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Q: Recent Misscarriage

asked by: mc_88 on January 11th, 2008

New User

i found out on thursday that i have had a misscarriage.

i didn't know i was pregnant and then i had an operation at the start of december 07 because i had gorestones. i had been bleeding since. one night i went to emergency because it felt like i was in labour and i had what i thought was a blood clot but later realising it was my baby. the doctor told me to go home cos he didn't know why i was bleeding. i went to my doctor again a week and a half ago because i was still bleeding and having clots come out. he sent me for an ultrasound which showed that i have a syst in my left ovary. i returned to the doctors on thursday and he said all of this connects to a misscarriage. Crying or Very sad

my partner dosn't know why i am so upset about it. i told him it's my fault. if only i didn't have the operation everything would be fine. i already have a 9 month old son who is fantastic. i love being a mum i just wish that my other baby had a chance.

Replies(8)

Shanyan

replied on January 12th, 2008

Extremely eHealthy

I too suffered a m/c in July 07. When I was 16wks I went for a routine ultrasound and found out that the baby had died around 9.5wks. I was devastated:( Please know that this is not your fault....you just didn't know. You can't blame yourself. You have every right to be upset....sometimes men just don't understand that.

I am so sorry for your loss Sad

mominashoe

replied on January 12th, 2008

Moderator

Shame on him not to understand why you are upset. He should be very comforting and supportive of you right now. I know it's hard, but if you didn't know you were pregnant, there is no way you could have prevented something like this from happening. Consider that it may even have happened without the surgery.

I am so sorry you have this loss.

mc_88

replied on January 15th, 2008

New User

Thanks

thank you for your support. it is very much appreciated.

xelliexgeorgiax

replied on July 4th, 2008

New User

I too have just had a miscarriage. On Tuesday. It was jus 10 weeks old. My precious beautiful baby girl called Anna-May. I know what you have been through and lets just hope the pain gets better.

sueb21

replied on August 5th, 2008

New User

I had one too

I had a miscarriage 2 weeks ago. I wasn't even aware that I was pregnant. It still hurts though & i can't help but feel like its my fault. i was drinking & smoking & since I had just lost my job i was stressed out. Plus I lay awake at night crying cuz even though i wasn't aware of my miracle i still want it back more than anything in the world. & to top it off i told my angels dad & he won't even respond or anything. In my opinion he is handling this wrong & I was wondering if i should talk to him. Really he should have called to at least check on me don't you think? Am I being unreasonable?

Sarah12892

replied on August 5th, 2008

Supporter

I am very sorry! Guys tend not to understand. I am sorry about that too.

molly moo

replied on August 31st, 2008

New User

hello i have just had a miscarrage so i no exactly how you feel it has been a couple of wks for me i still cry but not a much and time is healing it is heartbreaking but you are not on your own chick and there is help out there for you i have found this site comforting and it all happenes for a reason but what i do not know! all i know from reading other peoples sad news is that our little angels just wernt strong enough it is devistating but as they say time is a great healer as for the fellas they dont show their emotiones like we do but i think youll find he is hurting but the have the matchio image to maintain if i can help you any way just send me a message any time chick

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sueb21

replied on September 2nd, 2008

New User

thanks for being so sweet guys. Ummm its been over a month since the miscarriage & I'm doing a lot better. I did have to quit my job because of the loss. I was a maid & cleaning a lot of baby rooms & couldn't handle it. My babies dad still is ignoring the fact that we have lost a baby. It irritates like me no other cuz he didn't even call or check in on me after it happened. Even though we are no longer together I expected him to be there for me. In the end though I found out that i have amazing friends. i do have one question though. part of me wants to talk to my babies dad & see if he isn't speaking to me because he blames me ? plus there are other issues at hand. But would this be wise?

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