only 10% of women can vaginally orgasm

this is completely normal whats happening to you. most women have to get off by clitoral stimulation

Yeah, I'm talking about clitorally. I really, really enjoy intercourse with him, but I'm not looking for an orgasm with that. I love having sex with him because I know how much he enjoys it.

I just wish that I could get the clitoral orgasm... not even for me, haha, for him. He works so hard at it.

Instead of having your bf do all those things to you, YOU should do them, even during sex! I don't know if you've tried that yet. It sounds like you've tried teaching your techniques to him and he's just not getting it. I know sex has a lot of other sensations going on, so that's why maybe it needs to be YOU focusing on your clitoris.

You probably aren't getting off because you are scared or thinking about it too much. When Mike used to go down on me like a year and a half ago I would have the hardest time getting off. I was scared of what he was thinking about how I looked, how I was acting, how he was dong, etcetc. As time went on, I learned to calm down and clear my mind and voila! I could get off by him! Try relaxing and completely calming your mind. Also what helped me is focusing on exactly what he is doing. For example, if it was oral, I would try to picture in my mind what his tongue looked like while it was doing its thing, where it was hitting, etc. When I stopped worrying about not getting off, it started to happen.

Another thing that helps is if you start yourself. Maybe get yourself worked up and then have him take over?

Sounds like you just need to relax and stop trying so hard. See, now you're worried that he'll be offended if you don't get off - so that's probably one of the main reasons you can't cum with him.

Lay your body down flat on top of him and grind... and while you're doing that think about something that reeeally turns you on. Or instead of just thinking about it, involve him in your thoughts by talking dirty. Whatever makes you hot - even if it's something you'd never actually do in real life. Just talking about it can get your mind off of *trying* to cum, and work up an actual climax.

^^ That's along the lines of what I was going to say. Your biggest erogenous zone is your brain!!
Get some lube and play the game"Whatever you do, don't come". Make a game out of being relaxed and still. Make sure you are not 'clenched' down there (like doing a Kegal) try clenching those muscles to make sure you are not tighening up. I know personally I always orgasm (during oral) if I focus on feeling 'open' and relaxed.
Maybe come up with fantasy play you can do together, and think about what turns you on.

What I've done recently during masturbation is to make the right-before tingling sensation last as long as possible, since I almost enjoy that more than the orgasm itself. I do this by slowly moving my fingers farther up the clitoral shat until I'm sometimes just rubbing on the pubic mons, and orgasm because the stimulation is just so much that it's inevitable.

I've also started trying other times to keep my lower stomach relaxed. For some women, pressure right above the pubic bone can increase pleasure and that may be the case for me. It's hard to keep that area relaxed during masturbation!!