You sound like me 5 months ago. Realize if you want to quit, it is possible. Do you feel ashamed that you drink so much? Has your partner said anything about your drinking? Look at the reality of your situation, assess it and know that there are good people on this board who can help you by giving you support. It helped me and I've been sober almost 5 months. Good Luck.

Yes I do feel ashamed by my drinking, I hate it and my mood changes and I find it hard to remember things the next day, wich I hate!!
My husband has spoken to me about it and he is a very supportive person but at the moment he is helping me stop smoking then we want to battle the drinking but Im not sure how to go about it, what has helped you stop?

You ca'nt stop drinking or you don't want to stop drinking? Now that is the question. Start with getting the heck out of deniel and face the fact you have a problem. Good way to start ya know.

A.A. Alcoholics Anonymous helped me to stop drinking.

the first step is noticing you need help.
the hardest step is getting up and going to get some help.

just think about it like this:
your not only effecting yourself but the ones you love.
so be strong and do it for them

and dont be afraid because your not alone
goodluck

And just remember. We are behind you all the way. Always feel you have somewhere to come for support. It is so very iimportant. Let us know when you are ready to hit this thing head on and we are there for you. Like Yogahoneybunny said, AA helps alot. My uncle went to AA and got sober and a year later got killed by a drunk driver head on. Now you see why I have a very special hard core place in my heart for the subject. My mom was also an alcholic and has been sober for 14 yeares now.

Carrie

Thanks for your support guys, its good to know that I have people to help me through this. I will defently find out where there is a AA in my area and I will let you know how I go.
Thanks again

What helped me quit was knowing that there were other people out there like me and they had quit. It was hard, but they did it. I learned about that from AA. I'm not religious and I was looking for a base or a starting point to build up my life. I wanted nothing more than to quit drinking. I gave up my old job and my husband became my rock. I was lost. I thought about suicide because I hated drinking and I hated the situation I was in. I couldn't see a way out so I kept on drinking because I thought it couldn't get worse. But it could worse. I could have gotten a DUI, I could have lost my family, I could have ended up in jail or dead for alcohol poisoning. I was in such a pit of despair and hopelessness. there was nothing else for me to do except stop and get my life back. AA was ok. it's not for everyone. BUT IT IS A START. I don't attend meetings anymore because of my own beliefs and the people in the group were really stuck in their past. I believe that the past is part of who you are and so is being an alcoholic, but it doesn't define the nature of my whole being. I am in charge and responsible for my life. So, I found a new job that pays less than 1/2 of what I was getting, I went back to school and I keep my mind busy. In my early days of withdrawal, I read alot of books on the disease, how it effected the people around me and what I could expect in recovery. When I drank, I was an overachiever, I compensated for my drinking by working extra hard at my school work and place of employment. Anyway, It's tough at first, but each day I am farther away from alcohol, the better my life is becoming. I honestly feel more free and not such a slave to the drink. It helps to have the immediate support in the house 24 hours a day from your husband. If you are resolved in your heart and mind to quit, you can do it.
good luck.

Hi
I've never posted on a website before. I have a serious problem with alcohol which is getting so bad I need to stop altogether. I binge drink and make phone cals and then cant remember what I've said the next morning. I drink out of habit and have been a heavy drinker for over 20 years now. I can go without for about three days then I cant get it out of my mind, it pops into my head all day long to get a bottle of wine which I can drink easily in an hour then I want more so I start another bottle. My husband doesn't understand why I need a drink so bad as he has no problem having a couple of glasses then he puts the cork in. I often wait till he has dozed off then sneak his bottle of wine and fill it back with blackcurrant juice so he doesn't know so I can replace it the next day. I just don't know why I cant be normal like most people. I don't know how I can get past the first week and then the rest of my life without wine.

Well this is a good place to start. Look through past posts and see if you can relate to what anyone is saying. Read replies and suggestions and really start to look at yourself. Are you hating the drinking or does it still give you a thrill? Have you gotten to the point where your husband is so angry at you for drinking and other people have made comments about it? I was is love with alcohol. I loved it, couldn't get enough of it and what ever was in the house was MINE, only mine and I hid it. In many stupid places. I used to think I was being sneaky, or getting one over on my husband. But he'd know. And then I'd feel like a jerk and go through a couple of days of remorse and not drink. Then I'd get that feeling of wanting the wine, or the whiskey or the vodka, then anything. I'd drink for days straight, then I got to the point that I didn't care if my husband or kids saw me drinking. But eventually, I couldn't live my life life that. The thrill was gone and I knew I had to quit drinking or I would end up killing myself and destroying my family. Alcohol just plain sucks. I hated that part of my life. I've been sober 5 months, I haven't had the desire to drink. The first couple of weeks I really really wanted to drink. I knew I couldn't, I went to AA. I heard the stories of recovery and I gained the hope that I could do this. While I don't believe in all of AA's philosophies, I have to say it really is pretty basic. Realize you have a problem, DON'T pick up that first drink, and then start to change your life. I quit my job. I make considerably less money and we struggle but it's worth the change. I keep myself busy reading and learning. Every person has it within themselves to quit drinking. They just have to find it. Good Luck. And post if you ever want to vent. I went through a period of self loathing for a while...sometimes it pops up, but I have a great support system. Talk to your husband candidly. If he won't listen and you think you really have a problem, make him, show him, don't hide it. Tell him what's been going on. I felt a HUGE weight lifted when I blurted everything out to mine. He was responsive and helpful and I couldn't have done any of this without him.