41 you are still fairly young. It sounds like you are still going through an evaluation period. I don't think you can expect a doctor to fix everything up for you, however there may be a course of action that they can take can improve your situation a lot,
one thing that is not often mentioned is that the spine needs to be exercised so the disks remain healthy, and arthritis is kept at bay, this is hard because most of us with back trouble are in pain and exercise makes it worse, ask your doctors what they think you are capable of, hopefully they are interested in this aspect of your health and know how to help. You might have to take it easy until after your evaluation is finished and some kind of intervention has taken place. You may have to see a number of health care professionals in your fight to get some relief be patient and persistent and always make sure your doctors are good sorry if this sounds like a lecture i can only really guess about your situation i am just trying to cover all the bases.