my ex-girlfriend and i were both each
other's firsts. we went out for almost 3
years and the relationship ended a few
months ago. i'm 20 years old now and when
i was 18, i used to give blood so i knew i
didn't have anything. my exgirlfriend and
i used to have sex and we've never used a
condom. the reason is i felt really
insecure because my penis doesn't fit into
most condoms and i've never found a condom
that was my size. so when we have sex, i
just pull out and we've never had a
problem for the entire relationship. just
a week ago, she tells me that she's had
red bumps in her vaginal area and has had
flu-like symptoms. she's went to the
doctors and the doctors say she has
genital herpes. i freaked out and checked
myself and found a single small blister on
my balls near my penis. i also have small
cold sores in the inside of my mouth and
just today, i'm getting a really bad flu.
if told the situation, it's obvious that
we both have herpes, but i don't
understand how we would get it. i've read
that it could happen through genitals
touching or something like that, but we've
never been with anybody aside from each
other. also, we've both have not had any
sexual contact with anyone else.
i went to my doctor and he gave me
paperwork to get a bloodtest. i went to
get a blood test and am awaiting results.
if the results or positive then i'll have
to accept it, but i can't accept the
reason how we got it. i trust her
completely and i think she trusts me as
well so theres no other way we could've
gotten it.
we had sex a couple of weeks ago without a
condom and the symptoms seem to be the
first symptoms of herpes as stated in many
sites on the internet. please let me know
what's going on.
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young Girl
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Posted: 01-17-08 22:14pm
you can get herpes from oral sex and
kissing
say she kissed someone with herpes
then gave you oral or kissed you, then you
could get it
same vice versa
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simplycool
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Posted: 01-17-08 22:22pm
isn't kissing someone hsv-1? and the
genital herpes on your genital areas
hsv-2.
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simplycool
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Posted: 01-17-08 22:25pm
i haven't kissed anyone for a year now
aside from her, but it seems we both have
the first symptoms and we havent kissed
anyone
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young Girl
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Posted: 01-17-08 22:33pm
ok if someone has herpes
and you give them oral
you can catch herpes
same the other way around (im pretty sure)
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simplycool
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Posted: 01-17-08 22:37pm
is it possible to get herpes if you have
open wounds and you touch someone's blood
if they're bleeding. i guess i still can't
accept why i would have the STD when ive
really only been with one girl my entire
life.
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young Girl
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Posted: 01-17-08 22:48pm
i dont think so
i dunno
you have the std
and if your 100% sure you were only with
her...maybe shes not telling the whole
truth?
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young Girl
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Posted: 01-17-08 22:48pm
i dont think so
i dunno
you have the std
and if your 100% sure you were only with
her...maybe shes not telling the whole
truth?
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simplycool
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Posted: 01-18-08 18:26pm
is it possible to get HIV through open
wound blood contact?? i'm having a huge
anxiety problem about this situation.
because of what im going through, im
starting to believe that i may be infected
with anything.
i'm sure my exgirlfriend didn't lie and
i'm not sure how this is happening, i'm
starting to believe anything is possible.
i've read that hiv through blood contact
from sharing needles is possible. but what
are the chances of that?
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braizzle
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Posted: 01-21-08 12:21pm
HIV and Herpes are completely different.
Herpes isnt really transferred by blood,
it's more of a skin contact transmission.
HSV-1 vs HSV-2... they are basically
interchangeable. you can get either one on
the mouth or on the genitals. MANY MANY
people have HSV-1 on their face. Many
people get it in childhood, cold sores,
anyone? it's easily passed around, and
not really something to get freaked out
about. and chances are good that if she
gave it to you, she didnt know she had it,
or that that's what it was.
Now HIV on the other hand is completely
different. If you got that, it would be
life altering. but based on the fact that
you were each other's firsts, it pretty
much rules that out.
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Rosie H
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Posted: 01-21-08 13:41pm
If one of you had a cold sore in or on
your mouth and performed oral sex then you
could have given each other GENITAL
HERPES.
None of you didnt have to cheat on each
other. Maybe she or you had a blister and
didnt realize it was anything big and
without knowing any better transferred it
to each other. Please do not panic. its
really unnecessary. You could have
touched a surface that had the virus and
then when pee and touched your penis. Bam
you have herpes
or kissed someone that had a
sore....family member or sibling....then
kissed your GF and she performed oral
sex.
Or maybe from a toilet???? There are many
ways to get herpes, but you cannot get it
from blood. I have donated blood and I
told them I had herpes, they said that as
long as there is no active outbrealk then
I could not tranfer it.
So maybe you got some bad blood from a
person that wasnt completely honest?
