condom broke after ejactulation- HIV signs to look for ? Posted: 01-18-08 11:25am
Last night I had sex with a sex-worker.
After I ejaculated inside her, I pulled
out 10 seconds later, and realized that
the condom had broke. I am not sure at
which point it broke during the act. It
was broken from the top.
I immediately washed my penis with warm
water. I also asked her how often she gets
tested. She said every 3 months, and she
also mentioned her time to test again was
coming up. She said she is clean, and
wants to live to see her grandkids.
I am horrified of the fact that I may have
contracted HIV from her, considering that
she is a sex-worker (from Vegas). Heaven
knows how many people she has been with.
This happened last night (1/18/2007). I
know this is too soon to tell, but is
there anything I can do, any signs I can
look for, to give myself assurance that I
am not infected?! I cannot go on like this
for 12 weeks and wait to get the HIV test
done...its going to be hell.
I am 32 years old and married, and ever
since yesterday I have not been able to
concentrate on anything except this. I
have been searching all over the internet
for information. I have been
self-conscious..looking for any signs of
sickness or abnormaility on my body.
Please help.
-Very very concerned
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homerx
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Posted: 04-01-08 12:51pm
Sorry no one responded earlier to your
post. Get tested, they say you should wait
3 months and it has been 4 months now. You
can get tested anonymously. You can go to
the CDC site for symptoms but most people
have no symptoms for up to 10 years after
infection so get tested...and always
practice safe sex. Good Luck.
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Beline
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Posted: 04-15-08 06:02am
Please tell me that you didn’t have
sexual intercourse with your wife in this
time.
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Beline, Posted: 04-28-08 20:48pm
Of course, the man has had sexual contact
with his wife. Men have conjugal rights
and can claim them.
We all make mistakes. Why he was with a
sexual professional is a question that
only he can answer.
The condom broke? Well, yes it can
happen. Better question is why did he
need to be wearing a condom which broke,
why wasn't he home with his wife in the
first place?
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Beline
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Posted: 04-29-08 10:07am
Bobby, I’ve reread your post a couple of
times, and I just want to confirm if I
understand you correctly. You say
1) a man has the RIGHT to his wife’s/
partner’s body
2) even though he has/ might have
HIV/AIDS.
3) And that it might be his wife fault
that he visited a prostitute.
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Roberta777
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In Reply Posted: 04-29-08 21:46pm
In an ideal world, once we are married, in
a relationship with a partner of our
choosing, a man and a woman, or partners
who love each other, we have the right to
conjugal priviledge. It is obvious that it
doesn't always work out that way.
In reading the man's post, he indicated he
was with a professional sex-worker. Using
a condom, as he said, which broke in the
process of their encounter.
He came onto this forum to find
information which might indicate what to
look for in the event of HIV/AIDS exposure
and the symptoms to look for. As always,
Homer, our Moderator on this forum, is
always there willing to give support and
good advise.
Never, did I indicate it was his wife's
fault that he would fall victim to looking
outside his marriage for another woman.
That was his choice, and his alone.
Bobbie
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Beline
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Posted: 04-30-08 01:41am
Oh, thank Goodness!
I’ve been on the receiving end of an
unfaithful husband, and I only recently
convinced myself that it was not my
fault.
You say though that ‘Men have conjugal
rights and can claim them’.
My husband came home one night - reeking
of alcohol with his always present
‘white cold’ (he used cocaine) and
told me that he had just been with 3
prostitutes. (In South Africa one out of
four women are HIV positive.) He then
forced himself on me - a.k.a. raped me.
So I don’t agree with you in that
regard. True, it’s not a perfect world,
but I can’t fathom a person knowing that
they might have an STD and still knowingly
have sexual intercourse with somebody that
they are supposed to love.
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Roberta777
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Well, That Is Outrageous Posted: 04-30-08 15:25pm
Sorry Beline,
To be raped, is to be raped. I did not
stop to consider that when I posted my
comments.
