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Q: Masturbation , Premature Ejaculation and Addiction.
asked by: Varka on January 18th, 2008
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Right this is a pretty big tale .
So sit tight and try not to get bored.

Ill run from before the problem occurred.

2 Years ago when i was 15 , i started going out with this girl , after 6-8 months we decided it was time we opened up a little more.
So we started becoming sexually active it built from just doing stuff with our hands , to oral sex .

She first went down on me and after about 10 seconds of it being in her mouth i exploded.
I had never felt anything like that before , so i put it down to that.
After a while it got longer and longer and i was comfortable with it .

So we moved on to sex , now i always used protection at the start , and for the first time we did it , it ended pretty well with it going on for just over 2 hours .
Sex was great and she said then she was on the pill and that she didn't want me to wear a condom as she thought it felt a bit odd.
So i didn't and sex still remained good.

Relationship split up .
And i was single for a little bit , about 5 months.

I started to masturbate alot as i have a high sex drive.
It built from once every few days to once a day everyday , and now it has built to atleast 4-6 a day , most ive done in a day is about 10.

But everytime i masturbate it lasts about 2 minutes .

I recently got a new girlfriend and we became sexually active , now she has given oral to me and it has lasted about 10-20 minutes , a decent time i would confess.
But as soon as i insert ( for want of a better word ) myself in her , after about 5 minutes i just cum.

Tried many positions and some are better than others.
But the problem is the same , PE and Addiction to masturbation.

Ive heard it is a lack of testosterone if you masturbate a lot , so i take testosterone supplements as of 2 weeks ago , haven't noticed anything apart from i can bench press 30% more at the gym where i practically spend all my time.

I hope i haven't bored you , but i would like any advice on this , i've heard about exercises you can do and creams but , I've tried the exercises and it hasn't helped and i don't really want to use cream .

Thank you for reading and thanks in advance for replies
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Georgia59
replied on January 18th, 2008
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I would NOT take testosterone supplements unless a doc says to. Hormones can do bad things in your body.

Secondly, it doesn't really seem like PE to me. Really, I think that's fairly common- maybe you're just more experienced and you know what feels good. 5 minutes is a very mild case of PE if it is one at all.

Here's what I would do- Play around and have fun during sex, do some oral and manual stimulation on your girl, maybe have her have an orgasm before you even have sex. Then, during sex, change positions a lot. If you feel like you are getting close, take a short break, stimulate her some more, do some kissing and touching, and switch to a different position. Repeat this until you're exhausted or she's exhausted and you're both satisfied, and then stay in one position until you are really done and you orgasm.

Or, go for five minutes and orgasm, then spend the next half hour on her.

Either way, you'll both be happy, and you won't have to worry about PE.

Lastly, it is not an addiction unless it is getting in the way of your life.
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Username007
replied on February 29th, 2008
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The definition of PE is ejaculating BEFORE you want to.
He has a lack of control, and he's ejaculating BEFORE he's mentally ready to. He wants to last longer and doesn't. That's PE.
See a men's health clinic for your options and discuss it with the DR. Find out what's right for you.

I agree that your masturbation "problem" isn't an addiction. If it interferes with your normal day, then yes, you have a problem.
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MiseEire
replied on March 1st, 2008
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Re: Masturbation , Premature Ejaculation and Addiction.
Varka wrote:
Ive heard it is a lack of testosterone if you masturbate a lot


Nonsense. If anything, masturbating frequently would increase testosterone levels.
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rocketman1
replied on March 1st, 2008
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during the 6-8 months that you were dating your first girlfriend how often were you masterbating?
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sharpshooter153
replied on March 14th, 2008
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Hey guys I can totally empathise with you chaps, the whole PE thing is driving me insane too. Check out my blog prematureejaculation.blog.co.uk it's a lighthearted look at the problem and solutions. Please feel free to add your comments and words of wisdom - Craig
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Dijon
replied on March 18th, 2008
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ya well masterbation is wrong and everyone has a hard time with it because of the lusts of the flesh. Jesus said that any man who even looks at a women and lusts after her has commited adultrey with her in his heart. Therefore, because all people suffer with it, because all people are the same and are sinners. You wonder why u feel bad when u do it, its because ur conscience which God gave you(its Gods law inside ur body telling you whats right and whats wrong) follow ur conscience and think of the consequences. I cannot tell you to stop it because I would be a hypocrite in doing so.

The Bible says in James 1:14"But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed. 15Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death.

Yes all humans are headed straight for hell, sorry but its a fact, and when u see people who claim to be Christian saying "masterbation is okay", they are not Christians because its clearly condemned in the Bible, and God said those people will not enter the Kingdom of God. Masterbation is fulfilling the lusts of your flesh, it makes you messed up and Ill tell u why. See Satan knows how to tempt you, after all he is the tempter of evil. First it will be masterbation, then it will be porn, then it will be rape, then it will be jail, then it will be HELL as the judgement of God. Now go bakc to James 1:15 it says that it eventually brings forth death, which is true. It will make u perverted in your mind(I know), and I bet everyone who masterbates is a pervert in the mind, no doubt. God said in the Bible in Ezekiel 18:20-23 that if any man turns from his sins and does that which is lawfull and right, his soul shall live. Now the new covanent is the circumsision in the heart by the blood of Jesus Christ and you must follow God with all your soul, heart, mind, and strength and believe upon the Gospel and be saved. Take this quote from the Bible to be insperational.

2 Corinthians 4:18 "While we look not at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen: for the things which are seen are temporal; but the things which are not seen are eternal."

Jesus will give you eternal life in the kingdom of God, what is better sin for 5 minutes and then its over? or eternal happiness in the kindom of God?
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MikeH90
replied on March 19th, 2008
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sin for 5 minutes is better because you can't PROVE enternal happiness in the kingdom of god. Show me proof he exists.
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marvel
replied on March 19th, 2008
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Dijon, please come up with something original. I've already read this in two other threads. You can't expect people to take you seriously if you're just going to cut and paste the same thing.
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xbostonx
replied on March 20th, 2008
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Stop masturbating for a couple weeks and get off sex maybe for a bit and you should be able to last longer cuz ur sensitivity should be back up
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collegegirlie
replied on March 21st, 2008
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Dijon I don't think you really believe in the bible and you should admit it to yourself. You would be much happier.
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