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beastmode
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Pain during sex
Posted: 01-22-08 00:26am
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my girlfriend and i have been having sex
for the last 5 months (she was a virgin)
and she sometimes experiences pain on
insertion. after a little while it goes
away tho. we alwayz have sometype of
foreplay or something to get things
started and she is very wet. ive noticed
that she is very tight when she says it
hurts. i dont like for her to experience
pain so someone help plz
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Maddie34
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Posted: 01-22-08 00:30am
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Sometimes when I forget to relax correctly
then it hurts, but it goes away soon
after. I bet she tenses right before you
enter and thats hurting her. What does she
say about it? Does the pain stay for the
entire time?
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beastmode
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Posted: 01-22-08 00:49am
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no. its only a few minutes in the
beginning. i dont see why she should be
tense since she usually comes on to me.
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beastmode
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Posted: 01-22-08 00:51am
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| Maddie34
wrote: | | Sometimes when I forget to
relax correctly then it hurts, but it goes
away soon after. I bet she tenses right
before you enter and thats hurting her.
What does she say about it? Does the pain
stay for the entire
time? |
how do go about relaxing. maybe she could
use your methods
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Posted: 01-22-08 01:03am
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its most likly due to the cause that your
hitting her cervix
sometimes when penetraion is deep or first
occurs you will hit her cervix causeing it
to hurt. it can even be bruised
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beastmode
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Posted: 01-22-08 01:10am
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it happens when im first putting it in
like just gettin the crown in. more like
maddie said. she seems tense but relaxes
after
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Posted: 01-22-08 01:21am
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I usually have the same problem when
things are just starting. No matter how
turned on I am the muscles still need to
be stretched some in order for it to feel
comfortable. I find that if we start off
really slow and gentle it helps. It would
probably also help if you fingered her
before intercourse using first one finger,
then two. That helps to stretch it out and
loosen up the muscles.
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Posted: 01-22-08 01:26am
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maybe she needs more lube
sex is never supposed to hurt
ever
or your not doing it right
theres a reason why this is happening
though. maybe more lube and going slow
will help
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beastmode
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Posted: 01-22-08 01:33am
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her natural lube is not a problem. sex is
not alway going to be a breeze for
everyone. no one is the same. anyone else
with helpful advice coming from
experiences related?
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beastmode
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Posted: 01-22-08 01:35am
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| run4life10
wrote: | | I usually have the same
problem when things are just starting. No
matter how turned on I am the muscles
still need to be stretched some in order
for it to feel comfortable. I find that if
we start off really slow and gentle it
helps. It would probably also help if you
fingered her before intercourse using
first one finger, then two. That helps to
stretch it out and loosen up the
muscles. |
thank you for a real answer. i have tried
fingering but usually with only one
finger. i will try with more next time and
see what comes of it
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Posted: 01-22-08 01:56am
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Well, when it happens to me I can't help
but tense just a little bit, I don't know
what it is-- anticipation? I'm turned on
and everything I just tense right at the
beginning and then when it hurts I
remember what I'm doing wrong and I fix
it. I'm sure I'll stop that once I'm more
used to having sex and whatnot.
Thank God for ehealth, otherwise I'd be
doomed for painful sex I'm sure.
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Posted: 01-22-08 02:04am
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| Maddie34
wrote: | Well, when it happens to me
I can't help but tense just a little bit,
I don't know what it is-- anticipation?
I'm turned on and everything I just tense
right at the beginning and then when it
hurts I remember what I'm doing wrong and
I fix it. I'm sure I'll stop that once I'm
more used to having sex and whatnot.
Thank God for ehealth, otherwise I'd be
doomed for painful sex I'm
sure. |
so she just has to relax
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Posted: 01-22-08 02:30am
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If we're having the same problem, yeah.
She just needs to recognize the feeling
and relax her muscles when she gets that
feeling-- its the muscles I would use if I
were holding back pee-- if that helps any.
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Posted: 01-22-08 02:49am
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the kegal muscles 
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Posted: 01-22-08 11:00am
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Yeah, I got pain like that right in the
beginning too. It's not a ripping pain or
a damaging pain; it's just stretching and
friction. What I found helped was making
sure the PENIS was lubricated, not just
the vagina. You can use her natural lube
by rubbing the crown of the penis against
the vaginal entrance, or go buy some. Dry
penis plus wet vagina still equals pain -
and trust me, I'm super wet!
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