I assumed that the guy lived with his wife
and more than likely had a conjugal
relationship with his wife.
Some men never want to stay at home and
always have to be out there chasing down a
new woman to have sex with.
Add to that alchohol and cocaine and they
don't know which side is up.
It is never your fault Beline to have a
husband betray you. In the end, it always
comes back to haunt you when you have hurt
another.
Be strong and know you are worthy of
finding true love.
Bobbie
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Posted: 04-30-08 15:52pm
Love you, Bobby. XX
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Posted: 04-30-08 16:29pm
Bobbie is GREAT...as are you, Beline.
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Just Sharing Posted: 05-01-08 19:51pm
Our hearts open us to the possibility of
letting go of these terrible things that
have happened to us.
It was not even hard to open up to Homer
and Mson and now you Beline. And, even my
priest when I felt I really got pushed
into a corner by somebody just beating me
up over trying to stand up for myself.
But, you know what? That just made me
reach out for help. I am glad. I feel
better for it. It has made me realize who
is the one here who can decide who comes
and who goes.
Thanks for your PM Beline. Going to have
dinner and will write later.
Bobbie
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Posted: 05-01-08 21:49pm
Yeah, Beline is one awesome humanitarian
and I love her...I love you all, Mson and
MA and Bobbie...your my crew, my support,
my ladies...Damn! I am one lucky guy to
have you all in my life!!!
You are precious people and you make this
a better world.
Peace,Love and Respect!
Homer
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Posted: 05-02-08 00:56am
And, yet again, it’s the gay guy that
walks away with the ladies. This world is
just not fair, is it? Lol.
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Posted: 05-02-08 08:10am
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are you people mad Posted: 07-16-08 17:50pm
the fella is asking for help to find out
if he has HIV, not to get critised. all
you people have done something in the past
yourselfs, so give the fella a break an
try to help him, this is a heath forum
after all, not the jermy kyle show.
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Beline
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Posted: 07-18-08 08:11am
You know what, Stormon31? You are
absolutely right. Who am I to judge Ash?
He probably just tripped, fell, and
accidentally stuck his *** in a prostitute
while his wife was home cooking his supper
and taking care of the kids. My apologies.
Now. Let’s help the poor darling with
the advice he needed in January.
1. There are no telltale symptoms like
rashes, fever, headaches, ingrown
toenails, or hemorrhoids.
2. He had to wait 3 months before he could
be effectively tested for HIV so he had
plenty of time to infect his wife too.
3. If you don’t want STD’s - don’t
sleep with prostitutes.
I suffer from hay fever and I have some
serious problems with my blood sugar and
guess what? I still would have preferred
my ex-husband bringing home chocolates and
flowers rather than the STD’s he got
from prostitutes.
He’s long gone and I’m still stuck
with some souvenirs he lovingly left
behind. These little darlings will
eventually make my cervix rot up with
cancer.
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Posted: 07-18-08 09:22am
a man who walks down the isle with a woman
of his choosing(aka WIFE) and then turns
around only to break that promise is NOT a
man...i'm sorry i wont bite my
tongue...this entire situation could have
been avoided and i really have no
sympathy...you CHOSE to hire a
woman..knowing SEX was her job..and sleep
with her...what did you think she'd be
squeaky clean as a virgin? NOT....I hope
for your sake(and mostly your wifes) that
you did not contract anything.... is it
the possible contraction of AIDS that
worries you most or are you just so
concerned that because of that your wife
may find out about your little adventure
and it destroy the family....men like this
really make me want to avoid marriage at
all costs
is it SO freaking hard to find a MAN that
will love and respect me as I do him and
be faithful to me..so when I'm at home
taking care of our kids and cleaning the
house I dont have to worry about who he's
out with? I mean...I know they're out
there...my dads a great guy...but I tell
ya...some of the things I hear really make
me doubt
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