mom has lupus and extreme depression Posted: 01-12-08 11:47am
Hello-Need some advice. Mom has been
diagnosed with Lupus for some time now.
She suffers from extreme depression, and
is in a low spot at this time. She is
prescribed Wellbutrin and several other
medications, yet has an issue with taking
them consistently. How can I help her with
depression? I love her unconditionally,
but sometimes find myself frustrated with
her....I want her to be happy, at least
sometimes!!!!! Anyone have any
suggestions?
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tloves
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Posted: 01-24-08 01:01am
As someone living with this desease I know
what she feels like, its like you are
limited to the things you want to do cause
your body doesnt want to do them. I find
myself like that from time to time and
what helps me is family and friends, they
keep me on my toes, and sometimes give
tough love when I start to "act up", I cry
but I bounce back cause I know what they
are saying is true. Alot of people have it
much worst. I dont know if it is much you
can do to help your mom, she has to
realize that she is not dead and she is
still alive and everyday that she wakes up
is an opportunty to be happy.
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jacqpot
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Joined: 23 Apr 2008 Posts: 2
mom has lupus Posted: 04-24-08 15:43pm
I know what your mom is going through,
because i have suffered with depression
for many years too. Funnily enough it was
my own mother who first recognized my
depression....she said i didn't cry at all
when i was a baby but now that i'm an
adult i can't stop! That was at least 10
years ago and i started taking
anti-depressants, however my husband was
not as supoortive and made me feel
embarrased and weak for being on
medication, so i eventually stopped. The
depression got much, much worse to the
point of suicidal and the doctor had to
have a serious talk with my husband to
educate him on the disease. I have been
taking my happy pills since then, and
enjoying life.
I don't know your mom's age but i suspect
she may feel a sense of shame or
embarrasment for being on medication. If
she has friends who know about her
depression it may be a good idea to try
and enlist their help in encouraging her
to take her meds. It will seem like a
total waste of effort to her for a few
weeks, but if she persists you can promise
her that she will see herself and her life
from an entirely new perspective. She
will become more confident, less isolated,
more willing to "join in" and participate
in life....like a huge dark weight has
been lifted. With continued love,
patience and determination from you and
her friends she'll get to the point where
she will want to take the meds, because
she'll look back and realize how terrible
depression can be.
