I have a real problem with alchole I drink
alot and I drink most of the day I can
start as early as 11am . I drink wine
mostly and go through a 5ltr cast every 2
days. I also drink my partners beer and
spirits!! I love the relaxed feeling it
gives me and it makes me feel happy but
sometime i end up in a bad state.
I can drink alot as ive built up a
tollerance but its not good because I cant
go a day with out it and when I tried
before I had bad side affects what do I do
, does anyone have the same problem but is
scared?
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PghMom
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Aug 2007 Posts: 36 Location: Pittsburgh, PA
That Was Me Posted: 01-14-08 07:21am
You sound like me 5 months ago. Realize if
you want to quit, it is possible. Do you
feel ashamed that you drink so much? Has
your partner said anything about your
drinking? Look at the reality of your
situation, assess it and know that there
are good people on this board who can help
you by giving you support. It helped me
and I've been sober almost 5 months. Good
Luck.
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littlesskitty
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Joined: 09 Jan 2008 Posts: 17 Location: ,
Posted: 01-14-08 19:03pm
Yes I do feel ashamed by my drinking, I
hate it and my mood changes and I find it
hard to remember things the next day, wich
I hate!!
My husband has spoken to me about it and
he is a very supportive person but at the
moment he is helping me stop smoking then
we want to battle the drinking but Im not
sure how to go about it, what has helped
you stop?
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CarolDiane
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Posted: 01-15-08 08:05am
You ca'nt stop drinking or you don't want
to stop drinking? Now that is the
question. Start with getting the heck out
of deniel and face the fact you have a
problem. Good way to start ya know.
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yogahoneybunny
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Posted: 01-15-08 08:25am
A.A. Alcoholics Anonymous helped me to
stop drinking.
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gingerelizabeth
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Joined: 03 Jan 2008 Posts: 79
Posted: 01-15-08 08:47am
the first step is noticing you need help.
the hardest step is getting up and going
to get some help.
just think about it like this:
your not only effecting yourself but the
ones you love.
so be strong and do it for them
and dont be afraid because your not alone
goodluck
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CarolDiane
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Posted: 01-15-08 09:05am
And just remember. We are behind you all
the way. Always feel you have somewhere to
come for support. It is so very
iimportant. Let us know when you are ready
to hit this thing head on and we are there
for you. Like Yogahoneybunny said, AA
helps alot. My uncle went to AA and got
sober and a year later got killed by a
drunk driver head on. Now you see why I
have a very special hard core place in my
heart for the subject. My mom was also an
alcholic and has been sober for 14 yeares
now.
Carrie
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littlesskitty
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Jan 2008 Posts: 17 Location: ,
Posted: 01-15-08 16:58pm
Thanks for your support guys, its good to
know that I have people to help me through
this. I will defently find out where there
is a AA in my area and I will let you know
how I go.
Thanks again
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PghMom
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Aug 2007 Posts: 36 Location: Pittsburgh, PA
what helped me quit Posted: 01-18-08 19:24pm
What helped me quit was knowing that there
were other people out there like me and
they had quit. It was hard, but they did
it. I learned about that from AA. I'm not
religious and I was looking for a base or
a starting point to build up my life. I
wanted nothing more than to quit drinking.
I gave up my old job and my husband became
my rock. I was lost. I thought about
suicide because I hated drinking and I
hated the situation I was in. I couldn't
see a way out so I kept on drinking
because I thought it couldn't get worse.
But it could worse. I could have gotten a
DUI, I could have lost my family, I could
have ended up in jail or dead for alcohol
poisoning. I was in such a pit of despair
and hopelessness. there was nothing else
for me to do except stop and get my life
back. AA was ok. it's not for everyone.
BUT IT IS A START. I don't attend meetings
anymore because of my own beliefs and the
people in the group were really stuck in
their past. I believe that the past is
part of who you are and so is being an
alcoholic, but it doesn't define the
nature of my whole being. I am in charge
and responsible for my life. So, I found a
new job that pays less than 1/2 of what I
was getting, I went back to school and I
keep my mind busy. In my early days of
withdrawal, I read alot of books on the
disease, how it effected the people around
me and what I could expect in recovery.
When I drank, I was an overachiever, I
compensated for my drinking by working
extra hard at my school work and place of
employment. Anyway, It's tough at first,
but each day I am farther away from
alcohol, the better my life is becoming. I
honestly feel more free and not such a
slave to the drink. It helps to have the
immediate support in the house 24 hours a
day from your husband. If you are resolved
in your heart and mind to quit, you can do
it.
good luck.
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marshmaiden
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Jan 2008 Posts: 1
Posted: 01-26-08 10:52am
Hi
I've never posted on a website before. I
have a serious problem with alcohol which
is getting so bad I need to stop
altogether. I binge drink and make phone
cals and then cant remember what I've said
the next morning. I drink out of habit and
have been a heavy drinker for over 20
years now. I can go without for about
three days then I cant get it out of my
mind, it pops into my head all day long to
get a bottle of wine which I can drink
easily in an hour then I want more so I
start another bottle. My husband doesn't
understand why I need a drink so bad as he
has no problem having a couple of glasses
then he puts the cork in. I often wait
till he has dozed off then sneak his
bottle of wine and fill it back with
blackcurrant juice so he doesn't know so I
can replace it the next day. I just don't
know why I cant be normal like most
people. I don't know how I can get past
the first week and then the rest of my
life without wine.
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PghMom
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Aug 2007 Posts: 36 Location: Pittsburgh, PA
MARSHMAIDEN Posted: 01-27-08 08:07am
Well this is a good place to start. Look
through past posts and see if you can
relate to what anyone is saying. Read
replies and suggestions and really start
to look at yourself. Are you hating the
drinking or does it still give you a
thrill? Have you gotten to the point where
your husband is so angry at you for
drinking and other people have made
comments about it? I was is love with
alcohol. I loved it, couldn't get enough
of it and what ever was in the house was
MINE, only mine and I hid it. In many
stupid places. I used to think I was being
sneaky, or getting one over on my husband.
But he'd know. And then I'd feel like a
jerk and go through a couple of days of
remorse and not drink. Then I'd get that
feeling of wanting the wine, or the
whiskey or the vodka, then anything. I'd
drink for days straight, then I got to the
point that I didn't care if my husband or
kids saw me drinking. But eventually, I
couldn't live my life life that. The
thrill was gone and I knew I had to quit
drinking or I would end up killing myself
and destroying my family. Alcohol just
plain sucks. I hated that part of my life.
I've been sober 5 months, I haven't had
the desire to drink. The first couple of
weeks I really really wanted to drink. I
knew I couldn't, I went to AA. I heard the
stories of recovery and I gained the hope
that I could do this. While I don't
believe in all of AA's philosophies, I
have to say it really is pretty basic.
Realize you have a problem, DON'T pick up
that first drink, and then start to change
your life. I quit my job. I make
considerably less money and we struggle
but it's worth the change. I keep myself
busy reading and learning. Every person
has it within themselves to quit drinking.
They just have to find it. Good Luck. And
post if you ever want to vent. I went
through a period of self loathing for a
while...sometimes it pops up, but I have a
great support system. Talk to your
husband candidly. If he won't listen and
you think you really have a problem, make
him, show him, don't hide it. Tell him
what's been going on. I felt a HUGE weight
lifted when I blurted everything out to
mine. He was responsive and helpful and I
couldn't have done any of this without
him.