Hello all. If I were smarter, I'd go see
my doctor about this problem I face but I
do not have health insurance to pay for
the visit. Every day of my life since I
was only 15 years old I've learned the way
to masterbate and to me it seems totally
cool except the one main thing that I have
difficulty with is when I'm making love to
the point were you have the urge to pull
out and release your ejaculate (sperm).
That is my problem and since I masterbate
everyday maybe twice a day I feel as
though the only way for me to orgasm is
with my own hand.
Is there anyone out there that can give me
some honest helpful hints on how I can
stop masterbating so much? I'm single and
the only way for me to unleash the urge of
my hornyness is to masterbate!
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Georgia59
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Posted: 01-16-08 15:16pm
How old are you, and how long have you
been having sex?
and what exactly happens? You are too
nervous to ejaculate, you can't keep an
erection long enough to orgasm... what?
And why do you feel you need to pull out
to orgasm? Most men orgasm while they're
thrusting....
Can you orgasm from oral or manual
stimulation?
Sorry for so many questions
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Bsewal01
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Georgia59 Posted: 01-17-08 06:57am
My age is 27 years old, DOB
04/01/1980.... Had intercourse when I was
15 years old and that has declined since
the year 1999. Sad huh? When I'm talking
about pulling out, I mean during my
incoming orgasm I need to take the condom
off to releave myself with my hand.
Thanks for responding! Let me know your
info if you know what I'm going
through...
Barry
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Georgia59
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Posted: 01-17-08 10:09am
What happens if you keep going with
intercourse instead of pulling out? I
mean, why do you feel the need to do that?
The reason I'm asking is I suspect that it
has nothing to do with your masturbation
habits- or if it does have something to do
with masturbation, it's a mental thing
that you're more comfortable having an
orgasm from your hand than intercourse.
The reason I think that is I've read
numerous medical sources saying that
masturbation does not lead to sex
problems, ed, pe, or anorgasms.
So, since you're single now, I'd say go
for it and continue masturbating. When you
have a sexual partner, there are a few
things you could try, you could try and
just force yourself to keep thrusting when
you feel like you're getting close instead
of pulling out and using your hands. Or,
maybe an intermediate step would be for
her to use her hands and finish you off?
Do you think that would work?
Or just embrace it and do it how it feels
good- if you're paying attention to the
needs of the girl then she won't mind.
Let me know what you think-
Danielle
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Georgia59
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Posted: 01-17-08 10:12am
One other question- do you masturbate
laying on your stomach? (Like, rubbing
against a bed)
because if you do, I have an article for
you...
but it didn't really sound like that's the
case.
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Bsewal01
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Georgia59 Posted: 01-17-08 15:48pm
Thank you for responding~!! Your second
question U asked is exactly what I do....
For some reason I cannot perform
masterbation any other way!?!? Is this a
big problem?
Before your second question you stated
"Mental habit" of using my hand. To me
using my hand even if I do have a partner
seems like I feel good when I orgasm when
I'm masterbating~!! Many of my past
girlfriends have broken up with me since I
cannot Ejaculate with them. Either its
because they feel useless or whatever the
cause may be. It makes me feel worthless
myself, so I am worried that when I'm
older I won't be able to impregnate my
life time partner.
P/S= If you think that laying on my stomac
while masterbating is wrong then I'd love
to know why its a problem with my personal
sex life....
Thanks again, and hope to read your next
responce.
Barry
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Georgia59
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Posted: 01-17-08 16:27pm
Hey! I don't have any problems with how
you masturbate lol, but I know that some
men have issues if they masturbate by
laying on their stomach. Check this out-
Read it over and see if you think it's you
and if it will help.
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Georgia59
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Posted: 01-17-08 16:29pm
I'm sorry girls have broken up with you
over this, that's lame! But hopefully this
article will help you.
Traumatic Masturbatory Syndrome is not
very well researched or even accepted, but
it sounds like what you're experiencing so
it's worth a shot.
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Bsewal01
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Georgia59 Posted: 01-17-08 19:00pm
Just wanted to THANK YOU so very much for
adding this link to your reply~!! Now I
guess I understand why I've been so
unsuccessful with the close women in my
life. Thank goodness I searched for the
eHealth forum....
Do you suggest that I should see my
personal Doctor or a Psychologist about
this matter since I actually believe that
I do have TMS~?
Please inform me if you could....
Barry
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Georgia59
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Posted: 01-18-08 11:20am
well, the thing is that some doctors
believe it exists and some don't. So if
you see your doc, they may not know about
it or be willing to talk about it. But
yes, seeing your doc is always a good
thing!
You could try google TMS and see if there
are ways other people have learned to
enjoy sex more. From what I read in that
article, it starts with learning how to
masturbate differently.
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Jasmine86
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Posted: 01-19-08 01:55am
Wow...I was just wondering if it's
possible for girls to suffer from
Traumatic Masturbatory Syndrome. Because
when I was younger I thought it felt good
to rub against poles (I know this sounds
strange...) and now when I masturbate,
usually to orgasm or get close to an
orgasm I have to be either on my stomach
or rubbing against something... Is it
possible that this could be a result of
the same syndrome?
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Georgia59
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Posted: 01-21-08 11:44am
I honestly have no idea. Very little
research has been done on it.
But here's my personal opinion-
when girls are young, most girls
masturbate by rubbing on things- that is a
really normal behavior.
also, many women have a hard time
orgasming through masturbation and it
takes a long time to learn ways to do it
successfully. But if you think that might
be it, take a look at the article and try
and learn a new way to masturbate.
Do you have a vibrator? If not, I'd
suggest getting one, lol, you might find
that you solve your problem very quickly.
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Jasmine86
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Posted: 01-21-08 15:36pm
Okay, thank you. I just thought that maybe
since I had been doing it like that for so
long I might have damaged something!