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Q: Pre-Partum depression?
asked by: Lilly Ivy on January 23rd, 2008
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We've all heard of Post-Partum Depression, but what about when you are still pregnant? I'm currently 27wks.

I'm currently home alone (fiancee and friend are working) and one minute I'm fine, playing on the computer, listening to comedy... Then all of a sudden I got so depressed I laid on the bed crying for a good 20 minutes. There was absolutely nothing going on in my mind, just the fact that I kept crying and felt so horrible about nothing.

I love this forum only because it's basically my only outside contact other than my fiancee and friend, so talking usually helps, but not always.

Anyone know if it's actual depression or does it just sound like it's from the pregnancy?

P.S. I have a little history of depression, but not on paper.
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mominashoe
replied on January 24th, 2008
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I wouldn't worry about this too much. I think it's very normal to just feel like crying in the middle of something and for no apparent reason. Pregnancy takes a big toll on your physically and mentally (you probably already know that), but sometimes you don't remember how much of a strain it is and BOOM, your body just needs to let it out in a crying fit.

The fact that you don't have many friends other than online and are probably alone most of the time also contributes to this. I have the same problems, and I feel for you. You will probably have more little crying urges to handle as the pregnancy progresses, especially in the last trimester when your hormones start preparing for delivery and being un-pregnant.

I think crying it out every so often is a great tension reliever, which is probably what you need. Most people in normal (not pregnant) circumstances who are tense and worried sometimes don't even realize that they are under some strain. Keeping it in only builds up more tension, so get out the kleenex Smile

If you want to talk to someone, I'm always around...I've been through a lot of crying and pregnancies and I know how you feel.....even tho I'm not technically "there" in the flesh, which sometimes is really what you need....a real hug.

Congrats on the pregnancy!
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Lilly Ivy
replied on January 26th, 2008
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Very Happy thank you Very Happy
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Lilly Ivy
replied on January 30th, 2008
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I'm starting to think this is more bipolar disease because I've been perfectly fine this past week, but I just got done with another half hour crying session. Plus me and my fiancee aren't seeing eye to eye anymore for some reason. We got mad at each other because I like when he comes in with me to my doctor appointments, but he basically told me to grow up and do things on my own. I don't get mad, I get angry and start crying. I love him. He loves me. But it's just the nit picky things that get to me.

I'm balling my eyes out for absolutely no reason now... I wish I knew why...
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mominashoe
replied on January 30th, 2008
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Having difficulties with your partner when you are pregnant is perfectly normal. Hormone changes plus the fact that you are going through a major transition stage in your relationship (it's not just you and him anymore) are going to cause a lot of emotional outbreaks for you.

Just give yourself time to adjust to your situation. It doesn't sound like your fiancee is being as supportive as he should be, and him changing his attitude can make a world of difference on how you feel.

He's the one that needs to grow up and be more supportive. And you should tell him that. Don't let him take you for granted or boss you around or treat you like a kid. You deserve better!
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courtneyt
replied on February 10th, 2008
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check with your doctor... it's called ante-partum and affects about 10-15 percent of pregnant women... it sounds more like mood swings, but you need to be sure. i've been dealing with it and it's hard... i can't even go to work because most days i just lay around with barely enough in me to force myself up to eat. i'm medicated but not for much longer and i can't imagine what life will be like once i stop the meds. BUT you should know that true depression and anxiety disorders can cause low birth weight or pre-term delivery, and depending on the severity, can also lead to sleep problems with your child... good luck
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mommyglamour
replied on May 5th, 2008
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wow, i can't believe he told you to grow up and do it on your own...he's a part of this child and you just want him to be excited and hear the progress of the new baby to come also! My hubby actually flipped out on me about having to stay at the hospital w/ me when our son was born just because the fold out was so uncomfortable he couldn't get any good sleep. talk about unfair to the woman who just gave birth to your kid and took stitches to the crotch for it! whew, now i'm all irritated again,lol
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mommynessa
replied on May 14th, 2008
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i agree with the ladies in here hes the one that needs growing up to do....being pregnant is very difficult for most women and support and patience is just a part that is to go with this event.....i dont think u are bipolar hun but i think u are going through a lil depression which is veryyyyyy normal during pregnancy....if u dont have much people to hang around with or talk to maybe u should look into programs for mothers....you should not be alone during this longgggggg 10 months ( thats right dammit 40 weeks do the math lol ) well im here as well if u need to talk...as for your husband wow u need to sit him down and tell him exactly whats going on ......it takes 2 to make one so....sending my love from montreal muahhhh....nessa
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mommynessa
replied on May 14th, 2008
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P.S lily im 34 weeks pregnany with my second and have many crying fits so your not alone on that one lol
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Marianne0558
replied on May 14th, 2008
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I think it's the extra hormones during the last weeks of pregnancy to tell you the truth.

When I was pregnant, I was in the same boat-husband out working, me staying at home playing on the computer, etc.

I used to cry a lot. I think it was more of being couped up in the house where the hormones get to your brain haha.

Maybe go on a walk or something. Being in the sun for a while everyday helped the depression for me.
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