ell I
actually love manga, but have never heard
of this Yaoi type before. I will check it
out. Who knows right =) Thanks again
everyone.
