There are some very helpful resources to help women who are having problems coming to terms with their abortion. You don't have to live like this. There are people who can help you remember why you had the abortion in the first place and why you felt it was the right decision - and how you have now been given a second chance at life. You have nothing to pay for, and you're not a selfish person.

We can't link directly to these helpful resources because they are other forums and it's against the rules for some reason. However, you can PM your email address to any of the users who post to this topic and say they have resources for you, and then they can email these sites to you. These are non-religious post-abortion recovery forums, where women can discuss their experiences and help each other to heal.

Go to google and look up 'passboards', that should get you to a good site

You are not ruined!

You had an abortion, but it does not define you or make you who you are.

I do not regret my abortions, they were the right choice for me. BUT that does not mean that I do not care for women who are having problems.

Selfish is such a strange word... People use it so negatively, when it fact it is a very neutral thing.

We all MUST be selfish, otherwise people will walk all over us, and we will never have anything in life.

We have to take care of ourselves, and we cannot expect everyone else to give give give.

I do not feel that abortion is wrong. It may be selfish, but so are a lot of things in life.

to hear about your regrets but abortion is not somethign you could recommend or advise against based on your own experience, we are all different. You were NOT cut out to be a mother at that time that's why you had the abortion you did yourself and that fetus a favor. Resenting a child is wrong beyond words and you prevented that from happening in your life. Own that decision and accept it because it was what was best for you, other women who choose that option will be doing whats best for them.

PS Be happy for your friends because you KNOW they are making the decision that is right for them , if you want to start showng selflessness you can start by being happy for your pregnant friends who need your support and love.

ino how you feel i look at mums with new born babies with the prams and i think i should be doing that i hate what i did and will never forgive myself i am disgusted in myself i sometimes cry i cnt tell any1 because im scared of what they might think of me my friend just had twins n im jeolose i wish that i had my baby in my arms..